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Would you want your child to be taught by someone who looked like this?

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grannyjacob · 16/09/2022 15:24

How can this be allowed?

twitter.com/ripx4nutmeg/status/1570750665680621568?s=21&t=lHOFZ9inVPAhUFVaCRJBXg

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IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 11:28

Are those bewbs hollow? They have to be lighter than real breasts that size would be. Do you think he uses them for storage? They must get sweaty underneath. I hope he cleans and dries them, they're going to stink and get mildewed otherwise.

TheClogLady · 21/09/2022 11:31

Shame they aren’t a bit cheaper, we could’ve had a set each, worn them to Stonewall/Mermaids training!

www.amazon.co.uk/Joyfitness-Breastplate-Transgender-Transvestites-Crossdresser/dp/B093GTXSVH

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 11:45

Bollocks, I hate to think what amazon are going to suggest for me now!

TheClogLady · 21/09/2022 11:56

Silicone bollocks, probably 🙈

Datun · 21/09/2022 11:57

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 11:20

It's something I struggle with, I listened to a podcast with the transwidows mumsnetter, who talked about this in a slightly different context. Most of the middle aged tw leave behind a damaged wife and children. Talking about a 'good' one is like talking about a 'good' wife beater, or something like that. There's another tw teacher, who's more socially acceptable and who has been a gc ally. But is their conduct really any more acceptable? Or just transgresses enough but not too much?

However, I don't want to be absolutist, i think there are many areas of human behaviour that transgress social mores but are accepted so long as they don't go too far, though you couldn't demonstrate where 'too far' is on a map. Even if I couldn't articulate a hole proof argument to delineate a boundary this Canadian teacher clearly is over it.

Yeah, to me, the transgression doesn't change, depending on the level of awareness of those it's aimed at.

In fact, as a previous poster has said, the unconsenting part is often part of the thrill. with boundaries being pushed ever further, in order to keep transgressing without consequences.

Obviously this teacher in Canada has gone the whole hog. But I think, anywhere else, it would be the end of that particular person's transgressing.

There must be a fine line to be trodden where you can transgress, and make people uncomfortable, without them actually managing to stop you because you've gone too far.

Soubriquet · 21/09/2022 12:05

Sorry MNHQ, but this is 100% a fetish.

No real woman would want boobs that big. I mean they are literally down to his knees.

A woman would find the biggest bra possible to hook them bosoms up to a decent level and then drown herself in clothes to cover the nipples.

Why are we entertaining a man doing this with children present?!

ArabellaScott · 21/09/2022 12:22

TheClogLady · 21/09/2022 11:56

Silicone bollocks, probably 🙈

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ArabellaScott · 21/09/2022 12:26

In fact, as a previous poster has said, the unconsenting part is often part of the thrill. with boundaries being pushed ever further, in order to keep transgressing without consequences.

I think the 'consequences' are often part of it too, tbh. From what I understand, paraphilias tend to escalate.

www.medicinenet.com/paraphilia/article.htm

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 12:28

Made me remember this:

Would you want your child to be taught by someone who looked like this?
OldCrone · 21/09/2022 12:29

From what I understand, paraphilias tend to escalate.

That's presumably what's behind transvestites becoming transsexuals. First it's just clothing, then the body itself is modified.

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 21/09/2022 12:30

Hi @TheKeatingFive just to clarify - we removed your post for generalising, which breaks our guidelines. Thanks.

Datun · 21/09/2022 12:33

ArabellaScott · 21/09/2022 12:26

In fact, as a previous poster has said, the unconsenting part is often part of the thrill. with boundaries being pushed ever further, in order to keep transgressing without consequences.

I think the 'consequences' are often part of it too, tbh. From what I understand, paraphilias tend to escalate.

www.medicinenet.com/paraphilia/article.htm

Yes, when I said consequences I really meant consequences that then prevented the paraphilia from being carried out. Like firing the teacher.

I still wonder whether or not this man is trolling for a payout, though. Apparently there was no hint of this before he came back to school after the holidays.

TheKeatingFive · 21/09/2022 12:38

Hi @TheKeatingFive just to clarify - we removed your post for generalising, which breaks our guidelines. Thanks.

Well it's an important point though, isn't it?

If this example clearly indicates paraphilia, what size/shape doesn't? Where is that line and how do we justify supporting it? I see Kayla's situation as challenging assumptions in all kinds of ways that go beyond one individual.

TheClogLady · 21/09/2022 12:41

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 12:28

Made me remember this:

For pities sake don’t give Kayla any ideas!

MangyInseam · 21/09/2022 12:43

Part of the problem may be that the people defending this are simply unable to put "trans" and "fetish" together in their minds.

To some extent I think women can be more prone to this, because if you lack imagination, which is common, and haven't any real experience of having that kind of sexual proclivity or the potential for it, it seems very alien. I've talked to women who simply can't get their head around AGP - it just seems like a crazy thing someone made up.

The other problem is that they have associated idea like this with things like seeing gay men as risks to kids. They have accepted totally that this was a bigoted idea. It goes beyond that though - quite a lot of women who think this way won't even allow themselves to recognize some of the stuff that goes on in the Peter Thatchall end of the gay community, particularly some of the attitudes around sex with teenagers. It's too close to the possibility that teens might be at risk with those individuals, and that is filed under "things you can't think."

Thee are a lot of thought terminating ideas among progressives, and it seems to really impede thinking about things in a realistic way, much less deeply.

MangyInseam · 21/09/2022 12:50

Datun · 21/09/2022 10:39

What does he mean by that? Is it that he thinks people are too afraid to call it a paraphilia?

Is he talking about people who can accept gender ideology, but not gender ideology when it's expressed like that?

I don't think he's wrong, in the end. Lots of people will feel strongly that it's wrong but won't be able to articulate it well.

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 12:55

I struggle imagining how that particular fetish works. I don't understand how any man would willingly part with their penis. Not owning one myself, I can't. But also, if they get aroused by imagining themselves as women, how can they function when they spend their days living their fetish? Doesn't it get boring?

I hope the teacher is angling for a payoff. I like to think he and the school are in a Mexican standoff, to see who blinks first. Perhaps he'll keep escalating, though I can't imagine where he'll go next.

Datun · 21/09/2022 13:00

Most of them don't part with their penis. Their penis is a very important part. In fact they've coined the term gender euphoria, on the basis of how their penis reacts.

I think statistically it's something like only 97% of men who identify as women have their penis inverted.

Zebracat · 21/09/2022 13:02

I am offended by this persons presentation. I don’t always mind people transgressing as some boundaries need breaking down. But artificial breasts that size , whether on a man or a woman make me very uncomfortable. And I do recall some examples of women having their breasts inflated to similar sizes.
I have a 40 f bra size, and it has been the bane of my life, with people making all sorts of assumptions about me. And it is difficult to avoid a porn star aesthetic. Some people have huge natural breasts, and enjoy them, or at least find a way to accommodate them, and I applaud this. But if they were teaching my child, I’d want them to be contained, and I would not want nipples or cleavage on display, anymore than I want them seeing arse cracks or genitalia.
For all the talk of passing, that we don’t even know there are men in our changing rooms and toilets, it does seem that for some, a trans identity involves dressing as if going to a fetish club. The exhibitionism does worry me.

Datun · 21/09/2022 13:04

Sorry, don't have their penis Inverted.

IcakethereforeIam · 21/09/2022 13:12

Yes, @Datun that's a fair point. I wonder, idly, not obsessively, about the ones that do. But even the rest of them, you can't spend your days in constant arousal, can you? I clearly don't understand male sexuality.

Gender euphoria, it may have been coined as a flipside to dysphoria, but it's a high falutin' way of saying you've got an erection, or at least a semi..

ArabellaScott · 21/09/2022 13:17

Given the recent inclusion of a whole chapter of the new WPATH guidelines being given over to 'Eunuch' 'identities', I am curious as to whether there may be diverse reasons for males to wish to have their genitals removed.

ArabellaScott · 21/09/2022 13:18

cake, as noted in that article above, paraphilias are almost exclusively confined to males. I do think it can be hard for many women to understand what drives them. Perhaps its an area that would benefit from more research.

TheBeardedVulture · 21/09/2022 13:27

If it’s ok for this person to wear comedy fake tits with the nipples showing to school because that’s how they’d like to express their gender and their true self, would it be okay for a teacher who is into BDSM to turn up in a latex gimp suit?

TheClogLady · 21/09/2022 13:31

Perhaps he'll keep escalating, though I can't imagine where he'll go next.

Giant padded arse cheeks? Or maybe one of those head to toe silicon woman suits?