Hi all, this is my first post and I'm literally going insane. My OH and I have been together 7 years. I have 2 children one is now 14 the other 13 and he has a now 21yr old son. We are having major issues at present and are seriously considering splitting (which I don't want to do). Our problem is that my stepson is constantly wanting money, he does currently work as an apprentice so doesn't earn much but my OH has been giving up to and exceeding £250 a month to him whilst our home is falling apart. I found out a few months ago that my SS had an overdraft and was being severely stung in charges by his bank, he and his dad were trying to get one of those 100% Apr loans, when I found out I borrowed my SS the money so that he wouldnt incur interest or late/non-payment fees, up to yet he has been pretty consistent with paying it back. The last straw came a few days ago when my SS transferred £50 to me for the loan but then text his dad an hour later asking for yet more money (which we don't get back). I then suggested that we give him back the £50 and start afresh next month as then we wouldn't be just giving him money hand over fist and he would still be paying it back. My OH went totally nuts saying that if he can help his son he will and it's none of my business, he says that he can afford to keep giving his son money and he will continue to do so. I'm just so upset by his reactions and feel like I'm of no value to him and my opinion doesn't matter. Am I wrong to want to try to instil some financial responsibility? Is it even anything to do with me? Thoughts and comments would be greatly appreciated.