Sorry I disappeared for a bit MIL arrived for a cuppa. Will try to answer questions now.
will you be putting it in and out a car at all.
Will have to put it in and out of the back of a Renault scenic once in a while. Occasionally with all 7 seats in use.
and will 3yo be hitching a ride? either by means of a board or by "perching" somewhere on the pram.
I hope not I am trying to get him used to the walk as he will be 4 within a few weeks of baby arriving
are you bothered about it being rear facing once lo is out the carrycot and into pushchair mode.
I like to be able to chose which way to face the kids. With dd and ds we used to have great chats with them facing me and as they got a bit bigger we turned the seat round for them to watch the world more iyswim.
would you be happy with a soft carrycot? or do you want a solid framed one?
Would really like a solid frame so I don't have to buy a Moses basket as well
does it need to go with a particular car seat at all?
No not really. I have a rockatot and a graco 1st stage seat but dh is on about getting an isofix as we have the right kind of car for those now. Will leave the seat n the car as a permanent feature same as the seats for the older 2! Mum will keep the graco at hers as she is most likely to be the one we call in an emergency, and mil will have the rockatot for their use iyswim.
when you occasionally use the bus is it a big wide double door type. or a kind where you would have to fold the pram?
All our buses are the kind that have wheelchair/pram/pushchair access.