What have you done to ruin your teenager's summer so far?

[NotDarkGothicMama]

I have:

• Woken DS up "too fast" to unload the dishwasher when I got home from work at 7pm.
• Locked down DD's phone after 3 hours of asking her to put away the vast array of dirty crockery, nail art supplies and dirty socks decorating the sofa.
• Booked a holiday in accommodation without a swimming pool.
• Arranged to take DS and DD on a work trip abroad with me.
• Refused to exclude DD from said work trip at DS's request.

How have you ruined your teenager's summer?

I did not book our usual family holiday to France - after they spent last year’s family holiday to France refusing to leave the accommodation, getting uber eats to deliver KFC and complaining the WiFi wasn’t as fast as at home.

Panic over - I just spoke with her and although she has no examples to give, she reckons I do piss her off sometimes she just doesn’t bother telling me about it because “what would be the point” 😂

And threatened with “if you’re bored, I can find things for you to do”

Told DD we are going on a surprise few days away.

Didn't book accommodation with a 3rd bedroom so she has to share with her sister so she's sleeping on the sofa bed in the livingroom.

we wanted to go out for the evening to see some fireworks and get food. She's refused to come.

Bought back Chinese.

Woke her at 1230 to get a shower and go shopping (for stuff she likes).

All going swimmingly so far. Please save me. I swear every time I won't book another holiday but I do.

DD has been vaccinated, after much drama and a nurse with the patience of a higher-tier saint promising I'd let her buy whatever she wanted from Shein. Which I absolutely won't, because I refuse to pay for shoddy crap made in sweatshops. I did take DD to Starbucks though, where I spent SEVEN BLOODY POUNDS on squash ("strawberry acai cooler").

Honestly they think you’re actually made of money! I’m a lone parent too on one income! He keeps sending me links to various bikes, the first lot were in the region of the one you describe. My son is AuDHD and has absolutely no understanding of money or budgeting whatsoever. He simply can’t manage it. So when he says £350, he can’t fathom that that’s the size of my food bill every month and I’m not buying bike number four just because he can’t look after them. Then he says “you’re always getting parcels delivered” 🤣. The absolute audacity of them 🤦🏻‍♀️.

@TheFormidableMrsC 😂They are clueless..... we have just got a new car and my DS said "well you can buy a new car" what he doesn't grasp is we got a 2nd car because of them and the amount of bloody football, boxing and general taxi driving we do for the 3 of them 😂 how bloody dare we.

OMG I’ve never felt more seen, my son decided he doesn’t like my car and keeps going on Autotrader and saying “this one’s nice” and it’ll be a giant 4x4 that costs £30k which of course I’ve got lying around 🤣. They are away with the fairies 😆

@TheFormidableMrsC Don't you just love em 🙄

I still use that one now 😆

Nothing. He finished his a'levels in June and has had 6 weeks of lie-ins. He's worked a few shifts at the leisure centre but otherwise, I've left him to sleep.

Things are going to change in August 😊He's having a crash course in food prep, laundry and domestic budgeting.

These have all happened in the past couple of weeks, I was asked to wash and dry her running gear as “quickly as possible”.
I was asked what I was doing after I talked to a stranger at a parking machine (I had helped an oldish lady to use the ticket machine).
I had the audacity to have two alcoholic drinks at an open air concert.
I bought a card for another daughter’s friend who has just had a baby. Wasn’t from Between The Lines so was not suitable.
It was recommended I walk to the station to pick one of them up rather than drive as I “need the exercise”.

My DS 14 is very weird, he keeps calling me cool. I wear short sleeved shirts, shorts and sandals mostly at the moment.

What is it with the annoyance of talking to people? My teen hates it and says stop having conversations with random people!

DS 14's friends were always at our house, I thought I was buying posh apple juice for him until I took it out of the shopping bag one day and his friend said "apple juice" the way Homer Simpson says "doughnuts".

Did you then ruin guest teen's summer by cutting off the supply?

Absolutely, it's not like Chinatown is right next to all the theatres or anything.

I wouldn't dream of it. DS2 and his friends are very odd indeed, it seems. DS2 did tell me that guest friend then thought he wasn't allowed to drink it, so I had to explain that no, it was fine, if he felt bad he could maybe give me a few pounds towards it next time.

No, they absolutely were not!

No teacher, no Brownie or Guide leader, no Sunday School teacher, absolutely no-one on earth has ever had a bad word to say about my girls. Both one many awards for excellent behaviour, including a Diana Award for setting up an anti bullying place in school for the younger children to go and talk about things, school counsellor on hand if needed. They never had lines or a single detention or got into trouble at school, or beyond.

My XH was english so we lived in England for a while ( now back home in NE Scotland). The english school system being different to here meant that they were at different schools, when the time came for DD2 to move up to DD1’s school there wasn’t a place for her. I said I would have to move DD1 to DD2’s school as they had a place for her there. Not sure of the year now, but here in Scotland they’d have been P3 and P4. I had the headteacher and DD1’s teacher pleading with me not to move her as she was such an asset to the school. Funnily enough, after I said I had no choice, they found a place for DD2.

So please don’t tell me my daughters misbehaved, and were rude, because they just weren’t. You don’t know them or me, so you can’t possibly say they were badly behaved.

Both in their 30s now, they have never given me, or anyone else a moment’s worry.

Yes, that is exactly what I’m saying!

Not once, not ever, to me or to anyone else. I’ve gone into detail about it all further down the thread. Not every teenager is rude or misbehaves.

I certainly didn’t.

Got them out of bed

Taken DS18 and his girlfriend away (with DH ) to a lovely villa with a shared pool for 2 weeks ( In 2 weeks using pool for several hours a day only came across 4 other people very briefly but apparently it was too crowded !- also too hot , too cold, nothing to do, etc etc )

That’s really interesting. I’ve read your comments below and a lot of that could describe me as a teen - quiet, worked hard, never in any trouble, I wasn’t rude to my parents. Got up to all sorts behind their backs though 😆

also edited to add, none of the teenagers mentioned here are badly behaved. They’re just normal grumpy teens having a moment. Everyone has them, adults included. No one is perfect.

lol…..but I never lose…I only ever play against my partner…maybe he’ll want to buy this board!

I asked my daughter to take her duvet cover off! It makes her feel sick!