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how many partners have you had?

352 replies

juice · 13/08/2005 14:14

just being nosy , so you dont have to answer if you dont want to.
i had 1 serious reltionship before hubby.
i have had sexual relations with 10 men.
sometimes i think it is too many , but then you hear some stories of young girls and i dont think its that many.
there is only 1 i regret, so aint too bad, i think.

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Jackstini · 15/08/2005 14:07

9 altogether - 3 one night stands- all regrettable & forgettable! 4 in relationships, 2 I married - been faithful to DH for last 8 years and I am 33.
Have to say though I did an awful lot of "ok let's do everything but ...."! So if I had to include all sexual practices I would be up with Cheekymonks triple figures

Springchicken · 15/08/2005 14:50

2
DP and i got together when we were 15/16 and we'd both only had 1 other sexual partner.

Not many girls around here (Luton) at my age that can honestly say they've had less than double figures!

kama · 15/08/2005 15:09

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Eugenius · 15/08/2005 15:15

don't mean anything by it but I think 40+ is a lot!

kleggie · 15/08/2005 16:39

Just the one...dh, met at 18, married at 24. I am honestly pleased and proud that I saved myself for him. He, on the other hand, did no such saving...

NomDePlume · 15/08/2005 19:12

P*ss off, Eugenius. How can you type that and not mean anything by it ?!

spursmum · 15/08/2005 19:23

Im counting at 30(i think). Not bad for 9 years of sexual activity. Personally I think that no amount is too much as long as its between consenting adults and no one is getting hurt(ie affairs)Sorry to anyone that thinks differently but it is my opinion.

LilacLotus · 15/08/2005 19:26

one
and DP one also.

jambutty · 15/08/2005 19:32

Ah, but can you remember all their NAMES?

jambutty · 15/08/2005 19:34

Lilaclotus, obviously you can

Eugenius · 15/08/2005 21:46

charming NDP! it means I think its a lot - I've only had 1 myself so obviously its a lot to me!

Something tells me from your reaction that you think I believe it's a bad thing? well I don't but that says more about you than me.

Flossam · 15/08/2005 22:01

Ok, Before DP I was always seemed to have an 18 month itch (well apart from the one who dumped me ) so 3 of those.

3 quick relationships, just a few months. Only one I wish was longer but I was 16 and he was 22 - too big an age gap when you have strict parents , one of which I really regret (On the rebound from the 21 yr old)

1 one night stand which I really really regretted immediately.

And one DP.

Very little time single. Otherwise I might have had more than 8!!

loulabelle222 · 15/08/2005 22:26

everyone has different morals when it comes to this subject. I personally wouldn't sleep with someone before I really know someone because I think it is a big thing. However I don't think bad of people that sleep with lots of people as long as its safe and there isn't diseases flying about because that is something to be ashamed of!

weesaidie · 15/08/2005 22:33

11 in 6 years.
2 were serious relationships.

NomDePlume · 16/08/2005 12:03

No, it doesn't mean that I'm ashamed & lie awake pining for my virginity, Eugenius. It means that I was somewhat puzzled & affronted by the fact that you felt the need to drop that comment in and then claim that it was throwaway and you didn't mean anything by it.

loulabelle222 · 16/08/2005 12:08

NDP don't get so angry its only an opinion .. you cannot change what you have done and you are happy with it there is no need to defend youself!

NomDePlume · 16/08/2005 12:10

If there's one thing that's guaranteed to wind me up more, it's someone telling me to calm down....

I was angry with Eugenius' mildly 'holier than thou' attitude.

loulabelle222 · 16/08/2005 12:17

well then thats your prob... just trying to be nice on the matter hun! Personally I don't think it is anything to get hung up on? If you seriously don't care how many people you have been with and your happy why should you give a shit what other people especially people you don't physically know think? Just ignore the comments everyone has different morals yours and eugenius are just different.
Feel like I am butting in an argument!

piffle · 16/08/2005 12:18

Crikey I was hoping this thread would make my horrendous total look pitiful
After starting at 17 (now 35) jaysus
I was busy
NDP I'd be damn proud to be at just 40
As DP never believes I was ever a goer LOL

NomDePlume · 16/08/2005 12:19

You are rather, loulabelle.

piffle

loulabelle222 · 16/08/2005 12:21

not to be rude but how is sleeping with loads and loads of people something to be proud of?

loulabelle222 · 16/08/2005 12:21

its fair enough if your happy about it but it isn't really something that you would shout about is it

Lizzylou · 16/08/2005 12:23

NDP and Piffle, I am with you, altho for past 9 years it has just been DH and hope it stays that way.........
No regrets, am glad I had such a fab time before I met my DH and decided he was the one! [grin}

Lizzylou · 16/08/2005 12:23

That makes it look like I am glad I had fun before Dh as I don't now! Which is of course, v not true!

NomDePlume · 16/08/2005 12:24

Here we go again. Another one of those 'Don't want to be rude, BUT', 'Don't mean this nastily, BUT', 'Don't take this the wrong way, BUT'..... They all should come with the same phrase after the 'but' - 'I don't mean to be rude, but I will anyway....'

FWIW, I'm not proud of having slept with 40 partners, but by the same token I am far from ashamed of my sexual past.