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[TwistedForest]

Hey Mumsnetters! So perhaps this isn't the best place to ask this question but here goes!

I have a male partner, no kids, both in our 30s and recently we got to talking (over a good few drinks) about our sexual history and I told him about a drunken fumble I had with a woman years ago. This progressed into a further conversation about my sexuality and curiousity about women/if I might be bi.. the conversation was relaxed and fun and he didn't seem phased at all.. he then suggested that I might think about exploring this further alone.. HE suggested! We both found the thought a turn on and the night ended very steamy indeed (best sex we've had in months) it's nit since been mentioned.

Ever since it's all I can think about and I'm seriously considering possibly trying to find a woman to date. But how does one go about this?? Do I try search for women in similar situations (bi curious with partner) are there other women out there in my position? Would lesbian or bisexual women find this off-putting? I'm not even sure what I'd be looking for.

I guess any experiences/guidence would be a great help! Anyone else been in this situation? Also, am I being super selfish here?

Another one. 🙄

Ha ha well hopefully that means more women out there who has the same situation! Looking for support I guess.

No, I don’t think that’s it.

Can I ask what you meant?

I'm married to a man but when I dated women in the past I used Plenty of Fish.

I've had bicurious partners previously. They always used dating sites to meet other women.

To the man who has PM’d me because I have commented on this thread and a similar one....FUCK OFF!

Careful what you wish for.
Inviting someone else in can work perfectly fine but there is a risk that you're both not 💯 on the same wavelength and thats why it not been raised again since. Talk about it away from the booze and with your clothes on so you're sure it's what you both want

I’m going to say the same as @Biggyfoot. Don’t press ahead after a drunken conversation, speak again when sober and see if he still wants this and agree some ground rules

I'm in the same position/situation. Can't really offer much advice though because I don't know how to navigate it either! 😂

Place-marking... 😀I'm in a similar situation too! How long have you been with your partner OP?

I've been with my partner for 2 years @dontfeedtheunicorn07 how about your situation?

As per @Biggyfoot @Zanatdy suggestions I'm hoping to start a sober conversation with him tonight.. Wish me luck guys! Any thoughts to how I can aproach this?

Good luck!
Just swallow your anxiety and start with, "do you remember that conversation?"

@TwistedForest I've been with my male partner for just over a year. He's bisexual himself and we quite like the idea of an open relationship and think now is the time to dip our toes in so to speak.. your thread reignited the urge 😅

Thanks!! @Biggyfoot I followed your advise and casually started the conversation similar to how you suggested. He said along the lines off "oh yes, that was an interesting conversation, are you still set on that? Do you already have someone in mind?"

I basically just responded as sinilar in here about not even knowing where to start in trying to meet women etc etc.. he just said he's cool with it aslong as we are very mature and meticulous about open and honest communication. And that was it! Soo, it seems positive? I'm not sure if he's thinking it's something I need to get out of my system. Feels a bit surreal and scary right now.

@dontfeedtheunicorn07 glad my thread sparked your interest! Have you had the 'chat' and have you tried looking for women yet?

Good idea @dontfeedtheunicorn07 !

It's no longer allowed to invite PMs on the sex board after everything that happened with the sex chat thread.

Hey guys! I have no idea about what happened on the sex chat thread. I just want to clarify that I started this thread in the hopes of creating some sort of discussion around this topic. It seems it's something that could be talked about more freely whilst being beneficial to those in similar positions 🙂

I'd suggest tinder for a hook up. But I have to be honest, I'm not sure you will be an appealing option, what with being married to a man.

I am a bisexual women who has a hard boundary around allowing my same-sex attraction to be fetishised by my male partners, so yes, some lesbian and bisexual women would be offended by this.

Hey @User1789 when we spoke about ut we agreed tgat I would not share details erc and he doesn't want to know except the basics like for safety. Sorry if it came across in a different way. All parties would ve respected with honesty and communication. It's for me to explore and nothibg to do with him. But yes I'm sorry for how it came across. I guess it's a sensitive subject and i'm beginning to really think about it from all angles.

Oh and I'm not married nor living with my partner - something else I should have mentioned!

There was a thread on here for a long while discussing exactly what is being discussed on this thread.

I think it was called "like minded women" or something like that.

I think the participants created something off line. Not sure because it's not my bag.

Maybe worth a search though!

That thread sadly got deleted @noego but you're right, that thread ran for a couple of years and had lots of like minded women chatting on it. Perhaps this one can encourage similar discussion...