Do men really prefer it if we shave down there?

[poshsinglemum]

And if so is it the fault of porn?

I am quite comfortable with my au natural look but as soon as I get a partner I feel like it all has to come off. Hence cringy shaving/hair removal cream sessions, regrowth and in my case unsightly sores. Sorry if tmi. I am too chicken to wax.

It's such a shame that men don't love that part of us the way it is or do they.

I do tend to feel better after a trim but not a full wax.

I kind of want to look like a women and not prepubescant.

what's your view?

I wouldn't shave or pluck for any man. Nor would I require him to wax his bollocks. It's nonsense.

I wouldn't fancy a man who didn't like pubic hair to be frank.

Yes, I would say grab it all and give it a good cut with the scissors now and again. Trim the sides too.

My DH is very vocal on this one - he regularly rants about women looking childlike and how wrong society is to encourage it. Last week he told me 'most men must be pervs'. I'm more laissez-faire on the subject, but I do like the comfort on the natural but trimmed feel. He is turned on by hair so I'd be mad to remove it.

rhinestone, can't speak for everyone but I trim. I leave about 1.5cm hair (I don't measure!) I trim it just before my period each month and it really does feel like I am fresher.

My dh is 46 and thinks it's hilarious that some women remove all their pubes.

I think it's just fashion- younger men who have grown up with modern porm think that's what normal looks like. When dh was a teen catching the odd glimppse of a dirty mag all the women had hair.

I do my bikini line if I'm going swimming, like I do arms and legs-all fashion really isn't it? All the different nationalities of women on the French campsite I was at last summer seemed to have a different take on it.

I think the access to hardcore porn that the internet provides is very worrying and I think it has contributed to this, but conversely I think they're separate issues.

Yes I do trim which is what I meant by not liking it being longer.

Have also used a man's electric razor before - ie the kind for beards, which you can adjust so that the blade is nowhere near the skin! Worked very well for a trim

Can;t wait until fashion comes full circle and we're all posting threads like

"How can I make my bush more full and lush?"

Think 70s porn should make a comeback

Not the porn, just the pubes

Sounds like quote of the week for Zoo/Nuts

After extensive research, I can confirm that most men (esp americans, euros not so fussed (or maybe more polite)) do prefer less hair.

I have an electric trimmer.

I shave off underneath- once in a while, when I can be bothered- as I think it's nicer for oral for dp. Always leave the hair in front though.
I left a tiny strip once and he wasn't into it, really.
In the end, I think you need to find a compromise ie if you had long hair (like me) and they would get in the way, so to speak, then I don't think it's demeaning to trim/ shave.

My mum keeps insisting on letting me know that she has lost all her pubic hair since the menopause.

If it's not the pre-pubescent look you desire, maybe you shaving-type women are going for the post menopausal look?

Thank you for the clarification on trimming, now worried that DH is secretly at my untrimmed lady-bits!

Has anyone ever tried the laser removal by the way? I'm put off by the expense but it is supposed ot be permanent.

I would imagine that most men are just so overjoyed to be getting some that they wouldn't hop out of bed and say "nah, changed me mind" if they got a good look and saw that you'd waxed the lot off or had a strip down the middle or a short back and sides or had died it blue or had taken a razor and drawn a scale copy of the mona lisa down there!

Oh Spidermama, boak! - that is exactly the kind of thing my mum goes on about as well.... why can't she take note of the horrified look on my face and stop it?

I feel a bit squeamish about the thought of no pubes in general though. I almost fell over in horror when I saw one beauty salon treatment that involved waxing it all off, then having some "swarovski crystals applied in the design of your choice". I mean... who? why?

heQet, good point but it depends on the man. The ones I meet can be choosy. OK need to change the quality of the men I meet.

God I would never be bothered to wax or shave it all off! I rarely do my legs as it is

I have never had a boyfriend who has expressed a strong opinion either way.

at the crystals. Horrible.

MarineIgunana my mum bursts into the loo when I'm, cleaning my teeth and goes for a wee, letting out a couple of farts while she's at it. It's really horrifying. I tell her off but she doesn't give a flying toss.

Mine pads around the house late at night in a skimpy nightie saying things like "Oh this nightie doesn't really cover my bum, does it" in front of DP

You are kidding me? You should get your dp to say "No, it doesn't, but at your age things are generally quite saggy. Don't worry about it."

DP just tries to hide

Please make him say that.

I'll PAY him to say that.

Imagine if big 70's style bushes came back into fashion. All the people that spent a fortune lasering off their pubes in the noughties would have to buy Mirkins.

I don't know what most men prefer but seems that young men these days expect very little in the way of pubic hair and that is down to porn I would say. Just like they tend to think that all women should be into anal and, worryingly, deep throating too.
Overall, I feel really sorry for young teens these days who see hardcore porn sent around on their mobiles/emails before they've even had a chance at a first kiss.
That's another thread though.

Nothing like grey pubes to focus the mind that one is ageing and wonder if shaving is a good idea after all...