Page 3 | Contemplating hiring a female escort

Moresunlessrain · 23/12/2024 14:43

StarlightLady · 22/12/2024 20:32

I really am not a killjoy. Am l the only one here though who, as a fairly regular contributor, including this particular thread, thinks to use MN as a contact dating site would be a recipe for disaster?

It is not what MN or the sex section is for, it would risk things going out of control, be difficult if not possible to police and the Daily Mail would have a field day. Spare a thought for the administrators.

I think you are all better off in lesbian friendly venues, and let this site focus on those seeking discussion, advice and help. 🌈

I totally agree with you. I received 4 unsolicited pm from men just from one comment I made on a sex forum post recently. There are obviously a lot of men hanging around hoping to prey on vulnerable women on here. If there was any hint of 'hookups' being part of MN it would be ten times worse I'm sure.

I wish men could let women have a space on the internet to discuss sex without them trying to muscle in or even worse. There are so many hookup apps. No need at all for this on mumsnet!!!

Maccar305 · 23/12/2024 14:51

Yes, absolutely @StarlightLady, totally understand and agree.....on both points actually. x
(tin hat removed)

icclemunchy · 05/01/2025 06:43

There is an event called Ruby slippers at townhouse on the wirral. I'd highly recommend it for those who are curious. It attracts a wide mix of bi/bi curious and lesbians and you wouldn't be the first one to be dipping in a toe.

The venue itself is great fun, always clean and the staff top notch when it comes to enforcing rules.

DrWu · 05/01/2025 21:49

PinotPony · 02/12/2024 17:43

Well you could pay a woman to show you but I’m not sure what you’d achieve in one session. You’d be better off joining Skirt Club or Killing Kittens and making some friends.

There’s a Mumsnet group on WeAreX if you want to connect with me on there. x

I’d rather be in bed with a trusted friend where we could have a laugh about the whole thing as we try to get each other off (and then order pizza) than the nerves of meeting a professional.

Where is the group? I'm on killing kittens and we are x, but can't find the Mumsnet group! I'd love to join it! X

PinotPony · 05/01/2025 22:51

DrWu · 05/01/2025 21:49

Where is the group? I'm on killing kittens and we are x, but can't find the Mumsnet group! I'd love to join it! X

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I’ve sent you a DM x

Littlefoxy · 08/01/2025 05:32

I’m bisexual and single. In the last year I’ve only slept with women and it’s been a casual thing. I’d suggest Tinder or similar apps, make it clear you’re only looking for casual and set your profile to look for women. Yes some women don’t want to hook up with someone experimenting but that’s not the case for everyone.

Trickytrix · 10/01/2025 13:06

Similar to @Changehaircolour I am confused, it is slightly! different. There has been no contact with men for several years. I now have a new woman friend who I think likes me in more than a friendly or matey way. Twice I considered kissing her. I wish I could know what the next step might be.

StarlightLady · 10/01/2025 13:14

Trickytrix · 10/01/2025 13:06

Similar to @Changehaircolour I am confused, it is slightly! different. There has been no contact with men for several years. I now have a new woman friend who I think likes me in more than a friendly or matey way. Twice I considered kissing her. I wish I could know what the next step might be.

There are so many “what may have been situations” which never happen because of nerves and reluctance. In the past l have got it wrong and misread someone’s signals; a tad awkward at the time but you don’t get anywhere in life without a little risk. I have got it right more times though.

You need to ask her how she feels in a gentle way. You know her, so you are the best one to choose those words.

A kiss out the blue might be unwanted, so probably best avoided unless you can pull up your big girl knickers and say “can l kiss you?”

Please don’t go through life feeling “if only” though.

Trickytrix · 10/01/2025 13:37

Thanks @StarlightLady . My phrase will be I want to. . . not May I. . .

Nowt to lose in some ways.
She is coming round tonight, we shall be watching a film. Snuggled close on the sofa. (In my mind already).
The wine and the food is bought.
Just writing it on here and your answer crystallised it for me. 😎x

Trickytrix · 11/01/2025 08:57

Update: A very enjoyable evening. A wonderful first woman to woman kiss for me.
We shall meet again, we do like each other.

Dexysmidnightstroller · 11/01/2025 12:01

Trickytrix · 11/01/2025 08:57

Update: A very enjoyable evening. A wonderful first woman to woman kiss for me.
We shall meet again, we do like each other.

Lovely to hear. Hope it goes well.

PostReader · 12/01/2025 02:35

Changehaircolour · 30/11/2024 15:57

Lately I have been thinking more and more about women rather than men

I want to experiment but also feel confident, and have been thinking about hiring a high end escort to “show me the ropes”

Has anyone ever done this? And is it an awful idea?

As a lesbian, I think that this is a horrible idea. Hiring in an exploited woman who won’t be into it to ‘show you the ropes’

Go on a dating app but be clear about what you want… and don’t bring your boyfriend like the rest of the creepy heterosexual couples on there

Trickytrix · 12/01/2025 09:37

I think @PostReader is absolutely right. There have been many posts on earlier threads about relationship between two women being real and as valid, even the late developers like myself. It is not just a gimmick to give a new sensation in a 3some.
I had my first date (see above). I am new to this, had I had tuition from an 'expert' it would have made no difference to how I responded to my girlfriends reaction to our first kiss. I have read about sex, I know about sexting. I certainly know what I like when I am by myself! The gf will know what she likes so we shall work it out because there is friendship and affection between us.

Dexysmidnightstroller · 12/01/2025 19:58

Trickytrix · 12/01/2025 09:37

I think @PostReader is absolutely right. There have been many posts on earlier threads about relationship between two women being real and as valid, even the late developers like myself. It is not just a gimmick to give a new sensation in a 3some.
I had my first date (see above). I am new to this, had I had tuition from an 'expert' it would have made no difference to how I responded to my girlfriends reaction to our first kiss. I have read about sex, I know about sexting. I certainly know what I like when I am by myself! The gf will know what she likes so we shall work it out because there is friendship and affection between us.

Agreed - and aside from anything else, women can enjoy acts in a very different way, so what works for one (the professional you supposedly hire) wouldn’t necessarily work with the next anyway.

Trickytrix · 12/01/2025 21:44

We had a very pleasant afternoon.
It may be that when 2 female novices are together, both are waiting for the other to take the lead. Today I took charge, GF was relieved I think.
It doesn't mean I have to become butch, I knew what I wanted, I asked her what she was happy with.

SuePine69 · 19/01/2025 10:28

ISpyNoPlumPie · 02/12/2024 16:29

The person who wants to buy your consent doesn’t care about your reasons. You can say yes or no. Unless you can’t say no. I wonder how many people “working” in this industry really can say no. I think you are speaking hypothetically (“you could”) - I imagine the reality is different. Paid For by Rachel Moran is a good book.

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Have you read Paid For? I often wonder if people who recommend Paid For have actually read it. It doesn't say what you seem to think it says.

Rachel Moran didn't have anal sex when she was a prostitute. She didn't have any penetrative sex for the first two years she was in prostitution. It was only in 1993 when the law changed in Ireland that she started having penetrative sex. Even then she only did it 'sporadically' because she preferred to be a dominatrix.

She writes about middle class women that she knew in prostitution. Which is interesting because some people want to believe they are all underprivileged with no other choices. She writes about women making and banking large amounts of money. Which is interesting because some people want to believe they hand it all over to pimps.

DarklisAndIsa · 12/02/2025 21:07

PinotPony · 02/12/2024 17:43

Well you could pay a woman to show you but I’m not sure what you’d achieve in one session. You’d be better off joining Skirt Club or Killing Kittens and making some friends.

There’s a Mumsnet group on WeAreX if you want to connect with me on there. x

I’d rather be in bed with a trusted friend where we could have a laugh about the whole thing as we try to get each other off (and then order pizza) than the nerves of meeting a professional.

Hi @PinotPony :) I've been trying to find the Mumsnet group but can't seem to see it, are you able to point me in the right direction please? I am legit, happy to prove it if needed but couldn't work out how to DM you on here!

kmb01 · 28/02/2025 13:08

Hi @PinotPony i would also be interested in joining the mumsnet group on WeAreX. Not joined yet as it felt a bit daunting but if there is an existing group then it feels less so!

kmb01 · 28/02/2025 17:14

Trickytrix · 12/01/2025 21:44

We had a very pleasant afternoon.
It may be that when 2 female novices are together, both are waiting for the other to take the lead. Today I took charge, GF was relieved I think.
It doesn't mean I have to become butch, I knew what I wanted, I asked her what she was happy with.

@Trickytrix for someone in a similar situ this is lovely to read. Thank you for sharing! 😊

Springtimefordaffs · 03/03/2025 12:19

@Trickytrix , my own experience has been similar to yours, I hope all is still going well with your GF.
My friend and I have known each other for a two years but friendship only became romantic and sexy recently. It seems we were both wanting it to 'hot up' but we were reluctant to make the first move. It was she who kissed me first. It was like an electric shock.