What do I do?

[PinkSparklyPussyCat]

After losing Harry DH and I have struggled to adapt to being catless. We have been approved to adopt a gorgeous, super friendly tabby boy and we’re supposed to be picking him up today but I’m seriously apprehensive.

I miss Harry more than I ever thought possible and cry every day. Is it fair to bring a new cat into this or will he start to heal me? What if I don’t bond with him? What if I don’t love him enough because he’s not Harry? What if I start to forget Harry?

We met him on Friday night and he is the most gorgeous, friendly boy - real lap cat. He’s FIV+ and has been at the rescue 2 months already and could be there ages (the last one was over 9 months).

I honestly don’t know what to do but it has to be right for the cat. We can give him a good life, love and a cat proofed garden but can I do it? As much as I hate the cat shaped hole it’s Harry I want to fill it but obviously that can’t happen. I’m so conflicted 😢

@PinkSparklyPussyCat as soon as you said you'd fallen in love with him, I knew he was the one. 😁 He sounds absolutely wonderful.

❤

I think the fact that they were happy to hold him for 3 weeks from when we met him was a big help, they weren't rushing into anything.

No idea if the link will work...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/the_litter_tray/4789012-meet-eddie

There’s never too little space in our hearts to love. He won’t be Harry, but he will be Eddie, and there will be so much about him to help to heal the Harry shaped hole in your life.

As a cat lover, once you even look seriously at the possibility of adopting another cat, I think you are well on the way welcoming one to your life