Hi all. I've been in a very happy relationship with my partner for 18 months. I have a two year old daughter from a previous marriage. He has a five year old daughter from his previous marriage. He is a great daddy. He's great with my daughter. I get on well with his daughter. She comes over alternative weekends and more in school holidays.
Like I said before I am really happy with my relationship with my partner although the only thing that causes conflict is our disagreements over discipline. I find his daughter hard work. If she doesn't get what she wants she makes a massive fuss. She is very spoilt and demanding. I basically feel like she rules the roost when we are together and everything is about her. If she isn't happy then none of us can be. My bf's discipline is almost non existent. He doesn't see anything wrong in her behaviour and he can't be firm at all. In fact he panders to her all the time. Politeness and manners don't seem to be important to him. We basically have very different parenting styles. I am firmer than he is. I find it difficult because my daughter is seeing all this behaviour. It's not so bad for a usual weekend but anything longer then I struggle. He has recently become so defensive of his daughter. He doesn't trust any opinions I have as he says I don't know what it's like to parent a five year old. He told me months ago that his daughter was the most important thing to him. I found that a really hurtful thing to say and it's not something that I can forget. This is the only thing that causes trouble between us.