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CONTROLLED CRYING MORAL SUPPORT NEEDED!!!!

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 00:21

We are in the throws of controlled crying, our DS is currently upstairs crying his little heart out, and it is breaking my heart to hear him, but I know we have to do it!!!! Moral support and hints needed PLEEEEASE!!!!!!!!!!

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FloatingOnTheMed · 27/06/2006 00:24

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VVVQV · 27/06/2006 00:27

I hated controlled crying.

Have you tried patting his back or tummy whilst he lays in his cot to calm him (dont need to pick up and cuddle but he knows you are there)?

I tried this after months of various methods including controlled crying and this worked. Overnight. Literally.

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 00:28

Hi VV, just tried patting him in his cot but he just climbs up and wants me to hold him!

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 00:31

It was a boob job (breastfeeding), then we progressed to the bottle!!!! SO I know he is used to the prop!

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VVVQV · 27/06/2006 00:34

I had that with DS - he was 10.5 months. It was distressing - he kept standing up, but i kept laying him down and patting him. If he was really upset i would simply say to him "its night night time"

It took 4 hours i think. But i was happier because i was there. The next night, he woke once, i went in, patted him for a few minutes and that was it.

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 00:37

We are in england but since having DS we don't seem to live in this timezone!!!!

We tend to wind down during the evening then he has his last feed around 8.30pm each night!

14 minutes and still crying - but we can hear he sounds so so tired and in need of a cuddle

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 00:53

I caved, after 25 minutes!!! Went to reassure him but no luck! He just doesn't want to settle!

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VVVQV · 27/06/2006 00:57

If it upsets you, please, dont do it. You will just feel bad about having made him cry for 25 mins for nothing.

THere are other ways you can deal with this. Is he waking through the night or is it just going off to sleep at bed time?

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 01:00

He has problems going off to sleep, and is waking up in the night also!

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 01:02

He wakes up at about 4ish, so I give him a feed, then up about 7.30ish

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VVVQV · 27/06/2006 01:09

Just the one feed then?

Whats the longest he has gone through the night?

VVVQV · 27/06/2006 01:13

Right, ive really got to go to bed. But will check back in teh morning. I think you need to set some more "realistic" for want of a better word, goals.

If he has never slept through the night i dont think there is going to be a quick improvement. I also think you should fix one thing at a time.

Which first - the feeding him to sleep or the night waking? I think if you can start to get him to sleep at bed time without feeding that might assist later with stopping the night waking. But it really depends on what you feel is more important.

Have a think on it, and i'll check back in the a.m.

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 01:37

THanks for the help! I ended up giving him a bottle, changed his nappy, and now he has gone to sleep in his cot (1.36)! He went in his cot sleepy, now I know he has had a good feed so I will try not to feed him when he wakes during the night!!! Will speak to you in the morning!
Thanks for helping me try get through this!

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VVVQV · 27/06/2006 17:38

What time did he wake this morning loopy?

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loopyredangel · 27/06/2006 20:38

He woke up at 5.10am, i gave him some water, and he fell asleep but woke up 45 minutes later.

As I am typing he is currently in his cot crying his little heart out again!!!!!!

We had a relaxing hour, got ready for bed, had a feed, sat and read a nice story, as soo nas I put him in his cot he started crying!!!

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?!?!?!?!?!

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