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Yet another wedding guest dress question!

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BashtheBishop · 05/08/2026 11:13

My cousin is getting married next month. The wedding invitation specified no white or purple, as these are the bridal party colours. I'd have never have worn white as a matter of course, but was grateful for the heads-up on the purple, as no one wants to look like they're trying to make themselves into a bridesmaid by stealth!

Anyway, I had narrowed it down to a couple of dresses and I think this is the one. However, I showed it to my mother and she made a bit of a face and said, "Ohhh... it's pink though." I was baffled and said I could see perfectly well it was pink, and what was her point. She said, "They said no purple. What if it's a pinky purple?"

I think she's nuts 😄I've already avoided blues in case it was a bluish purple, but I don't think this could be seen as anywhere near purple. Plus, every bridesmaid dress I've ever seen has been a block colour, not a print. Surely this isn't a risky choice?

Yet another wedding guest dress question!
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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 06/08/2026 10:00

Was the invite purple? They’re usually in the wedding colours so you can see what purple. I’m guessing the bridesmaids will be wearing a variation of purples if they’re worried guests will look like one of them. 🙄

BashtheBishop · 06/08/2026 15:00

So I had a brainwave and messaged my auntie (MOTB), as I thought she might have seen the bridesmaids' dresses (didn't want to bother a stressed out bride!)

Anyway, she said they're a "very strong purple" and that my dress will be fine. And my mother got a "Bless her" for overthinking it 😄

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Bristolandlazy · 06/08/2026 16:06

Your mum needs an eye test maybe, that's definitely pink.
It's perfect

Whynottryagain · 08/08/2026 09:03

It's pink. If the bridesmaids were in pink the bride would have specified no pink, not purple. Your Mum is overthinking.

My bridesmaids wore blue floral but I couldn't have cared less if other people wore something similar inadvertently. In fact, I'd say so many guests wore shades of blue, since it's a popular colour, that the photos almost made it look like I had a "blue only" dress code, which I thought was quite funny.

pastadish · 08/08/2026 09:16

It’s not remotely similar to purple

Purplecatshopaholic · 08/08/2026 09:17

Beautiful dress. Defo not purple. I’m sure your mum is lovely, but she’s also batshit, lol

madaboutpurple · 08/08/2026 15:51

It looks amazing.

Cantering87 · 08/08/2026 15:53

I agree your Mum is nuts. This is not bridal or purple. I do think it’s crazy to specify a dress code though anyway so I might be biased.

Cantering87 · 08/08/2026 15:55

Whynottryagain · 08/08/2026 09:03

It's pink. If the bridesmaids were in pink the bride would have specified no pink, not purple. Your Mum is overthinking.

My bridesmaids wore blue floral but I couldn't have cared less if other people wore something similar inadvertently. In fact, I'd say so many guests wore shades of blue, since it's a popular colour, that the photos almost made it look like I had a "blue only" dress code, which I thought was quite funny.

Such a sensible response! So many occasion dresses could be bridesmaid dresses in this day and age. No one ever mistook a guest for the bride did they? And if they did they shouldn’t have been invited in the 1st place!

FookFookFook · 08/08/2026 15:56

It’s lovely!

CathyFitzs · 08/08/2026 16:38

The dress is absolutely gorgeous, enjoy the wedding x

Maddy70 · 08/08/2026 16:50

That's fine (and lovely !)

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