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MNHQ here - should we support the campaign to end ‘rough sex’ defences?

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JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 04-Jun-20 12:21:30


As lots of you will already know because their campaign originated on Mumsnet, the group We Can’t Consent To This has been running a campaign to end ‘rough sex’ defences - and we’d like to know what you think about MNHQ signing up as a supporter of their

Their aim is to end a situation in which defendants can claim that the death of or injury to a woman was caused by ‘consensual sex games gone wrong’.

They say:

‘We’ve now found 60 UK women who’ve been killed by men who claim a sex game gone wrong - and in the last 5 years the defence was successful in 7 of the 17 killings of a woman which reached trial, with the man being found not guilty or receiving a manslaughter conviction. We've found many more women injured in what the accused men claim was consensual sexual violence.
Yet more women tell us it’s now commonplace to be assaulted and abused by men they’re dating, with 38% of UK women under 40 reporting being assaulted - choked, slapped, gagged or spat on - in otherwise consensual sex. That equates to 3.6 million women under 40 in the UK who have experienced unbidden violence in sex - and we know that women over 40 experience this too.
We do not believe that women can consent to their grievous injury or death, and will campaign until claiming this is no longer a useful defence.’
We Can’t Consent To This is currently lobbying to tackle these ‘rough sex defences’ by adding amendements to the Domestic Abuse Bill that is going through Parliament, meaning that now is the time to get writing to MPs to encourage them to support the changes.

We'd love to get behind this campaign but as ever we said we’d ask you what you thought - so please let us know by adding your thoughts here or voting YANBU for ‘Yes please I’d like Mumsnet to support this campaign’ and YABU for ‘No, I don’t think Mumsnet should support this campaign’. (Apologies for using the AIBU metric for this but it’s the best way we have at the moment to get a snapshot survey of people who’ve read the OP.)

Big thanks

OP’s posts: |
Prawnofthepatriarchy Thu 04-Jun-20 12:22:48

Brilliant idea. I'd be right behind it.

BornOnThe4thJuly Thu 04-Jun-20 12:24:34

Yes definitely, please do!

Shadow01 Thu 04-Jun-20 12:25:20

Please do.

MonsteraCheeseplant Thu 04-Jun-20 12:26:21

Emphatically yes

MarkRuffaloCrumble Thu 04-Jun-20 12:26:32

I can’t imagine why anyone would NOT want MN to support this campaign. Thanks MNHQ

StealthPolarBear Thu 04-Jun-20 12:26:52

Yes please

PetraDelphiki Thu 04-Jun-20 12:27:00

Well duh! Of course you should!

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal Thu 04-Jun-20 12:27:34

Absolutely yes.

NoobTree Thu 04-Jun-20 12:27:41

Absolutely. 100% behind this.

MadCap Thu 04-Jun-20 12:27:43

Yes please

Bobbybobbins Thu 04-Jun-20 12:27:46


Antibles Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:17

Yes, please do!

DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:23


RedDogsBeg Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:26

Yes MN should back this campaign.

ACNH2020 Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:32


Spacepocket Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:34

Abdolutely yes.

jay55 Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:36

Yes. Please support this campaign.
We cannot consent to this.

TazSyd Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:43

Absolutely behind this.

Bellevu Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:52


SpongeBobJudgeyPants Thu 04-Jun-20 12:28:53


RightOnTheEdge Thu 04-Jun-20 12:29:07

Absolutely yes!

NameChange84 Thu 04-Jun-20 12:29:46

Please, please do.

Clymene Thu 04-Jun-20 12:29:49

Absolutely behind this - thank you

ChazsBrilliantAttitude Thu 04-Jun-20 12:29:59

Yes please

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