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Original poster

Took DS13 door off his bedroom earlier....

88 replies

louby44 · 15/09/2013 14:42

after repeatedly slamming it (on purpose)..... I have been threatening to do it all week.

He went crazy because his brother wouldn't let him play on his Playstation. Angry, insolent, defiant, really rude. So I took the door off.

He then packed a bag and went off on his bike! He's now at his dads (we're divorced) and the remainder of the day has been peaceful.

He has loads of homework and food tech to sort out but I'm dreading him coming home!

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 20:42

Well if they don't slam the doors then you don't need to take the doors off Remus.

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 20:44

If the did and you had constant SLAM. SLAM/ SHOUT. SLAM you may feel differently.

ExitPursuedByADragon · 15/09/2013 20:44

Makes notes

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louby44 · 15/09/2013 20:44

I wondered when someone would say how awful it is that I've taken his door off! What would you suggest as a different punishment Remus as I was running out of things to take off him!

He has been lovely since he came back in and asked really nicely could he have his door back so DP and I have just struggled to put it back on, as we live in a three storey house the door was bl**dy heavy!

I've told him if he slams it again it will be removed again but for longer.

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RhondaJean · 15/09/2013 20:48

I've been threatening dd1 to do this, the slamming seems to have stopped actually.

She's 14 soon, are we perhaps over the worst?

She's been awful since she was about 10, last week I spotted a Facebook post saying "I am so glad I still have my parents, I would have disowned me by now I have been so awful" but I don't want to count my chickens...

And yes Remus you are the only one who wouldn't.

Mynewmoniker · 15/09/2013 20:49

If he slams it again take YOUR door off as well! That'll learn him! Grin

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob · 15/09/2013 20:50

My parents took my door off when I was a teen and I absolutely hated it. Sad It was humiliating.

Mine was taken off because I didn't come when I was called, as I had my door closed.

Now I have kids we have a rule that you speak to people in the same room they are in.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 15/09/2013 20:53

We clearly have v different views of parenting.

I am astonished that so many of you think this is a reasonable thing to do. Oh well - you live and learn.

heidihole · 15/09/2013 20:56

Remus it's not like he has to get naked in there with no privacy. He can get changed in the bathroom. It's a great punishment.

bigTillyMint · 15/09/2013 21:02

Actually, I've just realised that we haven't had much door slamming here. Mainly because our doors are difficult to slam, apart from the bathroom door. DD's door is always shut anywayGrin I was a terrible door-slammer - broke the glass in the porch door onceBlush

MortifiedAdams · 15/09/2013 21:07

I had my door taken off when I was a teen. Never slammed it again.

I dont understand why it is such a terrible thing remus.

ExitPursuedByADragon · 15/09/2013 21:14

Human rights probably.

MortifiedAdams · 15/09/2013 21:15
Hmm

I didnt know I had the right to a door.

ArbitraryUsername · 15/09/2013 21:16

DS1 (13) probably wouldn't even notice if I took his door off. He went to bed last night with his door and curtains wide open.

Removing electronic devices is the only way to get through to him.

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 21:18

With DD I got as far as loosening the screws, she was not impressed and lost her temper with me. I left it and came downstairs (the door was safe, I checked). A few hours later she appeared with a cup of coffee and an apology, the door was restored and she hasn't slammed it since. It still has the crack down the front from when she did though - I won't be replacing it as we can't afford it.

KatyPutTheCuttleOn · 15/09/2013 21:19

Arbitary DD leaves her curtains open as well.

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 21:20

DS1 never opens his curtains Katy. Hmm

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 15/09/2013 21:20

It's nothing to do with human rights - it's to do with mutual respect. Clearly I am in a minority of one though.

Sparklingbrook · 15/09/2013 21:22

The door slammers have no respect though Remus, damaging the things in the house they live in.

bigTillyMint · 15/09/2013 21:23

Yes Arbitrary and Katy so does my DD, which is odd because she always used to worry about someone getting in her window (virtually impossible where her room is) when she was little. She also couldn't bear to have her door shut till she was in about Y8, now it's never openGrin

2kidsintow · 15/09/2013 21:24

We took DD's door off, when she'd been slamming it and nearly got her sister's fingers in it.

Her room was plenty big enough that she had privacy in there from people just walking past without the door there.

She got it back after a week and hasn't slammed it since.

Each to their own.

MrsDeVere · 15/09/2013 21:27

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Doilooklikeatourist · 15/09/2013 21:27

I took DS door off once as well ( for too much slamming and stomping )

Another punishment I'm quite proud of is taking off the blinds and curtains after he once again went to school leaving them closed and the bedroom light on .

Worked a treat

MortifiedAdams · 15/09/2013 21:31

Yes.well, Remus, when DCs are respectful.towards their home and the people within it then they will receive respect.

Remus clearly has very well behaved teens.

MakeHayIsAWhaleNow · 15/09/2013 21:35

Tbh I'm kind of with Remus, but mine are only 4 and 2 so there's plenty of time to change my mind....Grin To me it's a respect thing too, and a right to privacy. How can I expect them to respect me/my stuff if I don't do the same?

But OP, I'm glad it's had a positive effect and I hope things settle for you. I know how wearing the constant bickering can be (and mine are still tiny...oh goodness, I have a shock coming, don't I?!)