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Took DS13 door off his bedroom earlier....

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louby44 · 15/09/2013 14:42

after repeatedly slamming it (on purpose)..... I have been threatening to do it all week.

He went crazy because his brother wouldn't let him play on his Playstation. Angry, insolent, defiant, really rude. So I took the door off.

He then packed a bag and went off on his bike! He's now at his dads (we're divorced) and the remainder of the day has been peaceful.

He has loads of homework and food tech to sort out but I'm dreading him coming home!

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QOD · 15/09/2013 14:55

I have a very very grumpy 14 yr old dd today, its the back to school tiredness mixed in with teen misery

halfthesize · 15/09/2013 14:58

I took the door off of DD bedroom when she was 13 for a whole month. Every night we used to all walk past look in and say night, she hated having no privacy. she never slammed a door againGrin
she is now 21 and still talks about it Smile

Original poster
louby44 · 15/09/2013 15:10

I hated doing it but his behaviour just can't go on. When he asks me nicely I shall put it back on...may have to wait a while.

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halfthesize · 15/09/2013 15:38

I think it's a great punishment, not too harsh and has the intended results hopefully.
lots of my friends have done it since and always good results.
just remember its for his own good and your sanityGrin

lljkk · 15/09/2013 15:46

Ooh, I've a grumpy 13 nearly 14yo, too. Shall we form a new quiche?

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 15:48

I've been very tempted many a time....

NoComet · 15/09/2013 15:54

YANBU
Our doors break if fought over or slammed, DSIS and I cracked one and our kitchen door suffered in a fit of DDs shutting each other out.

Most modern internal doors are awfully made. I'd be tempted to stick the B&Q or Wicks price list on it when you put it back.

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 15:57

Signing in. Grumpy 14 year old DS. Homework still not done, and he is out playing football, if they lose the match are we in for a fun evening.

YANBU except you may have to see him in his pants more than you would like.

halfthesize · 15/09/2013 16:32

Grin @ sparkling

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 16:32

Sparkling I have found that a note to school along the lines of 'the homework was not done because DS refused to do it' does the trick....I have written such a note many a time and have refused to hand it over until the homework is done. It always has been done, but I have informed DS that the note will be superglued into his homework book and handed to his teacher personally! Grin

Never had to do it.....

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 16:38

Good idea Katy. Grin

Between the two of them tonight the HW we have is adjectives and fractions, German body parts for a test and Surds. Oh joy.

DS1's team lost 2-1. Sad

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 16:44

DS has not had homework yet this year, DD has had shedloads :(

Original poster
louby44 · 15/09/2013 17:23

DS13 has returned home happy (so far) sorted out his food tech as that's exciting weighing stuff and making a mess!

He still has 3 lots of homework that have to be in for Tuesday...it will all get left for tomorrow evening.

He is now playing on his brothers Playstation - which is how this all started 7 hours ago.

He hasn't mentioned his door!

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Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 17:26

How old is his DB louby? DS2 is 11 and I would say that 99% of their bickering is over the PS3.

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louby44 · 15/09/2013 17:48

DS2 is 10! It's his PS3 that he saved for with his own money. They have an Xbox that was a Christmas present a few years ago which is in the den! But of course the PS3 is more attractive!

DS13 has always been jealous of everything about his brother from the moment he was born!

The bickering and playfighting that turns sour are the things that drive me mad....then the fallout...deep joy!

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Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 17:51

The PS4 is out soon louby Sad

The sibling rivalry reached fever pitch a couple of years ago. DS2 put his foot through DS1's door. I felt awful, like I had the DC from hell.

bigTillyMint · 15/09/2013 19:26

DD (14) is also ranting about homework and is as grumpy as fcuk. Pleased to hear it is not just her - Y10 and her stress and anxiety levels are through the roof alreadySad

Am loving the door trickWink

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 20:06

Homework has not yet been started here. Silently fuming prior to massive explosion. Angry

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 15/09/2013 20:08

Am I the only person who thinks that taking a dc's bedroom door off is an appalling punishment? Shock

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 20:14

Yes Remus. Grin

bamboostalks · 15/09/2013 20:16

Genius idea, I'd say.

spudmasher · 15/09/2013 20:18

I'm with you ladies. We had a particularly unpleasant door slamming episode today between DD1 14 and DD2 12, over.......HIGHLIGHTER PENS.
Pass me the screwdriver.

NoComet · 15/09/2013 20:26

DD2 (12) wouldn't like it DD1(15) wouldn't give a fuck.

She puts worrying about your own family seeing you without your clothes on, on her list of pointless things teens are supposed to worry about.

Actually DD1's list contains 95% of things teens are supposed to get in a tiz about, Music, boys, makeup, stupid hair does, falling out with your friends (she has a few very carefully chosen ones), falling out with your parents, etc.

She does care about getting decent marks at school, without wasting to much time on HW, singing and just enough about fashion to look nice.

DD2(12) thinks hard about worrying about all the things DD1 doesn't, but finds DD1, DH and me rather unsympathetic.

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 20:30

Remus do you have teenagers yet? Grin I'd have agreed with a few years ago but I have had one to many door slams. Thankfully my teenage DD is now lovely (most of the time) and DS is the one who is a challenge - to say the least.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 15/09/2013 20:36

I have an 18 year old and a 16 year old. They get in bad moods sometimes but do not slam doors. And even if they did, I wouldn't take the door off.