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Racist thread

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ThejoyofNC · 10/08/2025 19:34

There is a thread running in AIBU where people are being openly and freely racist. You've already deleted several posts on there so you're aware of it. Why are you allowing it to run?

Also why do you allow racism against travellers on here?

OP posts:
MiloMinderbinder925 · 11/08/2025 20:46

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:38

The problem is we end up going round and round with actual debate being censored. I think the issue here is the strength of tolerance and resilience when hearing views that challenge ours.

What you seem to be saying is that you have racist views and you want other people to show tolerance and resilience to them. You reject the idea that issues can be aired without racism and you're being censored if asked to keep racism to yourself.

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 20:46

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:45

This is certainly an option. When someone/their views gets under your skin, sometimes it is best to move on - I know I have. The reasons for this can vary from not having the emotional bandwidth, to not knowing enough about it, not caring, and sometimes feeling fragile for whatever reason. Disengaging is not a sign of weakness but demonstrates self control.

What have you moved on from?

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 20:47

Livelovebehappy · 11/08/2025 19:50

It’s difficult when your whole experience of Travellers is a bad one. We have Travellers regularly popping in and out of our town, and without exception, they’ve all left a whole lot of mess and criminal activity behind. A lot of people on that post were just expressing their own experiences. You can’t state positive ones when you don’t have any. Some were rightly deleted however…

The council I used to work for did something rather interesting. Because they had also been "plagued" by "they’ve all left a whole lot of mess and criminal activity behind". Multiple times in a year they had the same problem and the same complaints. So they did some "experimenting".

In terms of "mess" they looked at the sites that travellers used and came up with a fascinating insight. There was no bloody place to leave the "mess". So they did a completely ridiculous thing. They put in skips for the mess and travellers used the skips, so no mess left behind.

They also worked with the police and found something else interesting - despite comments to the contrary there was not a single increase in actual local crime whilst they were there. Lots of complaints about things that were not crimes, but no increase in crimes.

The problem is that "lived experience" also includes "lived prejudices". You can believe something that isn't true. Yes there will be some travellers - as with every single group of people - who are not nice or good people. But when you can find nothing good about a group of people, then you need to wonder if the problem isn't you.

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:48

PandoraSocks · 11/08/2025 20:37

western values’ includes free speech - albeit this very freedom is being compromised deeply at the moment. This thread highlights that

Eh? You are here, discussing freely!

Yes I am. But I have experienced censorship in my professional life and seen others endure it.

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:52

MiloMinderbinder925 · 11/08/2025 20:46

What you seem to be saying is that you have racist views and you want other people to show tolerance and resilience to them. You reject the idea that issues can be aired without racism and you're being censored if asked to keep racism to yourself.

Do you realize you are throwing around the word racism with no objective fact?

What I value above all else, and I think is a strength of a healthy community, is the ability to speak freely.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 11/08/2025 20:55

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:52

Do you realize you are throwing around the word racism with no objective fact?

What I value above all else, and I think is a strength of a healthy community, is the ability to speak freely.

The thread is about racism and I provided information on what racism is, so we're both clear about what we're talking about.

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 20:55

problem is that some people are allowed to speak freely whilst others are not - funny that

Zonder · 11/08/2025 21:03

AWitchCalledMeg · 11/08/2025 20:24

I haven't seen any racism. I what I have seem is a great many threads baying for mumsnet to censor the site of anything that could possibly even be conceived as racism. Where is this obsession coming from? Is it genuine, or AI bots?

Woah! Maybe worth scrolling back to the definition of racism given by a pp.

Zonder · 11/08/2025 21:05

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:52

Do you realize you are throwing around the word racism with no objective fact?

What I value above all else, and I think is a strength of a healthy community, is the ability to speak freely.

That's interesting. What I value above all else, and I think is a strength of a healthy community, is the absence of racist and hate filled speech, lumping people together and believing the worst of them.

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 21:07

A healthy community is not a community that others people who are different based on bigotry and prejudice. When you apply a negative characteristic to a group of people, or most people within a specific group of people, based solely on their ethnicity or skin colour, that is racism. It's really simple.

If people keep "censoring" you and people you know, it is perhaps time to wonder whether it isn't you that is the problem.

GypsyQueeen · 11/08/2025 21:13

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 18:30

When we talk about racism, at its core it involves making assumptions about a group of people and projecting those assumptions onto everyone within that group. But the leap from making a general observation to being labelled racist is not always straightforward—especially when cultural norms and behaviours genuinely differ between groups.
There are communities whose attitudes and behaviours may clash with those of others, and sometimes observations about these differences are dismissed as racist without proper consideration. So the question is: when does a generalisation or critique cross the line into racism?

It seems to me that the term “racism” has become heavily loaded. These days, expressing an opinion—even one that might offend someone—is often immediately branded as racist, regardless of whether it’s factually wrong or rooted in malice. I’ve noticed the word being thrown around so frequently that it’s starting to lose its impact. It’s also been co-opted into a narrow victim/oppressor narrative, where racism is only acknowledged if it flows in one direction.

In my own experience, I’ve seen how certain opinions are quickly shut down, and I find that deeply concerning. Personally, I’d much rather see all views aired—even the uncomfortable ones—so that we can have open, honest discussions. As Ricky Gervais once said, “How arrogant would you have to be to never hear things you don’t like?” I think he’s spot on. We don’t have to agree with everything, but silencing differing perspectives only stifles meaningful conversation.

This 💯 👏👏👏👏👏

MiloMinderbinder925 · 11/08/2025 21:15

Sparklybutold · 11/08/2025 20:35

‘Ours’ - I am referring to western values.

but this thread isn’t about actual content of views so I won’t go down this rabbit hole, but the merit of open discussion of contentious, opposing, and yes, sometimes, hateful views.

‘western values’ includes free speech - albeit this very freedom is being compromised deeply at the moment. This thread highlights that.

You're cherry picking Western values which I see a lot. People loudly proclaiming their allegiance to Western values don't seem to believe in the rule of law, human rights, tolerance or equality. Free speech seems to involve braying to anyone who'll listen about their bigotry.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/08/2025 21:17

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 21:07

A healthy community is not a community that others people who are different based on bigotry and prejudice. When you apply a negative characteristic to a group of people, or most people within a specific group of people, based solely on their ethnicity or skin colour, that is racism. It's really simple.

If people keep "censoring" you and people you know, it is perhaps time to wonder whether it isn't you that is the problem.

I wish some people would take a step back and actually think.

That you’ve had to post the bleeding obvious is a very worrying sign of our times.

Though I imagine that’s what many sensible people have known and said, going back to the year dot when Grunt got together in the corner of the cave with Og and said, “know what?, I’m really not too sure about Ug because, you know, look at him. I mean he looks a bit different from us. So off went Og and told Stig, who told Grog. And so it went on and here we bloody are. Millennia later. Have we learned? No, of course we haven’t. Obviously.

It’s bloody tragic. We all came from the same f*#king place.

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 21:21

GypsyQueeen · 11/08/2025 21:13

This 💯 👏👏👏👏👏

The irony

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 21:29

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 21:21

The irony

That was also my response!

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 21:35

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/08/2025 21:17

I wish some people would take a step back and actually think.

That you’ve had to post the bleeding obvious is a very worrying sign of our times.

Though I imagine that’s what many sensible people have known and said, going back to the year dot when Grunt got together in the corner of the cave with Og and said, “know what?, I’m really not too sure about Ug because, you know, look at him. I mean he looks a bit different from us. So off went Og and told Stig, who told Grog. And so it went on and here we bloody are. Millennia later. Have we learned? No, of course we haven’t. Obviously.

It’s bloody tragic. We all came from the same f*#king place.

Just to be utterly clear, YABVVVU, because we all know that Ug was seen hanging around with those Neanderthals, and Grog told me that (don't tell anyone) Ug's dad was a Neanderthal. Or was it Australopithecus? One of those things. I get them all very confused, but Flint told me they rape homo sapiens females and implant them to make hybrids, which is something very different from working from your cave apparently....

BIWI · 11/08/2025 21:35

Those of you on the right, especially Reform voters, who wang on about wanting ‘freedom of speech’, and objecting to anyone here who is saying that MN shouldn’t allow racist posts - you need to understand that we do have freedom of speech in the UK, but it comes with certain responsibilities. You simply cannot say anything that you wish, and then defend it by saying it’s freedom of speech.

What does the law say about freedom of speech?
The right to freedom of speech is protected under common law in the UK. It is also guaranteed under Article 10 of the European Convention on Human Rights (ECHR), where “everyone has the right to freedom of expression”. This right is incorporated into UK law by the Human Rights Act (HRA) 1998, where the HRA requires the courts to interpret legislation in a way which is compatible with the Article 10 ECHR right so far as it is possible to do so.

Under the Article 10 right, freedom of expression includes the right “to hold opinions and to receive and impart information and ideas without interference by public authority”. This means that both the public and the press are able to share what they think, feel and believe without censorship, even where the expression of their views may shock, disturb or offend the deeply-held beliefs of others.

This is not, however, an absolute right. It carries with it duties and responsibilities, and can be “subject to formalities, conditions, restrictions or penalties”. Still, any limitations on the right to free speech must be both “prescribed by law” and “necessary in a democratic society”. These limitations must also be proportionate.

Subject to these conditions, Article 10 goes on to specify the limited circumstances in which the right to free speech can be legitimately curtailed. These include where it is in the interests of national security or public safety; for the prevention of crime and disorder; for the prevention of disclosure of information received in confidence; for the protection of health or morals; for the protection of the rights and reputation of others; as well as for maintaining the authority and impartiality of the judiciary.

From: https://www.lawble.co.uk/freedom-of-speech/
What is Freedom of Speech in the UK? - Lawble
Freedom of speech forms a fundamental part of our democracy. The UK public and press enjoy some of the greatest freedoms of anyone in the world to express their opinions and ideas. The following guide on the rules relating to freedom of speech in the U...
https://www.lawble.co.uk/freedom-of-speech/

What is Freedom of Speech in the UK? - Lawble

Freedom of speech forms a fundamental part of our democracy. The UK public and press enjoy some of the greatest freedoms of anyone in the world to express their opinions and ideas. The following guide on the rules relating to freedom of speech in the U...

https://www.lawble.co.uk/freedom-of-speech/

Ashley911 · 11/08/2025 21:40

Hardtothink · 10/08/2025 20:22

I don 't know the thread you are talking about here but there is a current thread in AIBU which turned into a farce because a lot of posters thought the thread wasn't genuine and were openly mocking the OP.
I reported a couple of the posts and pointed out the thread had lost all credibility. I got a response from MN that they were " looking at the thread" and I saw that they deleted some posts. But even though I questioned in my feed back why the thread was being allowed to stand I got no further response from MN.
I was really disappointed because I'd always thought their moderation of threads was quite responsible. In the case I'm talking about it seemed entertainment value was more important than it being a genuine thread.

If you feel a thread is racist and you have reported it as such and the thread is being allowed to stand then it is very concerning.

I saw a jokey looking thread about an hour ago, is it against talk guidelines to make silly threads ? (obviously not related to OP concern)

MyDeftHedgehog · 11/08/2025 21:42

PandoraSocks · 11/08/2025 17:02

I am not disputing those were horrifically let down by the absolute failure and corruption of the authorities.

Weaponising the events to smear a good man is in poor taste.

Edited

Good man who called one of his constituents a bigot 😉

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 21:44

You need to check with MN @Ashley911 I can’t keep up with the moderation rules these days so I mainly stick to threads with posters who I’ve been chatting to for years on here. It’s safer that way. Posting anywhere else, even on this thread, is fraught with uncertainty.

PandoraSocks · 11/08/2025 21:44

MyDeftHedgehog · 11/08/2025 21:42

Good man who called one of his constituents a bigot 😉

Freedom of speech, innit.

P.S. he wasn't wrong. Also, she wasn't his constituent.

Eta: this is the exchange below.

Duffy said: "We had it drummed in when I was a child … it was education, health service and looking after the people who are vulnerable. But there's too many people now who are vulnerable but they can claim and people who are vulnerable can't get claim, can't get it."

Brown replied: "But they shouldn't be doing that, there is no life on the dole for people any more. If you are unemployed you've got to go back to work. It's six months…"

Duffy interjected: "You can't say anything about the immigrants because you're saying that you're … but all these eastern European what are coming in, where are they flocking from?"

Brown said that although there were 1 million immigrants to Europe from Britain, there were also 1 million Britons who had moved to Europe.

At the end of the exchange Brown said: "Good to see you. Thanks very much." He got in the car and seconds later is heard saying: "That was a disaster," before calling Duffy "bigoted".

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/08/2025 21:45

PhilippaGeorgiou · 11/08/2025 21:35

Just to be utterly clear, YABVVVU, because we all know that Ug was seen hanging around with those Neanderthals, and Grog told me that (don't tell anyone) Ug's dad was a Neanderthal. Or was it Australopithecus? One of those things. I get them all very confused, but Flint told me they rape homo sapiens females and implant them to make hybrids, which is something very different from working from your cave apparently....

😂
The idea that we were “working” caves has made my night!

You are probably correct!

Ashley911 · 11/08/2025 21:47

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 21:44

You need to check with MN @Ashley911 I can’t keep up with the moderation rules these days so I mainly stick to threads with posters who I’ve been chatting to for years on here. It’s safer that way. Posting anywhere else, even on this thread, is fraught with uncertainty.

Well, it sounds nice to find a social media forum where you can safely talk to the same people for years, anyway.

JaneJeffer · 11/08/2025 21:48

Ashley911 · 11/08/2025 21:47

Well, it sounds nice to find a social media forum where you can safely talk to the same people for years, anyway.

Thank God for those lovely people

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/08/2025 21:48

I have no idea why those quotes appeared in my reply @PhilippaGeorgiou .🥴

I suppose those Neanderthal genes will out.

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