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Yet another wedding guest dress question!

51 replies

BashtheBishop · Yesterday 11:13

My cousin is getting married next month. The wedding invitation specified no white or purple, as these are the bridal party colours. I'd have never have worn white as a matter of course, but was grateful for the heads-up on the purple, as no one wants to look like they're trying to make themselves into a bridesmaid by stealth!

Anyway, I had narrowed it down to a couple of dresses and I think this is the one. However, I showed it to my mother and she made a bit of a face and said, "Ohhh... it's pink though." I was baffled and said I could see perfectly well it was pink, and what was her point. She said, "They said no purple. What if it's a pinky purple?"

I think she's nuts 😄I've already avoided blues in case it was a bluish purple, but I don't think this could be seen as anywhere near purple. Plus, every bridesmaid dress I've ever seen has been a block colour, not a print. Surely this isn't a risky choice?

Yet another wedding guest dress question!
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bendybusbuggy1 · Yesterday 11:15

I think it's pink but you could always ask the bride?

mummabubs · Yesterday 11:31

I'd definitely wear this - it's pink and the pattern means you're unlikely to look like a bridesmaid. I think it's a beautiful dress!

Sleepytimepleaseee · Yesterday 11:31

It's lovely. And as she says, it's pink. Not purple.

BashtheBishop · Yesterday 12:04

My mother does overthink things a bit, bless her! I'm hoping that's the case here.

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ElizaSchuyler · Yesterday 12:06

I'm also invited to a no purple wedding next month and I would say that colour is perfectly acceptable. (I'm wearing burgundy as richer colours suit me better)

BashtheBishop · Yesterday 12:44

ElizaSchuyler · Yesterday 12:06

I'm also invited to a no purple wedding next month and I would say that colour is perfectly acceptable. (I'm wearing burgundy as richer colours suit me better)

Maybe it's the same one! If you spot me in this dress, wave 😁

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EmpressStorm · Yesterday 12:47

There is no way that’s purple.

Gettingbysomehow · Yesterday 13:40

Its quite obviously pink.

theneighboureatmysalad · Yesterday 13:43

It's nothing remotely close to purple. It's pink.

Usually, I think it's very wrong to put the bride on the spot, trying to force their hand to say "yes, it's fine", but on this occasion, you can completely ask her.

Biggles27 · Yesterday 15:06

Beautiful dress, def not purple (or lilac)

ThisCraftyAquaHedgehog · Yesterday 15:08

It's perfect.
Wear it and enjoy.

bellventrico · Yesterday 15:13

It's lovely please proceed!

susiedaisy1912 · Yesterday 15:15

Oh ffs it’s pink. Nothing like a purple dress. It’s gorgeous op. Wear it.

5gymbabe · Yesterday 15:15

BashtheBishop · Yesterday 11:13

My cousin is getting married next month. The wedding invitation specified no white or purple, as these are the bridal party colours. I'd have never have worn white as a matter of course, but was grateful for the heads-up on the purple, as no one wants to look like they're trying to make themselves into a bridesmaid by stealth!

Anyway, I had narrowed it down to a couple of dresses and I think this is the one. However, I showed it to my mother and she made a bit of a face and said, "Ohhh... it's pink though." I was baffled and said I could see perfectly well it was pink, and what was her point. She said, "They said no purple. What if it's a pinky purple?"

I think she's nuts 😄I've already avoided blues in case it was a bluish purple, but I don't think this could be seen as anywhere near purple. Plus, every bridesmaid dress I've ever seen has been a block colour, not a print. Surely this isn't a risky choice?

Anyone thinking it's purple or white needs an eye test

Kimmers4334 · Yesterday 15:27

It doesn’t look purple at all and it’s really pretty dress!

Trainup · Yesterday 15:38

ElizaSchuyler · Yesterday 12:06

I'm also invited to a no purple wedding next month and I would say that colour is perfectly acceptable. (I'm wearing burgundy as richer colours suit me better)

I would call burgundy a type of purple! At best a purpley red

ElizaSchuyler · Yesterday 15:42

Burgundy is dark red, a browny red I'd say. Besides I've seen lots of pictures of the bride making accessories for her colour scheme and she is going for a light lilac shade of purple by the look of it.

It is a dress I already own, I do not buy new for each occasion. and it has very light pink and grey/white flowers on it.

DrKovac · Yesterday 16:18

It’s definitely pink, and it’s beautiful. Definitely wear it!

I rocked up at a wedding a few years back in a lovely navy dress I got from Coast - I was post pregnancy so had searched for a breastfeeding friendly dress high and low, only to realise on arrival that navy was the bridal colour and the bridesmaids were more or less in the same dress. I was mistaken for a bridesmaid all day. Thankfully the bride had a giggle as she had kept all details on the wedding a secret, so how was I to know!

Allseeingallknowing · Yesterday 16:34

Why can’t guests wear what they like?

ElizaSchuyler · Yesterday 16:36

Bridesmaids dresses are often a lot more informal these days. My bridesmaids wore full length burgundy satin so if a guest had turned up in a burgundy floral dress it would not have mattered. But the wedding I am going to seems to be themed around lilac floral so someone in a lilac floral dress could be mistaken for a member of the bridal party.

BasketCaseBug · Yesterday 16:47

Gorgeous dress and definitely pink.

wishingonastar101 · Yesterday 16:55

it's fine. My mum would say something mean about any dress I picked.

Likeiloveyou · Yesterday 17:29

It looks perfect to me.

Monty36 · Yesterday 17:31

It is pink. Not purple.

Ask your mum to point out where it is purple !