To meet the Ow today and see how dowdy and older she looked !!

[maltesers]

I was quite surprised how much older than me (and the Ex is younger than me ) the OW was, and frumpy she dressed. . . it was quite a relief.. . .
Anyone relate to this experience and feel a small chuckle inside ??

okay how's this the OW my dh left me for is younger but fat. And she's put on another stone in weight since.

My Ex didnt /doesnt have much lurve to give. . .
Yeah, he did get lucky when he met me and i wish i hadnt met him. . .he didnt deserve the kindness i gave to him as he cheated on me, and was aggressive during the last 2 years.. . .swine!

Oh yes I am always gratified when ex's new GFs are chubbers.

There you go, then maltesers. He chose someone less feisty/gifted than you, and has already broken her pride.

Can you imagine what he says to her about her appearance?

he he maltesers, have you seen some of the threads on here where the current W moans about the ex (i.e YOU in this scenario) being more attractive than them....

She's probably overthinking things too!!

Maybe your Ex also realises that he needs to play to his level too.... you WERE too good for him!!

Now how do you feel????

better !

Oh and ex has remarked negatively on the weight gain of his current.

Maltesers, as IsGrace has said, your ex was lucky to have you at all.

"Oh and ex has remarked negatively on the weight gain of his current. "

hilarious

blueshoes, you missed out the other part about how unlucky Current is, to have him now ...

cos fat people aren't attractive at all - how nice

My ex-p is now with someone younger than me (but she looks older). She doesn't work and they never have any money...somewhat ironic given that he was always insistent on me making a significant financial contribution to our household and working FT even when our children were babies. Her DC are primary age.

She also smokes, which is something he has always professed to hate.

I think skidoodly is being about the deliberate lack of sisterly regard on this thread

OP, this woman isn't even an OW in your situation, so you just come across as judgemental, tbh

Let's hope some 20-something fit piece isn't looking at me and thinking "eww, look at that wrinkly old cow, she has had too many rays..."

Sisterhood ? WTF happened to it ? Come on ladies, we can do better than this.

Marriage breaking OW's....now they are fair game, but only for the cheatee.

The rest of us should think about glass houses, and all that.

it's not even the sisterhood thing.

It's the 'oh look, she's not really that fit, not exactly sienna miller arf' etc, which is just a pathetic cover up for the fact that their ex-husband clearly prefers this other woman to them otherwise he wouldn't have left her for them. Just makes you look a bit loserish

doesn't apply to the OP, 'cos she's not really an OW

She is not the OW she is his new girlfriend.

She may not look like something out of Vogue magazine, but he is with her and happy. Why should this even scratch the surface for you TWO years down the line?

From your comments it seems like her being with her gets to you. Have you got a new partner?

btw, maltesers, I completely bigged you up on another thread

but we let ourselves down when we trash other women in this way

it is shit, tbh

Oh you so need to move on...

OP - I am totally with skid and af on this one. She isnt the ow - she did nothing to you. She is a woman who got someone you were with much later on and is perhaps finding it difficult. To be quite frank the fact that you are prepared to be so nasty about her despite her never doing anything to you says a great deal more then dowdy clothes ever will.

oh and as for the fat comment from someone else. I am three sizes bigger then my dh's ex and he takes a GREAT deal of pleasure in my warmth and womanly curves.I cook, nurture and take pleasure in our life together - he doesnt give a shite about my cellulite and muffin top on balance. Many men will tell you bigger girls are where its at - very few genuinly think "oh, she is so thin - I must give her one" - and those that do arent worth a dime.

I am quite old

It makes me feel bad when I think other women may be examining my wrinkles, veiny legs, droopy tits etc and finding me wanting

I don't ever do it to another woman...and would steer away from any who did without very good reason

Understand all of the sisterhood stuff, and will slap my own wrist for my comments, if needed..

but come ON.... it's natural for us to look at what eventually replaces us or even preceeds us and compare, it doesn't matter how long it is afterwards, it's not about being hung up on them, or wistfully looking at the past, the comparison is going to happen whether we wish it or not. I dare say blokes do the same too.

If she looks like Heidi flaming Klum, we are going to feel like crap, if she doesn't then we are going to have a wry grin and perhaps even a snark or a snigger...

S'Yuman nature innit....

I would rather slag off the men

How come they don't get put under the microscope, eh ?

For their veiny legs, saggy sacs, bald spots, hairy ears etc etc

I just don't slag off other women < shrugs >