Recent experience....

[Kimberley00001]

Hi , I recently slept with someone who i know quite well NSA etc etc...
The whole thing has left my spider senses tingling I did enjoy it don't get me wrong but I not sure if this is normal .
I havent had many partners but this is the first time I've felt like questioning the things we did.
A few things stand out , the first one him shouting out cum on my big dick !! ( sorry to be so graphic!) it put pressure on me and I didn't like that .
He took ages and I mean ages to cum, like maybe over an hour all different positions .
And it was quite rough which I did like at first, but he was also rough with his hands and when he went down on me, he went hard and fast.
When he finally did cum , it was only when he was tied up and I was spitting in his mouth and choking him till his eyes watered.
This isn't a joke thread I promise , just looking for some opinions on this.thanks

Add message | Report | Message poster NoArmaniNoPunani Thu 25-Jun-15 20:18:59
I wouldn't consider that particularly hard-core. I'm not sure what you're wanting from this thread.

I think 'and we watch porn' sometimes men and women get so used to getting off on the harder stuff they can't normally. Worries me a bit cos my oh is a bit like that. That for me would have been a proper 'session' as long as we could still have 'normal' sex I wouldn't worry. But if that's the only way then not good really is it.

Porn has a lot to answer for.

It sounds utterly joyless.

It's a shame people feel they have to go along with it.

It's called 'porn creep' or porn desensitisation. Big problem in USA apparently causing delayed ejaculation.

Yeah, that isn't really a thing with any solid medical research behind it. There have been a couple of scientific studies which have shown the opposite, though...

The whole "watching porn will make you impotent!!1!!1" is all a bit Daily Fail scare tactic moral panic, TBH.

Did you want to choke the bloke and spit at him?

It sounds like his thing is humiliation. I would have a chat with him and ask him what he is really into. Is that something that would work for you? Would you be satisfied in a sexual relationship like that? You dont have to go along with things that don't do it for you. It worries me a bit reading this that you felt you had to go along with it in this encounter. your needs count too.

I knew someone who's bf was into this stuff and he didn't tell her until years into the relationship. She gave it a go but it really didn't work for her. He was a bit of a weirdo in other respects though to be fair.

As I read your op I was thinking he just has problems reaching orgasm, but when I reached the final bit

Sounds bloody awful.

Sounds like he watches way too much porn.

I met up with a guy very recently for No strings attached sex, we text each other for weeks first and he spoke in great detail about what he wanted to do to me and what he wanted me to do to him, it was obvious he had watched quite a bit of porn, anyway after coming out of a almost sexless marriage I was quite looking forward to meeting up with him and having some fun, eventually we met up, arranged to meet in a secluded spot, I drove quite far too meet up with him so was really hoping it would be worth it. It was very disappointing and he came within seconds, I went home feeling very frustrated .

I also went out with a man many years ago who liked watching porn, it was very obvious when we slept together, it felt like we were acting out a porn film, he was quite rough and once he made me bleed , it was the worst sex I have ever had.

There was other stuff he wanted to do which I did refuse , one thing being for me to wet myself through my knickers and him to drink it . We did a thing which we had spoken about previously and agreed to do which was that I play dead for 3 minutes and he said during ' I could just take you up the arse now , but im not too worried about that I think he's just vocal. Im more worried about since he's not really spoken much about it or to me and im not sure why .

Why would you want to speak to this loser? I don't get it.

Do you really get off on this stuff? It sounds...far worse than the crappiest sex I've ever had.

I would have run after ten minutes of this crap sex.

I'm a little bemused that anyone would go back for more of being treated like this.

Have u had sex with him previously?

Can't people just fuck anymore? What is with all this weird crap, it's like some competition to get off on the most outlandish thing.

Oooh I'm so debauched, dress me up in a deerskin rug and hunt me. Ffs.

I have slept with him before , just the once.
I enjoyed it it was vanilla sex but again he took a long time to cum, and it was only by hand which Ive noticed twice.
The playing dead situation was my idea

Oh but that's not hard core, no, no.
Not unless someone introduces a strangled goat. (Covered in vomit)
Op, if you do shag him again, make sure he pays you. That's some fucked up stuff you're doing for him and there's no reason you shouldn't get something out of it.

Ah well if you like spitting, strangling, necrophilia stimulation- fill yer boots.

I'm just here for tips, Giles.

Might get the cheesegrater out later, give DP's balls a good going over before I peg him out on the washing line by his earlobes. Phwoar.

I...

Have no idea what to post now.

I was just going to suggest a melon baller up.the arse

Thanks but..I'm just making the kids' dinner.