Contemplating hiring a female escort

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Lately I have been thinking more and more about women rather than men

I want to experiment but also feel confident, and have been thinking about hiring a high end escort to “show me the ropes”

Has anyone ever done this? And is it an awful idea?

That's not true at all...I'm an escort and I always try to make sure my clients have a nice time. I always chat to them and find out what they like etc. Obviously I want the repeat business but who wouldn't in a job. It honestly doesn't pay to be a complete butch as no-one would want to book you again. Regular clients that you get on with are your bread and butter...

I think this whole thread should be taken down.

I don't think anyone should be promoting prostitution on mumsnet.

For the one "happy prostitute' who wrote above me,

we all know that there are horrendous stories of women being trafficked into prostitution in the UK

Hi just a reminder that sex work is entirely legal (aside from N Ireland) - soliciting is not. It’s an interesting wider topic on how can policy improve working conditions for women, incl ofc, sex workers.

There are different ways a woman can get sex with a woman without paying a stranger. One woman on MN was picked up at the gym; changing in the communal area. Admiring glances going for coffee making sure you haven't misread the situation.
I was introduced by a friend of a friend.
On the other hand, in a gay pub I was called a 'tourist' by a long term lesbian.

Good luck OP.

Do you mind if I send you a private message?

of course not @AmandeFrance0979 👍

On the other hand, in a gay pub I was called a 'tourist' by a long term lesbian.

Do you mean some of them have actually been going at it for a very long time? 😶

Do you think it's possible that some of those... aren't into men at all? shudder

I think you could do worse than a site such as fabswingers. Go to a couple of socials and don’t rush into it. Take your time and find a lady willing to teach,

play safe in every aspect and take care

@Lallydallydune are you in the UK? I'm curious where these bars you mentioned are! Both She (London) & Vanilla (Manc) are a very young crowd and as far as I know are the only two lesbian venues that still exist.

Ok at risk of being flamed I have previously worked as an escort.

a surprising number of women such as yourself have contacted me over the years. I have met lots of them and had amazing fun with many, and I hope they had the same experience.

be careful of those doing it for drug money etc, there are plenty, but there are some like myself who genuinely enjoyed it. Financially I never needed to do it, I genuinely got pleasure from meeting men and women and found a lot of the sex was far more kinky, exciting etc etc than I could ever have had through conventional meets.

find the right escort and it could be an amazing experience for you. Be choosy, but also don’t assume higher price = better experience, in my opinion it doesn’t, some of the girls I was aware of in my area who charged at the lower end were the ones who really loved it, the ones who charged at the higher end were hoping for that one booking that would mean they didn’t have to do 9 others if that makes sense?

The term “tourist” is sometimes used in the lesbian community about bi curious women and, sometimes, bi women more generally. In part, at least, is due to not wishing to be seen as an experiment or a “done that” notch on a rainbow coloured bed post.

But that does not describe all lesbian women by any means. Plus there are lots of genuinely bi women out there, many who’ve had a later in life discovery. I discovered my bi side in my 30s when l was taken quite by surprise.

Certainly, lesbian bars do exist and most are welcoming and comfortable.

l think the issues about escorts have been well addressed in this thread already, l’ll just add one thing though. You might be able to buy “service”’, if you can call it that, but you can’t buy passion.

Thank you @StarlightLady , You are right again. I am also one of the late developers after divorce. I am still in that 'am I totally serious about this' stage. I have dated women but not met a long term friend that I could commit with yet. Perhaps a 50 yr old newbie is a stretch for some?🤔
I have been treated very well so far.

@Phoebefail - with the exception of death (which is pretty finite!), people do not time expire. There are lots of women out there who, for various reasons are seeking pastures new, partners new and adventures new. All with different degrees of seriousness.

Long term compatible partners, be they men or women may be at the end of the rainbow, but the journey along the yellow brick road can be fun. 🌈

Not complaining at all, it is fun having a new kind of date, even started sexting, but I sometimes think that when younger I did not expect to be facing this kind of challenge at this age.

NC for this but I find it really interesting that a lot of women on mumsnet seem to get to a certain point in life and realise they have bi curious feelings. It’s something I’d like to explore (being with a woman, not hiring an escort!!) but it’s difficult to navigate if you want to do it discreetly. Skirt club might be the best option.

Also namechanged! I'm in a similar situation with curiosity later in life. I know I'm beyond the just curious stage but finding another woman who has similar wants has proven to be extremely difficult. A hook up appears much more achievable but I'm not looking for a meaningless hookup, nor a serious relationship.

Edited to say I've been on fabswingers, and various others and it's absolutely tiring filtering out those with less than genuine intentions including those looking for the elusive unicorn!

I'e had a few GF's in the past that were bi curious and wanted to know if they were bisexual. They went on dating apps catering for women. I think one was OKC. I don't remember the others, could of been POF.
They just got chatting and arranged dates rather than hook ups or ONS. It took a little while but they did find success.

That sort of sums up my feelings as well @LadyBlunder . I couldn’t imagine having a first experience as just a hook up, it would be too awkward. At the same time, I do see myself settling down with a man eventually so nothing too serious either. Finding someone on the same wavelength would be the ideal scenario but it seems impossible.

Why don't all you curious women exchange numbers / meet for a drink?

There was a similar group of women who met on MN 3 or 4 years ago (thread now sadly deleted) and via a chat group some of them started (off of MN) there were several social meet ups and a lots of on-line support and chat. I know a few f/f relationships, several hook ups and a number of lasting friendships have developed as a result of that thread.

Sounds like a good idea @BunnyOnTheOnion

Some kind of safe (not a catfishing male) Would be a great help to those later life Bi friends.
I was like this some time ago, but I started a chat with another 'curious' woman here on MN. We compared how we felt and that led to sexting.
IRL we both did have relationships with women. Our Friendship lasted for several months. She Is now with a man and content. I have had several short term relationships with women. I seek another.
I feel that MN hierarchy will stop this soon. So make your contacts now.

I really am not a killjoy. Am l the only one here though who, as a fairly regular contributor, including this particular thread, thinks to use MN as a contact dating site would be a recipe for disaster?

It is not what MN or the sex section is for, it would risk things going out of control, be difficult if not possible to police and the Daily Mail would have a field day. Spare a thought for the administrators.

I think you are all better off in lesbian friendly venues, and let this site focus on those seeking discussion, advice and help. 🌈

It's interesting that those considering first-time same-sex sex would contemplate hiring an escort. I don't imagine they would ever have hired a male escort.

If we were wanting to contact fellow crochet enthusiasts (love it btw & I'm M) @StarlightLady, I'm sure the moral compass wouldn't even twitch, but OMG, if those sex enthusiasts on the ..... um, sex thread, try to contact each other, the MN morality police are quicker than the Stasi ....
No, I agree, those mature, responsible adults probably best go elsewhere.....and agree also, can you imagine if I as a M, asked here for advice on hiring an "ethical F escort?"
..... now, where's my tin hat 😉

You don’t need a tin hat, but perhaps acknowledge and appreciate that it is women who are the most often abused in society. NB: l did not say entirely women.

And l would not support hiring an escort of either sex. Passion is what can make sex magical, there is no passion with a bough “service”.