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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Dark and stormies all round! Bluestocking piss up

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QuentinSummers · 08/06/2018 23:05

A friendly place for feminist or general chit chat. Welcome all!

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R0wantrees · 19/06/2018 20:38

Yes, mine too.

Mine may like the sea and the BlueStocking be very dark and stormy this evening! If as they say the eyes are the window to your soul (which I'm not convinced I have) they will be anyway.

May have to dig out some rum!

Melamin · 19/06/2018 20:50

Greeny brown - no idea why I thought they were blue. My friend Janet said they were Hmm My dad said they were hazel.

Rum is so much better in the Madagascan cola, but we have run out!

ErrolTheDragon · 19/06/2018 21:42

I think when you're small, people will tell you you've got blue eyes if they're any of the grey through greenish colours. I knew mine were grey because DF's were properly blue so I could see the difference.

Waddlelikeapenguin · 19/06/2018 22:33

Mine are blue & my DH and some family all say they know if I am angry because they go a dark grey blue - obviously they cant actually change colour so no idea what that's about!! Maybe the shadow of my scowl makes them look darker Grin

Finding the depth & breadth of wtf official guidance that totally disregards the rights/feelings of women & girls really overwhelming today Sad

Medicinal Gin may be required Grin

R0wantrees · 19/06/2018 23:07

No rum in the house, so whisky it must be!

I have a bottle and happy to share...

AngryAttackKittens · 19/06/2018 23:17

So, how many members of Team Sportacus will still be here tomorrow? May as well have a piss up now, really.

AtreidesFreeWoman · 19/06/2018 23:26

Checking in to the Blue Stocking for the first and possibly last time (though been around on FWR for a while under a different UN).

I've forgone the gin for a glass of Sancerre.

I'm braced for the HQ ban hammer tomorrow Grin but hoping HQ might see the humour.

Cheers all!

R0wantrees · 19/06/2018 23:28

Its certainly been a game of two halves today!

Cheers indeed Wine

ErrolTheDragon · 19/06/2018 23:45

Two halves is a pint in here...
Brewdecaf tea for me at this hour.

R0wantrees · 20/06/2018 00:05

I've had one eye on the football match. (not the ones in Russia) Football

LighthouseSouth · 20/06/2018 16:47

The racism on MN makes me want to drink heavily. I suppose it's just a reflection of real life but I don't really mix with anyone new any more so I don't know.

FermatsTheorem · 20/06/2018 18:56

Oh, I think I saw that thread, Lighthouse. Horrible. Racists denying that obviously racist meme was in fact racist.

I'll have a quadruple whatever. Had the smear test from hell today... stop reading here if you are likely to be distressed by graphic description...

Okay, the reason for the following graphic description is (a) catharsis for me and (b) because I've actually seen TRAs on here say "what's the big deal if a biological male does your smear test, they don't put their fingers up your vagina..."

Now, I've had smear tests many, many times before and they've never been more than a bit uncomfortable with maybe a fleeting moment of pain. But not today.

Today was a bloody disaster. Multiple attempts (at least 6), two different speculums (specula?), more bloody positions to attempt the procedure than the Karma Sodding Sutra (at one point I was on my side with my foot braced against the wall). Labia yanked here there and everywhere, pubes pulled, clitoris caught in the cross fire. Uterine cramps and shooting pains in my poor shrivelled ovaries (back in the day, I used to get Mittelschersh so I know what pain in the ovaries feels like). And after all that, she still couldn't get a clear enough view of my cervix to get a sample, so I have to do the whole bloody thing again in two weeks.

So two things strike me in connection with this.

  1. No way in hell would I want a biologically male individual doing this to me, whether he identified as man, woman or the Queen of Fucking Sheba. It was a bad enough experience as it was without that in the mix. My body, my boundaries, my say-so.

  2. It really, really brought home to me again what a pile of shite the whole "biology is a social construct" shit is. It is not. A surgically constructed "neo vagina" is nothing, nothing, NOTHING like the reproductive anatomy I have.

(I am fortunate enough never to have been the victim of male sexual violence - otherwise I wouldn't be joking about this on here, I'd be rocking in the corner begging for tramadol.)

AtreidesFreeWoman · 20/06/2018 18:58

@LighthouseSouth

A specific thread or in general?

Sad
FermatsTheorem · 20/06/2018 19:00

I think it was the Lord Sugar tweet about the Senegal world cup team thread (he posted an oh-so-not-in-the-slightest-bit-funny photoshopped picture of them with sunglasses on, saying they looked like the dodgy geezers by the beach who try to sell you sunglasses on a Mediterranean hol). The thread was like racist bingo - we had "my best friend's black and he found it funny", "lighten up it was just a joke", "he was making fun of sunglasses sellers, not black people" - every excuse in the book was there.

LighthouseSouth · 20/06/2018 19:18

Well I'm often stunned by the racism on MN and it goes completely unchecked by MNHQ. But yes, today is about the comments made by Alan Sugar. The thing that bitters me most is posters assuming everyone complaining that posters are outraged on behalf of others, like they don't know a non white could be using MN.

LighthouseSouth · 20/06/2018 19:23

Bothers not bitters but that's a good autocorrect
I'm hearing others in my age group saying the racism of the 70s and 80s was almost easier to deal with. Now people get outraged that they've been called racist after being racist.

And there's no escape, I used to want to move to the US but now they're obsessed with making it white.

RebelRogue · 20/06/2018 20:19

I'm just fed up.

Melamin · 20/06/2018 20:24
Gin Cake
Weezol · 20/06/2018 20:42

Morrison's are delivering a lot if candyfloss to me in a couple of hours - anybody want some?

Melamin · 20/06/2018 20:44

Pleeeeeeeeez

AtreidesFreeWoman · 20/06/2018 20:47

@LighthouseSouth

Just checked out the thread.

Minus quite a lot of deletions it has to be said.

AtreidesFreeWoman · 20/06/2018 20:51

Sorry pressed post too soon.

Even then it wasn't great reading :-(

LighthouseSouth · 20/06/2018 21:02

Oh I didn't look at it again
Goodness knows what the deletions were, I bet it escalated

I'm just watching True Detective. Someone single handedly fights off a whole load of guys, I'm thinking, can we have a woman character do this now please?

Weezol · 20/06/2018 21:27

AngryAttackKittens I'm more of an Armchair Sporticus. I don't like being too far from the kettle.

ErrolTheDragon · 20/06/2018 23:02

GinGinChocolate for Fermat

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