The problem is that the people who purportedly want equality, feminists, seem to focus on women
Nope - feminism seeks liberation for women. And yes, it does focus on women. Of course it does.
women initiate 75% of DV
Ah, see when someone comes out with that one it’s fairly telling. I’ve heard this one before. By initiate, you mean ‘exist in the same space as a violent man.’ I’ve heard this stat trotted out by MRAs - what it means to them is that the woman has ‘nagged’ or similar and thus deserves it. In reality, 85% of DV is male on female. And yes, men do far more damage.
Men don’t commit 90% of crime
Actually for violent crime I think it’s 98%. Most women in prison are in for drugs offences and non violent crimes.
Men die on average earlier partly due to biology and partly due to society. There’s a fair amount of work done on the idea that a couples reproductive fitness is increased by what’s called ‘alloparenting.’ Its basically where ‘helpers in the nest’ help the reproducing pair. Loads done in Seychelles warblers if you fancy looking it up.
The helper benefits because their genetic material shares significant overlap with the pair being helped and it’s thought this could underlie altruism in humans. Anyway, grandmothers in particular seem to be effective helpers and again, there’s a fair body of work done that explains in evolutionary terms why extended female life span past reproductive years can benefit the offspring even after they have passed reproductive ability themselves.
Men have higher rates of death by suicide, risk taking behaviour, cardiovascular events (although women are almost level with them now so that’s possibly more environmental than innate.)
None of these reasons is matriarchal oppression of men. In fact being married increases men’s lifespans. possibly due to increased happiness and someone to nag them to go to the docs.
Better not nag too much though eh? With our eggshell skulls and all...
Society IS set up for men. Women are oppressed based on their biology - we are on average smaller, weaker and the reproductive class.
You’re making a class error in your logic. You can look at how classes intersect in the society you’re in. So for example white men are generally at the top of the tree. Now look at poverty and geography and you’ll see that white boys from poor estates in Glasgow don’t do great. That’s the intersection of poverty and that of maleness. It allows you to look at how factors combine to dosadvtahe or advantage people - however it says nothing about the fact that in general, men are at the top of the tree - and fairly unwilling to move the fuck over for women, ethnic minorities or anyone else.