how many partners have you had?

[juice]

just being nosy , so you dont have to answer if you dont want to.
i had 1 serious reltionship before hubby.
i have had sexual relations with 10 men.
sometimes i think it is too many , but then you hear some stories of young girls and i dont think its that many.
there is only 1 i regret, so aint too bad, i think.

I didn't shout about it, loulabelle. I answered the question honestly, as many others have also done.

Loulabelle, I don't introduce myself with: "Hi my name is Lizzylou, I've slept with loads of men..." but neither am I ashamed of it, no reason to be!

rofl lizzylou !!!

Actually, I might start to at Mother and Toddler groups, should spice it all up!

lol lizzy
I wish I had done more not less personally before it all starts to head south

pmsl lizzylou!

funny isnt it, if a bloke had started this thread, everyone would be desperately trying to outdo each other to see who had the most conquests!

I mentioned it cos someone BLOODY ASKED!
I wouldn't whack it out in general conversations with the inlaws or at a job interview under "what have you achieved"
Like NDP am far from ashamed
Quite honestly I lost my virginity to a rapist, so go figure how I ended up losing any respect for keeping myself for the right man?
That said I've never been unfaithful and am deliriously happy with my dp of 5 yrs.

and meant to put if this was a blokes only thread!

but the thing is your only 23! what about saving yourself for the right person? and sleeping with your ex boyfriend's mates? well they aint true mates are they haha! I just think sex is something that should be shared between people that you love its 10 times better anyway that way. Thats just me though and I am not having a go at you because you believe differently. Its just when its not safe sex that i think its gross!

piffle what are you on about? I am sorry for your ordeal it must have been dreadful for you but all I am saying is to think of others opinions I haven't said your a bad person for sleeping with so many.

me too piffle
did my head in for years
glad you have nice dp now

Personally I believe you can have great sex with someone you don't love..absolutely fantastic sex in fact

Sex with someone you love is nice too though

loula perhaps you do not mean to come across as saintlier than thou, but you do sound slightly smug and the sort of comments you have made are quite red rag to a bull to us feisty lasses who have enjoyed the sins of the flesh a little more than you...

Loulabelle - To address your points in order

1. My age has jack-all to do with it.

2. 'Saving myself'. As an athiest, I have no belief in 'saving myself' for the perfect man. I was/am a woman in her physical and sexual prime, I was single, so were my partners. We had fun, it felt nice. Frankly I think my DH (who is also a person in high, IYO, figures) would have laughed out loud if I'd have presented myself to him as a virgin ! I like the fact that I am totally and utterly able to satisfy my long-term partner with skills and techniques I've learned along the way !

3. Ex's mates. I was fifteen, angry and gorgeous, sex was my best revenge option. It worked, and the sex was reasonably fulfilling too.

4. Yes, sex is better with a long-term partner whom you love, but that's not to say a frantic, hot quickie with a virtual stranger isn't exciting too !

5. Of course you are entitled to voice your own opinion, just as I am entitled to react to your opinion.

this thread makes fascinating reading because people have been honest.

I dont think its about good/bad or moral/immoral. Everyone has a total that they personally can handle, the important thing is not to harm oneself by going beyond that limit.

Let's see - sexually active from 16 - got married at 40 - so that's 24 years as a single girl. One or two steadyish relationships (lasting about a year) but never lived with anyone before my darling husband. So yes, I reckon I'm well into double figures. Don't think I've ever counted before. Some were fantastic, some good, one or two just bad!! However, nothing beats the relationship I have with my darling husband - he beat them all and makes me feel just great But I can't change my past and don't regret any of it.

Less than 20 from ages 19 - 29 which I think quite moderate.

This includes 3 one night stands, each of which I regret!!!

that's the trouble with the written word - you read the wrong thing into comments.

Look, I've led a sheltered life, I've had one sexual partner, my husband - so what? that's just me.

I DO NOT think it's a bad thing some people have lots of partners, but when you see a number written down it looks at lot.

I don't know why I'm bothering really - read into it what you will, but you shouldn't take offence cos I don't mean any.

i didnt say save yourself for the right man! I don't believe in religion either all I am saying is I believe that you should save your self for someone you love not any tom dick or harry? I bet those blokes or should i say boys were having a good laugh at your expense. As i said though as long as noone was hurt I don't really care. Good luck to u.

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Loulabelle, you really are an aggressive little thing, aren't you?

I agree with Socci. I've had several one nighters, and have also had 3 serious relationships. One has never affected the other, and actually feel i'm a better partner for it. At least this way, its out of my system. Been there, done that!!!

Personally, i'd always be wondering what i was missing if i'd 'saved myself'. Now i know. And the answer is, not a lot, but i certainly enjoyed finding that out

If I'd had had half as many as my dw, then I'd be grinning like a Cheshire Cat.

If anyone hd a good luagh at my expense I had better one
is anyone going to fess up that an ex conquest was better sex than with their long time love/hubby?