You can’t have a good discussion with people who cannot discuss: they can lecture, they definitely can patronise, they can validate each other in closed setting, but they can’t discuss differing views.
Because they don’t have views, they have beliefs. And an awful lot of them seem to have based their personality and social identity on these beliefs.
What’s the difference between an opinion and a belief? An opinion is experience or facts-led and has the possibility to evolve and change when it appears it doesn’t accurately reflect the truth; it also has room for doubt.
But when you like your opinion so much that you start to dismiss contradicting facts rather than reassess said opinion or have no more room for doubts, that’s when it turns into a belief.
And beliefs don’t debate: they drown in noise, they scream murder, they deflect, they whatabout, they call for censorship, they deny, but they ll never admit they’re after all a subjective opinion like all the others and should actually be led by facts rather than take themselves that seriously, wherever facts take them.
And God knows this has happened to a lot of progressive people. They started with well-meaning ideas and slowly turned them into beliefs through 20y of unchallenged groupthink.
That’s why you can’t really debate with them. They’re not intellectually or morally equipped anymore. They’re the bigots.