How good is your single life

[1983Louise]

My husband passed away a couple of years ago after 37 years of marriage. I've dipped my toe into dating but it just made me anxious and stressed. I know I'm not ready for a relationship but what has surprised me is how I'm enjoying single life for the first time in nearly 40 years. The calm and peacefulness of home, chosing what to do on a quiet day, meeting new people and getting events in my diary, I could become addicted to it x

A rabbit can only do so much. Enjoy your single time though. Partners can be very annoying.

I love my single life. I love not having to tell anyone what I have done all day, justifying time or spending. I can go on holiday where I like. I can read whenever I like, eat whenever and whatever I like. I can have a house full of rescue dogs if I like or spend all day watching Netflix.
Freedom and lack of judgement are rare joys for women! Embrace it.

That's exactly how I'm starting to feel, I miss my husband dreadfully but at peace with my new life now x

Embrace that peace. It is precious.

It’s brilliant. I’m somewhat upset that I missed out on nearly a decade not divorcing my ex a decade sooner. I won’t live with a man again. I consider it an absolute privilege to be financially able to be single.

You need to be fairly robust for dating esp after a long marriage. It’s so bloody draining of time and energy and for what? It’s is stressful and anxiety inducing. I do it when occasionally but invariably give up and take breaks from it. Protect your peace

Having spent the morning wandering around the market and shops, stopping for a cuppa in a cosy tea shop and now back home in the warmth I can say i'm contented with single life. I have no issues with it.

This!

I couldn’t agree more.

I've been single 8 yrs.
No dates, nothing.

Honestly, its been the most empowering time of my life.
I'm not compromising my peace, happiness and contentment for anyone.

This. I think it’s the lack of judgement ever that is glorious. If I want to wear slobby/comfy clothes, eat messy food in front of the TV, dribble it down my top, press pause every two minutes on the movie (my choice) to look at my phone (which would be deeply annoying to anyone else) fart, pick my feet, I can do that every single night. Go to bed precisely when I want, not have to time it to avoid sex with ex or before he starts snoring.
if I want sex I can go online, organise it without a relationship in approx ten mins, or if I fancy a good few month stint with feelings, organise that. And then when I’m done with that, back to first few sentences.

I’ve been single since 2012. I’m almost an empty nester. I cannot describe the peace. I can’t imagine ever sharing my home, life, schedule, finances or bathroom with another person again.

Along with all the too many to list advantages (some of which posters have already described) during the heatwave I could wander around in pants and a tee without a little lightbulb going off in his head that my attire meant 'OMG, she's up for sex!'

There are hundreds. I could write a slim vol.

Yes this! Most of my friends are in relationships and anything that is suggested or discussed - a meal out, wanting their living room a different colour, buying a new cushion, booking an event - it’s always “oh I’ll just check with partner first”.

I love it.

It's lunchtime and I haven't even bothered to get dressed yet. (No appointments today).

I love your take on.life, I miss sex but haven't ventured onto the apps yet, we'll just have to see, a FWB would be good fun tho x

There are lots of ways to have "fun" when you're single. Especially when there's no-one to judge you and it can be your secret :)

Ive been single all my life except for a couple of years in my 20s and we divorced amicably - no children. There is an old saying that you marry in haste and repent at leisure. That's certainly true. I would never want to lv'e with anyone again - not just a man. Anyone of any variety. I am too private.

But I do resent the extend to which single people sub out families - especially the bloody council tax which is very poor value for singles unless you are old and needy.

I lost my wife a year ago. We were only together 12 years all in, and I lived on my own for 29 years prior to us getting together. I'd had relationships, but never lived with anyone until my wife. So, in some senses, it is 'back to normal' other than that I miss her terribly.

I have a rich and varied social life, fortunately have a job I enjoy, but I can't see myself as anything other than single again. Lightning doesn't strike twice and all that.

If you were married for that long I'm assuming you're in your 70s? No way would I even consider dating again at your age! I'm 45 and can't be arsed with it!

Holidays. Yes, you are giving me a room which you could give to a couple but I'm also half the work when it comes to cleaning.

I hate it.
My husband who I adored ended things 3 months ago and I am distraught.

I miss having that one person to do things with and share special moments, but actually putting the effort in to meeting someone seems like too much effort tbh.

They'd have to be pretty bloody special to want to live someone again too, the peace, the calm, the doing what the hell I want and when is just bliss

I like the sound of that, will feel good being naughty again lol

I'm so sorry, my husband passed suddenly so I do understand the way life can blow up in your face and the devastation it brings. I hope you're being loved and supported x