To meet the Ow today and see how dowdy and older she looked !!

[maltesers]

I was quite surprised how much older than me (and the Ex is younger than me ) the OW was, and frumpy she dressed. . . it was quite a relief.. . .
Anyone relate to this experience and feel a small chuckle inside ??

Yes...until I realise they're with them not me

sorry to piss on your bonfire!

You are not being unreasonable - though maybe a little uncharitable.

Did she look like a charity case?

Ye she did. . .and certainly The Downtrodden female.
Evenso, SECUNDA. . . .dear me she looked a mess. . .as long as she doesnt resenble Cameran Diaz or Julia Roberts i can chuckle........ !!

So what does it say that your husband was prepared to cheat on you with a dowdy woman?

How mean skidoodly.

meow! tut tut.

ouch....

Skid, thats not helpful.

Is it better or worse to be left for a dowdy woman than to have someone leave you because they "want to be on their own"?

I can only blame myself. No OW to blame.

When there is an OW, picking holes in her appearance and slagging her off is one of the greatest joys there is IME. And a good friend is the friend who will do it with you till the cows come home. Be as uncharitable as you like, if it makes you feel better - I would.

Yes but it's a consolation prize at best

My Ex dp didnt cheat on me. He met her two years after we split up !! Its not about Meow or tut tut . . .its a fact. She turned up looking a mess. End of. Just surprised , , ,thought he might have picked someone his age, younger or smart. He has got himself a mother figure. !!!

Then she's not the 'OW', is she? Other Woman is for someone who your partner was cheating on you with.

She is just the new person he is with.

A boyfriend once left me to become a priest.

That was humiliating.

oh, and meow tut tut was at ski's comment. not your op.

oh ok. . .I didnt know the 'OW' meant that. . .thought it just meant the woman he is with now, , , after you IYSWIM

oh ok. . .I didnt know the 'OW' meant that. . .thought it just meant the woman he is with now, , , after you IYSWIM

nope. means woman he was betraying you with.

how is she an OW then???
his new partner is older and frumpier than you....iyo but not his.....and?

sorry x posts...

The OW in our case was a 10 years younger, slimmer version of me.

You were too good for him, maltesers.

He lucked out when he had you.

Well . . very kind of you blue. . .but what does "lucked out " mean ??

lucked out = got lucky
v.confusing, as it used to mean 'got UNlucky' in GB English, then we got all American about it. Same with 'it's a bomb'. Bombs were GREAT in Brit English, then the Yanks turned it into a bad thing. Or the other way round - I'm too old/drunk/multilingual to know/care/give a shit.

maltesers, isn't your ex a bit of a control freak (diplomacy! There's a first!)
Maybe she got frumpy as a result of suffering his lurve.

oh, that's bomb as it "it bombed" (did badly) and "da bomb" as in something wonderful. Is it?

Hecate - yes, and I'm too old/drunk/multilingual to know/care/give a shit