Partner has turned out to be a nutter

[SnackJack]

I'm feeling so down and fed up. I was a single parent for almost 8 years, had a few disastrous relationships in the meantime, ended up thinking I was meant to be alone for ever and then I met what I thought to be a lovely man.
He would take me out for dinner, send me flowers randomly, treated me like a princess, I LOVED spending time with him, we were planning a holiday together and he was great with my kids.

I really thought he was "the one".

Anyway for the past couple of weeks things have been different, he has seemed pre-occupied, when I phone he seems 'cold' and made excuses about why we couldn't meet until last night he said "we need to talk" and I thought "great, here it comes...its not working out or 'i've found someone else' blah blah blah"

So we arranged for him to come here tonight. I made us dinner, he was quiet all night. Kids went to bed, I asked what he wanted to talk about and he started off by saying "this is going to be so hard, you're not going to understand or even believe what I tell you but its taken so much courage to decide it needs to be said"

So I'm like just get on with it...

He sits opposite me, holds my hand, looks directly at me and with the straightest face you could imagine says......

"I'm a vampire".

I didn't say anything at first, just looked at him before saying "what?" and he repeated it.

I obviously assumed it was a metaphore for something else but he went on to assure me that he was actually a real, full on vampire.

I told him I wasn't in the mood for games and playing around, sense of humour may have taken a dive tonight, whatever but I wanted to know why he has cooled right off these past few weeks. He kept on with this stupid fucking vampire story until in the end I just told him to leave.

I can't believe it has ended like this. I mean, if he wanted to break up, why couldn't he give me a proper reason? we have been together for almost a year now, surely too long to take the piss like this as a quick and half hearted way to dump me?

I'm sick to death of everything. DD is playing me up something rotten and now I'm stuck back to being a single parent again.

I used to be a werewolf....

But Im alright nowwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously, OP, I would ring him back and ask why he had to play stupid childish games instead of giving you the real reason he wanted out of the relationship.

I tick most of the boxes for being a vampire!!! All the pale skin, personal space, sense sensitivities, social quirks, cold bedroom and whatnot, to a startling degree.

(although I got a bit stuck with the ones about how you feel after drinking human blood etc. - love the way they just ask that in passing. Hmm... now I think about it - human blood does perk me up! )

Sounds like that American thing, 'true blood'

But seriously to OP - if he really said all that, I wouldn't trust him again. Either he's into mind games - not good - or he really thinks he's a vampire - not good.

If this is serious as SL says there is not a positive out of this unless he has a very bizzare sense of humour.

just get him a new job on the nightshift and all will be good! lol

i am a definite vampire according to that site

I'm thinking mental illness.

I did see something on TV a while back about people who believe they're vampires. My first thought was 'weirdos'. Being a goth or whatever, fine, but thinking you're a supernatural creature of ze night??
PMSL at vampire link btw.

I really need to go to bed - but I'm scared!

Sorry delayed post.

You know what - I really feel for you. I was dumped because my then-boyfriend received a message from God saying that I was evil!

Whaaaaaaaa??

I'm sorry to hear this has happened, but in the long run you'll realise that he's probably not good to have around.

Ok, this has obviously come across like a joke thread and I can't say I blame people for thinking it isn't serious.

The thing is, this is not a thread saying "help, my boyfriend is a vampire!" it is a thread saying "my partner of a year has suddenly ended the relationship with no proper explanation and tried to rip the piss out of me in the mean time with a stupid childish story.

I just can't understand why he would do that. The thing is he didn't look like he was trying not to laugh or that he was messing around, he was DEADLY serious.

If he'd said "I know its wierd but I like to dress up as a creature of the night in my spare time" I'd be like "ok ... strange but whatever" but it wasn't like that, he actually said he grows fangs when he smells blood and has to avoid sunlight or he burns, that's why he lives in Scotland.

He said the reason he has stayed away from me this past week is that I have been working in a "give blood" shop and the smell was driving him crazy.

In the past he has always said stuff like "I'm not like everyone else" (but all blokes say that, doesn't usually mean they're a sodding vampire) and "There's stuff about me you don't know and won't understand" and I just thought that was referring to his dress sense.

Anyway, I've not spoken to him since he "told me" but he sent me a text this morning acting as if nothing has happened he wants me to meet him and his friends "for dinner".

Bloody men.

Sorry but - that last post is hilarious, very well written too!

At least as a silver lining you could turn this into a bestselling novel.

Snackjack, I wouldn't go and meet him and his friends if I were you. Maybe YOU are dinner.

I believe you I think. I don't understand though why anyone would do this. It must be so disappointing, and I think I'd be absolutely fuming to have someone waste my time like that. I don't know what to say really, but in a few months you WILL laugh about it, I'm sure.

If this is a joke, very good!

If not, he sounds mentally ill. I would keep well clear!

What I don't understand is how he claims to grow fangs when he smells blood. Well, can't you just ask him to SHOW you this happening. Does he look a bit toothy when you've got your period? And you MUST have met up with him during daylight hours over the course of the year at SOME point? Or does he have shares in Soltan?

I just can't see how he can carry on with that daft story with you as at some point he's going to look like an absolute dickhead.

He did make a note early on of when I had my period and thinking back, he did always keep his distance around those times.

I suppose I could ask him to show me the fangs but at the time I just didn't want to encourage him or say anything to suggest I was actually falling for his story.

We have met up in daylight, he always used to say he couldn't go out in the sun as he had very, very sensitive skin but we used to go out on overcast days, I saw much more of him in the winter and on night times.

I don't know, I'm just so confused.

Oh ok then

At least I can tell myself my reply would be useful to someone who has actually been dumped by a vampire...

I just hate it when men turn out to be vampires. Happens to me all the time.

And one man liked to wrap me head to toe in bandages but I reckon he just wanted me to be his mummy.

Boom!!! I'm here all week. Try the chicken.

I once went out with a woman who turned out to be a soul-stealing creature who sucked the life-force out of men and left them lifeless husks.

She wasn't a demon, that was just how she was.

Ok well I text him back saying I would meet up with him by himself to talk things over. I'm going to ask him why he really wants to end the relationship and ask him to respect me enough not to tell me stupid stories.

We're meeting at 8pm tonight and going to Frankie and Benny's so I'm going to order shit loads of garlic mushrooms and garlic bread just to see his reaction.

Maybe I should humour him and tell him it's fine that he's a vampire, I'm a witch ... it's good to be different

What was the holiday you were planning? A vampire might have issues with a week of sun, surely?