How to dominate a man in bed

[Aquabluemouse]

I’m generally more submissive in the bedroom but my FWB has said it really turns him on when a woman dominates him, which I'm happy to oblige. We’ve spoken about it and he doesn’t want to be tied up and he doesn’t want to receive any significant pain (hair pulling,
a bit of scratching, gentle bites are the extent of what he would tolerate) but anything else goes.

So really I need tips on how to dominate him, ideally from both women and men on here, in a non-painful, non-restrained kind of way. Any help is much appreciated!!

You can come over to mine & practice on me ;)

There was a thread on here recently about facesitting, that's a great way to asset control, and gets you lots of pleasure too

🤣 thanks for the offer

I think he’d probably like that…but how much sitting does it involve as I don’t want to smother him? 😬🤣 Do I hover above him and just grind against his face??

Confidence is key, fake it if you need to. You need him to feel like you're pleasure is the priority, that your pussy is all that matters. Telling him those things isn't as hot as showing him and letting him realise for himself.

You said non-restrained, do you just mean without ropes/harnesses/cuffs? Facesitting is obviously a good way to dominate a man, if you restrain his arms between your knees and the balls of your feet, it'll make him feel a little helpless.
Generally, a man is likely to be stronger and will be letting you dominate him physically but if you use your words, he can't fight that.

Have him beg to eat pussy, make eating pussy a reward for good behaviour and doing other things. Have him thank you for sitting on his face. Tell him he's your bitch. The difficulty is usually having the confidence to treat him like that or talk to him in that way. If that's too extreme, just talking bluntly and telling him to do what you want with the expectation that he will comply will have an affect, it's all about the confidence.

Happy to suggest more, let me know, I'm not sure how tame or extreme you're thinking.

@ibegyounottoyour post has exactly the tips I need. The confidence thing I can definitely do. Non-restrained…yes no cuffs, ropes, tying him up etc. He said he might be open to that later but not to start with. I do like the idea of restraining him with my body though and like you say he is stronger than me but it will give him the feeling of being restrained but knowing he can push me off easily/I can release him easily if he felt uncomfortable.

Any other suggestions gladly welcome, tame to extreme. He really wants to be dominated by me but he’s been hesitant to tell me what he wants because he’s worried about scaring me away. I know he’d like me to peg him.

@Aquabluemouse make him see you’re no longer going to put up with familiarity and boredom! He accepts from now on you re in charge of what happens sexually, how he dresses, how he will put on your lacy pants!! He will, yes, will stand in front of you and mastubate himself to show you he is under your control! He will apologise when he cums, then clean up!

Have a look at chastity cages.
If he's up for pegging, you can get butt plugs (in varying sizes 😈) pretty cheap. Demand he wears one to the shops, or to work.
Make him wear stockings and suspenders.
Tell him he has to iron your laundry or cook for you in the nude. Or to mastubate in front of you and then kick him out of the house when he's done.
The list goes on and there's fun to be had down the rabbit hole. Have a look for Girl On The Net's blog - she's written about some useful ideas.

He'll tell you he'd like you to peg him but doesn't want to scare you with the rest?!😂I find it strange then that he's not open to being restrained. Anyway...

I know I said your pussy is all that matters but that's what he needs to think. Having control of when he can orgasm is also a fun way to dominate a man. If you get him really close to cumming and then back off, it will frustrate him but probably make him really submissive too. If you can hold him in that almost cumming state (edging), you can make him beg to cum but probably even beg to eat pussy, have fun with it.

If you're considering pegging him and aren't too grossed out by the idea, you could try putting a finger in his ass while giving him a handjob. Obviously have your finger lubed and don't go straight for it, just teasing him with it, circle around it, apply pressure, it should get him feeling pretty dominated.

@ibegyounottoI did question him about how extreme he wanted to be dominated after he mentioned me pegging him because to me that seems quite extreme-his response was kind of vague when I asked what he actually wanted from it. He came up with the list of things he didn’t want, but vague about what he did want 🤣 And he’s adamant he doesn’t want to be cuffed to the bed or anything like that.

Thank you for your help, you’ve already given me lots of ideas. I think the key for me is the confidence and tone of voice I need to use as I’m usually a very smiley, polite woman and obviously that needs to go! 🤣 Need to bring out my inner bitch!

@ReidwoodI love that idea. There’s something I love about seeing a man masturbate whilst I watch. A kind of vulnerability on his face that you don’t often see in men.

@mnmndddddlots of great ideas. Thank you! I think I’m going to have a lot of fun with him. He won’t recognise me next time we meet- all these suggestions are the complete opposite of my personality so hopefully they’ll hit the mark with him 🤣

It's always the quiet ones. 🤣

Have a browse on Uberkinky and Bondara for toys. Even if you don't have the budget, you might get some ideas (or you can oblige him pay for whatever you decide needs to be used on him).

It might help you to dress differently... so that you feel confident and like a different persona. You don't have to go full leather catsuit dominatrix but maybe some heels, some lingerie, whatever makes you feel confident, powerful and sexy.

I assume he has something in mind and is just hoping you'll figure it out. Maybe take a couples kink quiz online? Or force him to tell you in exchange for letting him cum...

🤣 it’s so true about the quiet ones. Thanks for your help. I’ve had so many great suggestions.

I am actually going to do that…force him to tell me what he wants in exchange for letting him cum. That will send him wild.

You could make him do your ironing or cleaning fully dressed as a French maid with a heavy weight hanging from his balls. (Available from all good online sex shops!)

Win win, he gets his domination kicks and you get those boring chores done. Of course, if his work isn’t up to standard (and it won’t be 😉) you can then put him over your knee and give him a good hard spanking to finish off.

I'm trying to think what it might be that he's into but it could be literally anything. You could always pick something, tell him you think he's into it and threaten to do it unless he tells you what it really is instead... Ideas are feet, being made to eat his own cum, small penis humiliation, ruined orgasms, endless list really.

Jeez, this thread is an eye watering , eye opener...

Who would have thought "mumsnet" of all places was peopled with such wanton, dominant , filthy women ;)

And I thought sex was just a chore for most mums on here:))

I love it if my wife tells me to kneel down and worship her stocking covered feet and heels. I’m naked except for a collar - she treats me with distain. Texting or watching tv - ignoring me. My desire grows. After I beg, she allows me to worship her bottom and vagina - giving her multiple orgasms. When she is satisfied I’m the told to lie on the floor under her feet. She allows me to grind against her feet until I ejaculate. Hot, sweaty, pathetic and dominated.

I mean it’s not for everyone but we enjoy it! Hope that helps and have fun.

Ah jayzus, tell us what you really like , won't ya!? :))

Pretty much! It feels good 😂

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I have to say that before posting I wondered if this was the right forum to post in as I thought the suggestions I got might be a bit tame or prudish…turns out I was wrong! Thanks everyone for the suggestions! A lot for me to work with! 🤣🤣

I love finding out what people get up to behind closed doors. And it’s always the people you least expect… 👀

Some food for thought here! Thank you!