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Colleague filling me with dread

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memepo · 12/03/2024 21:26

I work in a small team. There's always been friction with one woman (she talks behind people's backs, is generally not trustworthy and shares her rather extreme opinions loudly).

She is older than me but less experienced. I was brought in to make some changes, which has clearly ruffled her feathers. It's been 8 months since I joined.

Anyway for a few weeks things have been brewing. I've tried to distance myself but remain professional. I'm engaging in a lot less chit-chat, focusing on getting the job done. I also have been taking myself out for lunch to avoid any conversations.

Last week she came up to me, guns blazing, demanding that I explain what makes her think I am so much better than her that I don't even have to speak to her now.

I went immediately to my line manager who had a meeting with us both to mediate. I don't trust this woman and I came home to 3 texts from her asking what makes me think I have the right to instigate a meeting and 'tell on her'.

I haven't responded to the texts and intend on telling my line manager tomorrow. I feel like this is only going to get worse and I'm feeling a sense of dread in going into work in the morning.

I don't really know what the purpose of this post is, I just need somewhere to offload!

OP posts:
Stratos72 · 18/03/2024 16:00

I agree with the majority of posts on here. Let her rant and rave, don't react, don't let her push your buttons. Taylor Swift said it best: "I've learned there's no point actively trying to 'defeat' your enemies. Trash takes itself out every single time." :)

HelplessSoul · 18/03/2024 16:46

Heidi75 · 18/03/2024 13:37

The police are not going to come out because someone has had 3 or 4 stroppy texts, it would have to be a lot more than that and more than on 1 day

Suggest you read the thread entirely and see the salient comment by @Spencer0220

Coldupnorth7 · 18/03/2024 19:03

Op, how are you doing?

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