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Partner has turned out to be a nutter

137 replies

SnackJack · 25/01/2009 22:26

I'm feeling so down and fed up. I was a single parent for almost 8 years, had a few disastrous relationships in the meantime, ended up thinking I was meant to be alone for ever and then I met what I thought to be a lovely man.
He would take me out for dinner, send me flowers randomly, treated me like a princess, I LOVED spending time with him, we were planning a holiday together and he was great with my kids.

I really thought he was "the one".

Anyway for the past couple of weeks things have been different, he has seemed pre-occupied, when I phone he seems 'cold' and made excuses about why we couldn't meet until last night he said "we need to talk" and I thought "great, here it comes...its not working out or 'i've found someone else' blah blah blah"

So we arranged for him to come here tonight. I made us dinner, he was quiet all night. Kids went to bed, I asked what he wanted to talk about and he started off by saying "this is going to be so hard, you're not going to understand or even believe what I tell you but its taken so much courage to decide it needs to be said"

So I'm like just get on with it...

He sits opposite me, holds my hand, looks directly at me and with the straightest face you could imagine says......

"I'm a vampire".

I didn't say anything at first, just looked at him before saying "what?" and he repeated it.

I obviously assumed it was a metaphore for something else but he went on to assure me that he was actually a real, full on vampire.

I told him I wasn't in the mood for games and playing around, sense of humour may have taken a dive tonight, whatever but I wanted to know why he has cooled right off these past few weeks. He kept on with this stupid fucking vampire story until in the end I just told him to leave.

I can't believe it has ended like this. I mean, if he wanted to break up, why couldn't he give me a proper reason? we have been together for almost a year now, surely too long to take the piss like this as a quick and half hearted way to dump me?

I'm sick to death of everything. DD is playing me up something rotten and now I'm stuck back to being a single parent again.

OP posts:

Wonderstuff · 26/01/2009 11:36

When I was a goth, many years ago I knew some very odd people, many of the boys were really into role playing and dressing up and a few really seemed to have lost all sense of reality and fantasy, my 'friend' with the fangs being one example, I also knew a guy who would always start conversations telling you about the latest demon encounter he had, so I do believe you and I do sympathise. He sounds a bit unstable, I would stay well clear.

CountessDracula · 26/01/2009 11:48

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CountessDracula · 26/01/2009 11:50

I can't believe he expects you just to say OH ok then and carry on as normal
Have you asked him what he does expect?
I would ask for proof too eg seeing fangs growing

UnquietDad · 26/01/2009 11:50

Some people quite seriously claim to be witches too, of course

MissusLindt · 26/01/2009 11:57

We do have sun in Scotland you know. Granted it is not the Mediterannean but it is not all rain either.

Either this is a joke, so well done.

Or it is real, and you need to avoid your partner, particularly when your mooncup is in use.

waspriceyp · 26/01/2009 12:05

Um, I know someone who claims to be a vampire. I'm going to facebook them now to see what it entails. Subs that kind of thing

cocolepew · 26/01/2009 12:06

If this is real, I'm sorry you feel let down.

But, my God, it made me laugh .

TheLorax · 26/01/2009 12:26

CountessDracula, with respect, should you be on this thread? I mean, it must be hard for you to remain objective?

TheFirstLiffey · 26/01/2009 12:32

Wow this is so funny snackjack, you're upset now, but this is going to be a great story for your grandchildren. if you think granny just sat around knitting and playing bridge, come here and listen to this grandchildren!!1 now, can you trump that?

and you're not stuck being a single parent again, you're lucky you've escaped a nutter. go to frankie and bennies though order garlic mayonnaise for your garlic mushrooms and garlic bread, and then just for good measure, push a stake through his heart, just to see if he morphs into a four hundred year old corpse.

Quattrocento · 26/01/2009 12:41

Snack I'm sure this is a wind-up but it's a good one. Am chuckling again as I read.

Arf and boak at Twinset's ditty.

AnyFucker · 26/01/2009 12:44

snackjack, who are you really??? < scratches head and thinks of regs with a sense of humour who haven't posted on this thread>

psychomum?

wannaBe · 26/01/2009 12:51

His name isn't alex is it?

On another site I used to go on there was someone who claimed he was a vampire. he was seriously weird, and we actually had reservations as to whether anything he said was true, but he was adament about the vampire stuff.

Takes all sorts...

mindalina · 26/01/2009 12:51

So that real vampire thing someone linked had me in stitches last night, and I'm perusing the rest of the site now, and imagine my when I read:

"you can mumsnet all day without him knowing" on this page under pros and cons of dating a vampire!

sprogger · 26/01/2009 12:58

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Wonderstuff · 26/01/2009 13:14

mindalina, how strange!

MissusLindt · 26/01/2009 13:24

OMG, the vampires are lurking on MN

[gets stake and garlic out of cellar]

harleyd · 26/01/2009 13:38

i used to have a serious vampire fetish!

(now its just a mild one )

coolbeans · 26/01/2009 13:44

What will you do if it turns out he's not winding you up?

(What will we do if it turns out you're not winding US up?)

ROFL at; and, "There's stuff about me you don't know and won't understand" and I just thought that was referring to his dress sense.

lottiejenkins · 26/01/2009 13:49

I saw that line in one of the OP's threads "I'm not like other guys".......Isnt that what Michael Jackson said in the Thriller video???????????????

harleyd · 26/01/2009 13:58

you know, i think if he's a lovely bloke and you like spending time with him..well, sure whats the big deal about a little vampyrism??

it could be a lot worse!

RobertPattinsonComeToMomma · 26/01/2009 15:09

MJ wasn't lying either, though, was he?

MadamDeathstare · 26/01/2009 15:44

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2rebecca · 26/01/2009 18:21

I don't think you can ever give someone a satisfactory reason as to why you want to end a relationship. "Sorry but I don't fancy you any more" is quite hurtful, despite usually being true. If he wants to end it then let him go and make up whatever silly story he wants. If he is really psychotic having delusions about being a vampire he wouldn't be going out for meals with mates. The truley mad tend to withdraw into themselves, look and sound very odd and need a doctor asap if you really care for them.

ultimatewoman · 26/01/2009 18:52

Ask if he likes steak?

staryeyed · 26/01/2009 19:13

But he could genuinely think he is a vampire. There used to be one in my college. They drink blood and everything. She wore a cape all the time over goth style clothes. They go to vampire meets and stuff.

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