DH is suspicious that I am getting involved with a school dad. If I was him I might wonder the same because there is some unfortunate circumstantial evidence, but it's honestly not true!
I see school dad for ten minutes a week, when we pick our respective kids up from an activity. I have his number because he sorts the kids availability out and we have had to arrange attendance at parties / occasional school queries etc via WhatsApp. School dad is also married, by the way.
Occasionally there is the odd not-strictly-necessary text. So the other day for example I asked him if he was going to a festival in town, just because it would be nice for our kids to meet up and for the two families generally to see each other. DH felt a bit out out that I'd text a man about this. Honestly if he wanted to read all of our texts ever he could and he would see that not a single one of them came even close to crossing a line.
But yesterday unfortunately something happened and now he is suspicious. I perform in a choir. We were doing a performance locally. I mentioned this in a next conversation to school dad. I don't like my own DH watching me in the choir as I find it a bit embarrassing and off putting. This is nothing new. I didn't invite school dad down yesterday but he unexpectedly showed up, with his kids, to watch the performance, because they were in the area and had a spare few mins. I thought that this was lovely (I didn't think there was an ulterior motive and I still don't) but when I mentioned it to DH he got into a huff.
I can see why he would get huffy. I told him not to come, and then this other guy came. But honestly it was an accident, there was nothing in it, and surely it would have been worse had I not mentioned it and DH had found out some other way.
I don't want to cut contact with school dad, because we are friends-ish and also cos the kids are close and I need to contact him for admin purposes. But I could do without a jealous DH. Any advice?