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Can’t quite believe I’m writing this…..

Absolutely not a troll, long term poster under this and other usernames. First post on sex board.

Ive recently got into a new relationship with a man who seems obsessed with wanting to have anal sex. Our relationship is good in the main but he does have a dominant side and I’m wondering if this desire is part of this. I’m in my late 30s and he late 40s so both experienced…. But I have never gone ‘there’

not going to lie - I want to please him but im scared - but also curious as to what it is that men find attractive about that route? Is it the dominance? The filthiness?! The, er, tightness? I just don’t get it tbh.

I feel exactly the same.

Nothing inherently bad about anal bit as with most things sexually the depiction and what we are taught about it messes it up in our heads.
As a guy I like doing it if the woman is into it and I’ve been with quite a few women who were. One girl that was actually her go to move when she wanted to cum was anal with vibrator on clit.
Some people are into it as like a dominance act or as a bdsm degrading kind of act or into it because of the taboo.
But honestly if you are doing it right and going slow and caring about your partner it shouldn’t hurt too much and should be more an intimate experience and a special way to share your body with him than a way of dominating and hurting and degrading somebody, that’s another stupid porn myth.

I wouldn’t as it’s the constant pressure he’s using to try and persuade you into doing that. Tell him to shut up as you’re finding it a turn off!!!
Is he a closet gay if he’s that obsessed - or is it the porn?
Does he sexually satisfy you.

I don't understand the fascination with anal sex, it's a complete turn off for me. So much of a turn off that I am wondering if my newish boyfriend is right for me. He's mentioned it a few times in passing and I've brushed it off but last night he asked if I'd give him anal to celebrate if Scotland get past the first round in the football in Germany 😬Grim. It's like he'll use any excuse to get it. Seriously feel like dumping him if that's what he thinks I am.

@JL690 "dumping him?"
Unfortunate, but hilarious analogy 😁

Somewhat funny story. My wife is 100 percent not into anal total non starter for her and I’m cool with that would never make her do something she doesn’t enjoy. I joke about it with her but would never intentionally pressure her or try to go there.

But we had our own unintentional anal experience Sunday night. We were going at it from behind and sort of on our sides both thrusting ourselves together pretty hard. I slipped out and when I tried to go back in I guess the alignment changed and I guess we were both going so hard that before we could realize or stop my boat docked into the wrong port of entry so to speak. She jumped up faster than I’ve ever seen her move and thank god she wasn’t mad
at me and understood it was a total accident and I wasn’t trying to do that. Thank god it’s something we can laugh at afterwards but she made it pretty clear that was never going to happen intentionally.

I won't read anything better than this for a long time....

😂Totally unintentional 😂