Contemplating hiring a female escort

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Lately I have been thinking more and more about women rather than men

I want to experiment but also feel confident, and have been thinking about hiring a high end escort to “show me the ropes”

Has anyone ever done this? And is it an awful idea?

Cold, professional and in loving.

Look in the right places you’ll find far more affection and care x

Yeah I get that. But I want to experiment and someone to show me what to do, whilst not feeling any pressure to have to impress them! And surely if I hire a high end lady she won’t be cold and unprofessional!

I’d suggest trying fab swingers website first to see if you find like minded on there

it was last Xmas I was lucky & a friend of mine offered to scratch my girl itch.

No, it’s not an awful idea. Adultwork have escorts all over the uk. Read their bio’s thoroughly and their reviews and avoid the ones who offer everything with no protection and that sort of crazy stuff. Plenty of intelligent, polite girls who like other girls.

Cue Mumsnets usual double standards….go go go!!

@BrickUser i was thinking of using a really high end one so that there’s less chance they are being exploited etc 😬

I know it’s not ideal but I really don’t fancy trawling hook up sites, I want to try it as a one off

Yes. It’s an awful idea. You can’t buy consent - morally. It’s always exploitative.

I tried this but got nowhere.. back to square one ...

Within reason, you could buy mine for the right price.

@Changehaircolour As an alternative to prostitution, have you considered Feeld (more aimed at those interested in non traditional dating paradigms than most OLD sites) or WAX (an offshoot of Killing Kittens)?

The person who wants to buy your consent doesn’t care about your reasons. You can say yes or no. Unless you can’t say no. I wonder how many people “working” in this industry really can say no. I think you are speaking hypothetically (“you could”) - I imagine the reality is different. Paid For by Rachel Moran is a good book.

I'm well aware that many sex workers have far less choice than may be apparent, or at the very least, may have had little choice in their past. I'm just saying that "can't buy consent" is not an absolute.
I'd recommend having a listen to Woman's Hour from a few weeks ago. (Sorry, can't remember the date.) There were a couple of "younger" women who said they had dated "older" men, and part of that was about money and power. It's a blurred line between a Gucci purse and the cash to stuff in it.

Well you could pay a woman to show you but I’m not sure what you’d achieve in one session. You’d be better off joining Skirt Club or Killing Kittens and making some friends.

There’s a Mumsnet group on WeAreX if you want to connect with me on there. x

I’d rather be in bed with a trusted friend where we could have a laugh about the whole thing as we try to get each other off (and then order pizza) than the nerves of meeting a professional.

How come anytime we see thread about men using prostitutes, women on here always describe those men as utterly disgusting.

And the women on here write about how awful it is to pay for those women.

Yet now a woman wants to use a prostitute, it's suddenly not awful and disgusting.

Why?

I wouldn't do it OP. You'd be paying for a human.

Go out to a lesbian bar instead.

Also you say you want a "high end escort to show you the ropes".

How would a high end escort who presumably sleeps mainly with men, know a lot about female sex anyway?

Go to a lesbian bar. They'd know all about it

Hadn’t realised there were many escorts for women but why not start with lesbian dating sites?

Lesbian bars don't really exist any more and mixed/ gay venues aren't full of confident single lesbian women waiting to hit on nervous newbies I'm afraid!

Surely you want whoever you sleep with to both genuinely enjoy giving you attention and to want your attention too? Paying someone to fake enthusiasm / consent is the exact opposite of what is amazing about sex with a woman!

Do have a look at Skirt Club or a ladies only night at your local swinging venue though. Killing Kittens is a bit more for the male gaze / couples but still an option, as is Feeld.

Because the purchase of a woman's consent by a man is a symptom of an unequal society where men get what they want, on a grand scale, at the expense of women. A patriarchy, if you will.

I'm not saying that the purchase of a woman's consent by a woman is all fine and dandy. Far from it (OP I know nothing about same sex attraction but something tells me you won't have a great time with a prostituted woman, high class or otherwise) but at least it's a meeting of equals rather than the stronger more powerful sex getting what he wants from the weaker less powerful one in exchange for money.

The sex trade in general makes me sad, and the world would be a better place if nobody ever bought sex off anybody. But personally speaking I'm not going to get all riled up if one woman wants to have a bit of a go on a fanny when there's millions of men all over the world having their way with disadvantaged women every single day. Probably billions if you take porn into account.

I tried skirt club and paid the £50 joining fee but the forums are really quiet and I didn’t have much luck.

I don’t really want to try dating sites, as everything I have read says that lesbians hate it when previously hetro women rock up wanting to experiment

No lesbians honestly don't care in the slightest how hetero you were before.

Lots of women are bi, or decide to date women for a while.

On Tinder you'll get matches with women.

There are definitely still lesbian bars, as i walked past one recently. Go in and get chatting.

Unpopular opinion incoming - I don’t think it’s a bad idea. But. Try going to a strip club and having a private booth as a test. Lots of couples and women do this. I have. There is huge amounts of exploitation but not all sex workers feel or are exploited. See how you feel in this space. You’ll feel more than likely very excited. With an escort, you can arrange to meet in a bar to see how you get on first. I understand what you mean - you don’t want to feel weird and want to have a guide that has no emotional connection and (hopefully) really knows what she is doing. I’d also suggest there are great websites and videos that you can watch to train yourself too. You know what you like - think about that and experiment. Go on dates with women and get to hang perhaps too without any pressure for sex. See how you get on. Be open about what you are seeking and where your head is at tho x

I'm laughing that any of you, including you OP, think a prostitute "knows what she is doing "

Or that she would care about your pleasure in any way.

They don't.

They want to get money, and get out of there as quickly as possible.

@Lallydallydune im not talking about a couple of hundred pounds escort, I’m talking about around £1000 (high class). Of course she would care about my pleasure, that would be the whole point 😆

Changehaircolour, "high class" is just a name that a lot of them give themselves.

No, giving you pleasure is not the whole point. Them making money is the point. They don't care at all about your pleasure.

I was just reading an article where a male celeb wrote that he paid for a "high class" escort. He said that it was an awful experience.

Why don't you just pop into a gay bar.

I'm mainly straight. But if I feel like it in the future, I may go for a woman.

I went into a gay bar a couple of times with my friend who was actually gay.

About four different women chatted me up.