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Partner has turned out to be a nutter

137 replies

SnackJack · 25/01/2009 22:26

I'm feeling so down and fed up. I was a single parent for almost 8 years, had a few disastrous relationships in the meantime, ended up thinking I was meant to be alone for ever and then I met what I thought to be a lovely man.
He would take me out for dinner, send me flowers randomly, treated me like a princess, I LOVED spending time with him, we were planning a holiday together and he was great with my kids.

I really thought he was "the one".

Anyway for the past couple of weeks things have been different, he has seemed pre-occupied, when I phone he seems 'cold' and made excuses about why we couldn't meet until last night he said "we need to talk" and I thought "great, here it comes...its not working out or 'i've found someone else' blah blah blah"

So we arranged for him to come here tonight. I made us dinner, he was quiet all night. Kids went to bed, I asked what he wanted to talk about and he started off by saying "this is going to be so hard, you're not going to understand or even believe what I tell you but its taken so much courage to decide it needs to be said"

So I'm like just get on with it...

He sits opposite me, holds my hand, looks directly at me and with the straightest face you could imagine says......

"I'm a vampire".

I didn't say anything at first, just looked at him before saying "what?" and he repeated it.

I obviously assumed it was a metaphore for something else but he went on to assure me that he was actually a real, full on vampire.

I told him I wasn't in the mood for games and playing around, sense of humour may have taken a dive tonight, whatever but I wanted to know why he has cooled right off these past few weeks. He kept on with this stupid fucking vampire story until in the end I just told him to leave.

I can't believe it has ended like this. I mean, if he wanted to break up, why couldn't he give me a proper reason? we have been together for almost a year now, surely too long to take the piss like this as a quick and half hearted way to dump me?

I'm sick to death of everything. DD is playing me up something rotten and now I'm stuck back to being a single parent again.

OP posts:
izyboy · 26/01/2009 19:31

Snackers - avoid, avoid,avoid. I think the guy is having a psychotic episode. Please let us know you are ok, bit worried about you meeting him again tbh.

Tortington · 26/01/2009 19:33

does this make you racist for breaking up with a vampite?

zazen · 26/01/2009 20:13

Is he channeling the lovely Edward Cullen?

I'm sorry that he isn't who you thought and that you've spent a year hoping he's 'the one'.

FWIW I've never believed in either vampires or 'the one'.

SnackJack · 26/01/2009 20:36

Thanks for all the replies. I just want to say that my thread was actually serious but you lot have helped me see the funny side and even I was laughing at some of the responses.

I text him to cancel dinner tonight just saying I would agree to talk when he apologised for acting the idiot and stopped talking silly. I have had no reply.

No doubt I will laugh about it in the future, I have kind of laughed today but more at you lot than him so thanks I'm just a bit down that a whole year just seems nothing more than a joke to him.

OP posts:
lou33 · 26/01/2009 21:10

i always kind of liked the idea of being got by a vampire

RobertPattinsonComeToMomma · 26/01/2009 22:07

The anaemia would get to you eventually Lou!

lou33 · 26/01/2009 22:14

i look pale enough for everyone to think i am anyway

(never have been btw am just naturally deathly in pallor)

no5 · 26/01/2009 22:18

lol this is funniest thing i have seen since moldiegate

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/01/2009 22:22

Snackjack, just out of curiosity, what does he do for a living?

lou33 · 26/01/2009 22:36

is he hot?

surely thats the most important question ?

harleyd · 26/01/2009 22:40

hot vampires

[hyperventilates]

lou33 · 26/01/2009 22:41

oh yes i so would

i would be a really easy victim

no no dont bite me....oh go on then

themoon66 · 26/01/2009 22:52

SnackJack... have you seen the Grotty Man thread in AIBU? There's a post in there about a tampon sucking man... might be your guy?

Heathcliffscathy · 26/01/2009 23:11

oh snackjack. you need to find out if this is a metaphor of some kind. it doesn't seem to mean he doesn't want to be with you but rather than he is....oh god, actually he IS a nutter isn't he?

Heathcliffscathy · 26/01/2009 23:12

i LOVE the vampire lestat and interview with a vampire and all things vampiric by the way

lou33 · 26/01/2009 23:14

themoon, did i just read that right?!

dsrplus8 · 26/01/2009 23:20

lou you did read right!

lou33 · 26/01/2009 23:21

wtf?
i think i just threw up in my mouth a little then

can i have a link?

this i have to read...

themoon66 · 26/01/2009 23:30

grotty man thread

lou33 · 26/01/2009 23:33

am clicking with a weird mix of excitement and trepidation

izyboy · 27/01/2009 09:26

Actually I am glad you cancelled Snackers. I hope he is joking with you/is sane but enjoys vampire 'experiences'with willing partners. However he could be having a psychotic episode and this would be alot for you to have to deal with. Whatever is going on, I think your response is sensible and will sort out the 'wheat from the chaff'.

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mumonthenet · 28/01/2009 09:02

I have literally not laughed so much in years.

Snackjack, not laughing at you - and am really sorry he's turned out to be a nutter...the advice is good - steer clear of him because...

he's either a nutter or a vampire - and neither is a good future prospect.

SheherazadetheGoat · 28/01/2009 09:12

snigger @ 'has to avoid sunlight or he burns, that's why he lives in Scotland'.

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