Was I unfaithful or not?

[wellwasit]

Many years ago- about 15- I had a reunion with an ex. Saw him a few times and we ended up being physical but not full sex- oral sex.

Would you regard this as adultery/infidelity- or like Bill Clinton thinks, is penetrative sex the only definition ( it is in law anyway.)

For me, I stopped short of the final act an drew a line in the sand, but am I kidding myself ?I am still with my DH after 22 years.

DH and I have agreed that we'd consider it cheating if we snogged someone else, so you have cheated.

Of course you've been unfaithful.

Is this some sort of Friday night idiot test?

Well, it depends if you swallowed.

Only kidding. Of course it's infidelity.

Your cheeky interjections make me laugh, Unquiet Dad

Joking aside, I once knew a woman who wouldn't class it as infidelity if she didn't enjoy it...now how's that for warped logic?

Think it's time we passed round the s

haha uqd

i would class it as cheating

if you didnt think it was cheating why have you not been open about it in all this time with your h?

and would you mind if your h went down on someone else?

Of course it's infidelity, thinking otherwise is completely deluded.
p.s what bloke gives oral sex and gets nothing similar in return?

p.s what bloke gives oral sex and gets nothing similar in return?

I don't know but I'd like his phone number

troll alert

why would you swallow as you enjoy a bit of cunnilingus ?

unless it makes you slaver a lot...

lol @ mp, pass him onto me afters, I don't mind a bit of sloppy seconds

@ MP

oh i dunno i have met the odd one or two who didnt like bj's but were more than happy to help me out a bit

you have met more than one man who doesn't like blow jobs?!

yes, sadly they failed to match up in other areas so got the boot, or else i would print their numbers on here for anyone who happened to be interested

If someone gave your hubby a BJ and he let them would you consider that unfaithful?
I think you know you were unfaithful.

I thought men who didn't like blow jobs were an urban myth! rofl

I would think that men who don't like oral (giving or receiving) have got "issues" tbh.

Seriously, what's not to like?

so, OP, are you going to come back and tell us why you sound like a lunatic, or not ?

Yes it is cheating.
I wonder if when you say you don't think you cheated, you mean, you didn't get down to the good stuff because you realised your marriage is more important. SO, at the crucial moment, you chose your marriage over sex with another man. Which is why you have been able to make your relationship work, since you have confirmed to yourself how important it is to you.

years ago i was in bed with a guy who was quite happy for me to have my mouth full, then he suddenly said that i wasnt to expect it to be reciprocated, cos he didnt do that

i laughed because i thought he was joking, til it was obvious he wasnt, and asked him why

he said it was because he didnt love me and that kind of thing was for people in love

i said "i dont love you either mate" got dressed and went home leaving him unfulfilled

Of course it's cheating