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Recent experience....

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Kimberley00001 · 25/06/2015 19:59

Hi , I recently slept with someone who i know quite well NSA etc etc...
The whole thing has left my spider senses tingling I did enjoy it don't get me wrong but I not sure if this is normal .
I havent had many partners but this is the first time I've felt like questioning the things we did.
A few things stand out , the first one him shouting out cum on my big dick !! ( sorry to be so graphic!) it put pressure on me and I didn't like that .
He took ages and I mean ages to cum, like maybe over an hour all different positions .
And it was quite rough which I did like at first, but he was also rough with his hands and when he went down on me, he went hard and fast.
When he finally did cum , it was only when he was tied up and I was spitting in his mouth and choking him till his eyes watered.
This isn't a joke thread I promise , just looking for some opinions on this.thanks

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Kimberley00001 · 26/06/2015 16:56

Im glad you guys are amused
I didn't think it was all that outlandish , but to be fair I ha wnt had that many lovers to compare him to.
Yes some of it i really enjoy but there are things he's asked which I wouldn't i do have boundaries and he knows them.

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MistressMerryWeather · 26/06/2015 16:58

I get the whole YKINMK thing, but this thread troubles me.

I'm not sure what's worse, your idea to play dead or the fact that he agreed to shag a fake dead person.

MistressMerryWeather · 26/06/2015 17:00

No judgement!

I'm just a little confused.

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Kimberley00001 · 26/06/2015 17:02

The play dead thing was just a way for him to take control , im not sure what ykinmk means ?

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 26/06/2015 17:02

I reckon I'd prefer to play dead for a few minutes to get some peace from this relentless shagging twat.

Op seriously, did you really enjoy this?

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 26/06/2015 17:05

All joshing aside, you say you haven't had many lovers so far.

Would you say that most of these ideas come from yourself, are they things you actively want to do?
Or are they things you think you should be doing?

Do you get off on it? You're in a NSA situation, fair enough, are you getting what you want out of it?

I do hope you're not working away at him for hours on end for little return.
(I'm talking about orgasms here, obviously).
Sorry for all the Q's. I just think you should be enjoying yourself and not doing things that make you uncomfortable.

MistressMerryWeather · 26/06/2015 17:05

It means "Your Kink Is Not My Kink".

Basically what goes on between two consenting adults is up to them!

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Kimberley00001 · 26/06/2015 17:06

Yes I enjoy rough sex it is a massive turn on , but the fact it went on so long wasn't great.
The only thing that felt a little off was that he didn't cum until he was choked, and when I mean choked I mean bright red in the face

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 26/06/2015 17:11

Well, it all sounds very romantic.

I'd try someone else if I were you.

MistressMerryWeather · 26/06/2015 17:12

Rough sex is fine, but not for an hour.

Sex shouldn't hurt.

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Kimberley00001 · 26/06/2015 17:12

I noticed he had his eyes open the whole time during whichever sex act. When I was on top of him and he was doing oral on me he stared me out the whole time .i said to him after why u looking at me like that , he said because I want to ...
In the throes of passion ?? Or just a bit strange ??

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MassaAttack · 26/06/2015 17:20

Op, I've been very free with my favours in the past. This kind of thing really isn't the norm.

AnyFucker · 26/06/2015 17:29

I reckon I'd prefer to play dead for a few minutes to get some peace from this relentless shagging twat.

roar

Gileswithachainsaw · 26/06/2015 17:33

How the hell are you supposed to pretend your shagging some hot guy off the tv when they are staring at you.

that would creep me out

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 26/06/2015 17:39

Sounds rather formulaic.
I'm not even (that) old, early 30's, and I am so glad that most of the people I've encountered haven't expected me to be some kind of performing sex sea-lion.

girlandboy · 26/06/2015 18:55

I don't know if I'd describe all this as normal really, going back to your original question.
I started reading and thinking....."ok, right, not too weird" until I got to the spitting. Why the hell would someone want another person to spit in their mouth? I think that just sounds horrible. And then the pretend necrophilia? It wouldn't be considered normal in my house, but everyone's different I suppose

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Kimberley00001 · 26/06/2015 19:14

I have no idea re the spitting why he enjoyed that so much.i presume he saw in in porn. I also drank from his drink and spat it down his throat while he was choked. That bit I do find bizarre myself. Ive heard nothing from him so im presuming there is no round three

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pocketsaviour · 27/06/2015 17:01

Nice to see lots of useless, judgemental "eewwww how could you" posts from the vanilla chorus of MN.

We get it guys, you're vanilla. I promise that kinksters having great (or even not so great) consenting sex together, and talking about it, is not going to result in your spouse trying to shag you up the nose

JohnFarleysRuskin · 27/06/2015 17:24

Is this what's happening here? The "kinksters" having great consenting sex? I must have missed that bit.

It sounded more like one very inexperienced young woman trying to work out what's going on with her new fella.

There is nothing here about her pleasure or what fabulous sex they had - just a list of the sex acts he needs her to do so he can get himself off.

But of course - to the fabulous oh so liberal " kinksters"- if the mans happy - that's the most important thing of all.

pocketsaviour · 27/06/2015 19:46

Shall I just repeat what I actually said?

"I promise that kinksters having great (or even not so great) consenting sex together , and talking about it, is not going to result in your spouse trying to shag you up the nose"

HTH.

By the way I love your "scare quotes" on kinksters.

Your attitude is a lot like that 30 years ago towards "the gays". Ewwwww, you licked another woman's vagina? Ugh, I'm trying to eat my dinner! Why can't you be NORMAL??

pocketsaviour · 27/06/2015 19:48

But of course - to the fabulous oh so liberal " kinksters"- if the mans happy - that's the most important thing of all.

I am actually baffled by how on earth you managed to pull this from mine, or anyone else's, post.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 27/06/2015 20:06

Yeah I can see what you wrote. And since I have no fear of my spouse trying to shag me up the nose as you'd say I am actually baffled by how on earth you managed to pull this from mine, or anyone else's, post.

What is baffling is that here is a poster (who repeatedly claims she is very inexperienced) who has posted a woeful sexual experience - he was too rough - she was uncomfortable - he stared at her, - she was uncomfortable, he went on for hours, - she was uncomfortable, she can't understand why she had to choke him, spit at him, etc, in fact, she hasn't mentioned any pleasure at all, no orgasm, nothing. etc, etc. and you are annoyed that posters ("vanilla") responses were useless and judgemental.

Whereas your "kinkster" advice was brilliant!
BTW have you done breath play before

Your attitude is a lot like that 100 years ago towards women. "What? You think women should get any pleasure out of a sexual encounter? Ewww. Disgusting. Lady, sex is not about you. Just do what he tells you and shut the fuck up."

ImperialBlether · 27/06/2015 20:11

He's too used to porn, which is why he's looking at you the whole time, too.

Regarding breath play, it's not something I'd want to be involved in - are you not frightened of something going horribly wrong?

dementedma · 27/06/2015 20:20

Sounds bloody grim to me but each to his/her own.......

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Kimberley00001 · 27/06/2015 20:48

Im not that young , im early 30s but ive only experienced two men him being one of them.i guess in a way my ego is a bit bruised because I thought he would come sooner, I mean I thought I would excite him. Obviously ordinary sex does nothing for him, and I think that is a little grim. Never done breath play, he wanted suffocation also. I didn't orgasm but I don't through penetration anyway , but I fancied the pants off him and the kissing was amazing and the sex was good it just went on so bloody long ! I have no idea if he regrets it or what not , as it was kind of weird after he kind of day there just staring straight ahead, he said he felt a little unwell but maybe ive uncovered that he's a little strange and he doesn't like it ! Who knows

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