Was I unfaithful or not?

[wellwasit]

Many years ago- about 15- I had a reunion with an ex. Saw him a few times and we ended up being physical but not full sex- oral sex.

Would you regard this as adultery/infidelity- or like Bill Clinton thinks, is penetrative sex the only definition ( it is in law anyway.)

For me, I stopped short of the final act an drew a line in the sand, but am I kidding myself ?I am still with my DH after 22 years.

lou, you have some fab anecdotes

I have never, ever met a man who didn't like to give and receive

no, hang on

there was one

but he was a fucking useless alcoholic who couldn't get it up, so there you go

I once knew a lady who thought taking it up the arse wasn't cheating

I also dont understand how 15 years later you would feel the need to find an answer. Personally if my husband looked at a woman in the wrong way I would suspect infidelity.

But I cant remember what I did yesterday half the time but you were unfaithful. Simple as.

oh, and just remembered that I also knew someone who considered that if she didn't have an orgasm it wasn't cheating.

Of course, we all wondered what the fuck the point was in shagging someone else if he wasn't even giving you an orgasm.

It's the height of bad manners to expect someone to go down on you and then not reciprocate, you know!

Where is the OP? Down the Premier Inn with her janitor

the up the bum thing remnnds me of a t shirt i saw that said "mary was a virgin if you dont count anal"

A one nighter, years ago, just lay there letting me give him head. For ages

I lifted my head, and said - 'if you're not going to reciprocate in some way, you can fuck off home'.

And the cunt did

ROFL at these BJ stories. I don't think men who expect fellatio but don't expect to reciprocate with cunnilingus, are at all unusual. I boycott them now though.

I once met a bloke who kind of drooled all over my fanny and seemed to cover it with spit, it was a messy, rather unpleasant business and I marvelled that anyone could be so utterly incompetent that they could make something as normally pleasurable as cunnilingus frankly a bit yuk.

i wonder if it was the same guy SH

not everyone likes oral thou i have mates that hate the very idea.
spit or swallow?

I'm amazed that anyone would not consider it being unfaithful.

Her Beatitude, they may not be unusual but they are bloody selfish! Do they think that women love giving head but its ok for them not to do it if they don't like it.

A man would only get one BJ from me if he wouldn't go down on me, and I don't actually mind doing it.

I am with the SATC girls on this one, I only give head to get head!

Equally though, I wouldn't expect a guy to go down on me if I wasn't prepared to reciprocate!

My mum always taught me its rude to spit, by the way, verylucylastic! How would you feel if the bloke came up spitting!

Curious, verylucylastic? Do your friends only hate the idea of giving oral sex, or do they hare getting it too?

but jools, it isn't exactly a level playing field in the spit/don't spit argument is it ?

unless you are a gusher ?

, it's hard to remember since its so long since it happened but I don't think so!

My comments on the spit/swallow thing were tongue in cheek!

lol at tongue in cheek

now that is another subject entirely ...

Thank god for this thread, it has made me laugh more than I have in weeks.

Although now I am remembering how much I miss oral sex and how good OM was at it, so maybe I should stop reading it!

well how woulod you feel if your DH did it to another woman but then said "well I didnt have sex, so you cant be mad"
yes its cheating