How good is your single life

[1983Louise]

My husband passed away a couple of years ago after 37 years of marriage. I've dipped my toe into dating but it just made me anxious and stressed. I know I'm not ready for a relationship but what has surprised me is how I'm enjoying single life for the first time in nearly 40 years. The calm and peacefulness of home, chosing what to do on a quiet day, meeting new people and getting events in my diary, I could become addicted to it x

I enjoy being single. I have been for 8 years, even a good healthy relationship would require me making compromises I don’t want to. Plus the amount of men I would even entertain anything with is absolutely minuscule in itself and not something I would seek out anyway.

@ mysticguru What are the lots of ways to have fun if you don't mind sharing?
Whenever I meet someone where there seems to be a mutual attraction they turn out to be married / not available I've not seen too many viable opportunities so far, perhaps I'm missing something?
Thanks!

Be creative.

It’s very circumstantial, I have a woman friend who has never had what she or I would call a truly decent relationship. She is in her mid sixties and still hankers after one be use she ants go know what that feeling is. I am a little younger and have been with DH for decades and if he dies before e I worry about being alone but it’s alone without him not just being alone.

I'm newly widowed this year after 33 years of happy marriage. I miss my DH sooo much and would give anything to have him back, but I will never share my life with any other partner.

I don't want any other relationship at all, so will embrace being single, not answerable to anyone else etc. Not having to discuss my decisions and choices, being fully in charge of my house and finances.

I'm 60. Still trying to get used to being a widow. I don't tend to use the term much and do still consider myself married. I probably always will consider myself married, but I will embrace the next phase of life too.

I’m newly single after 20 years and I am loving it. Most of you have spoken of the “peace” and that is exactly what I have found. I’m so chilled, I love being selfish and not thinking about the feelings of another (miserable) person.

I’m really busy and don’t turn down an invitation, most of my friends are in relationships but moan constantly about them.

I do miss sex but I think I may have somebody lined up for that, no strings so hoping he doesn’t get clingy. I had an FB before marriage and it worked perfectly.

Can’t wait to go on holiday by myself next year.

I doubt it after 8 years?

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This young woman gives so much inspiration. I'm a gay woman, broke up with an ex I lived with in 2017. Have been essentially single since, have had relationships but nothing that went beyond seeing one another at weekends.

I'm mid forties. Sex wise, plus side of being gay is the ease of accessing low-risk casual sex whenever I wish.
I haven't as of yet, I broke up with someone recently. The whole thing was hard work and although it was sad, it was right.

Im single again after a 18 month relationship. Prior to this I was single for 4.5 years. The logistics of being single is what I dont like. Having no one to pick me up if train late / need aeroport drop off etc. I can do it but its just easier having another human to help tbh

This time around I dont have any single friends and Im planning to join new groups and try new things.

It will have to be someone incredibly special who really sees me and desires me sexually for who I am after oddball fetish man. Loving being single, but then I've never had a problem with my own company.

It's generally good, but yesterday I had a hospital procedure, and it woukd be nice to have a hug and a bit of looking after. (I am fully aware there sre pelivibg with others who would still be thinking that after treatment, when instead they woukd still be expected to make the dinner and so on.)

I hate it!

I do think I prefer a boring/average relationship to being single. While I love the house being mine, able to do what I want when I want, it can be very lonely and miss out on couple type things - holidays, Christmas