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Can someone reassure me this is normal

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Allthegoodhorses · 06/01/2026 08:44

Morning, it’s a bit of a saga but I acquired a cat on Sunday. He’s about a year old, neutered a month ago and was living in a very chaotic situation.

We ‘rescued’ him and he’s now in my house. Currently he is in a quiet part of the house in an igloo bed inside a dog crate (dog crate was used for transportation purposes as it was easier to lift him inside the igloo into crate than put him in a cat basket). The crate is open and he has water, food, a litter tray (further from the food).

He has not moved. There looks like no sign of him using litter tray or eating or drinking.

I have googled and apparently this is normal. We have not tried to interact too much with him as advice I’ve read he’s in frozen survival mode and have to let him decide when it’s safe to come out.

But can anyone offer any more advice or reassure me this is normal. I’m starting to get concerned and not sure of next steps.

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CatLovesMeBest · Yesterday 13:46

That’s so lovely to hear, thanks for your update ! It sounds like you’ve done really well with him, being so patient and letting him settle in his own time. I hope you have many happy years together 😁

ilovesushi · Yesterday 13:59

When we got a year old cat, she spent the first few days in the wardrobe of an empty guest room. We put down food and water and a litter tray and let her decompress. I went in occasionally to say some quiet words to her but I didn't get in her face. She ventured out in the end and was absolutely fine.

ilovesushi · Yesterday 14:00

Sorry missed your update!

Allthegoodhorses · Yesterday 14:43

ilovesushi · Yesterday 14:00

Sorry missed your update!

No worries, thank you for your reply anyhow.

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