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Think husband has issues with me masterbating

79 replies

Gem1258953 · 08/07/2026 09:18

I work from home occasionally and when I do mid afternoon I like to quickly just get myself off. I use a vibrator. I’ve got an old rabbit friend that’s rechargeable.

I’ve always thought it was just a bit old so needed charging when I used it. Bit frustrating. However three times now I’ve been in the drawer it’s kept in (after work after I’ve charged it that day for example) and the lights been on - meaning the battery drains down.

Ive questioned my hubby about this before because I have my suspicions it’s him. Which has ended up in arguing and denial - it’s me I must be leaving it switched on.

Our sex life is good, no issues there at all from me.
Just find this situation rather frustrating and a bit of a mind f%€k.

Anyone been in a similar position? Any advice?

OP posts:
almondflake · 08/07/2026 09:20

Get a decoy rabbit and hide it somewhere he can’t find it 😁

stargirl27 · 08/07/2026 09:20

How strange, has he ever expressed any negative opinion about you masturbating

shellyleppard · 08/07/2026 09:21

Hide it in a different place?

LadyTable · 08/07/2026 09:22

He's probably using it on his ring.

Belladog1 · 08/07/2026 09:23

LadyTable · 08/07/2026 09:22

He's probably using it on his ring.

Oh my god 😂

applecake78 · 08/07/2026 09:24

For future reference:

It is spelt with u not with an e

The root is not “master” but turbare as in turbulence or per-turb

MyArtfulGreySloth · 08/07/2026 09:25

So you can’t but I bet he can get himself off, right?

MyArtfulGreySloth · 08/07/2026 09:25

applecake78 · 08/07/2026 09:24

For future reference:

It is spelt with u not with an e

The root is not “master” but turbare as in turbulence or per-turb

Get a life 😂

LadyTable · 08/07/2026 09:27

applecake78 · 08/07/2026 09:24

For future reference:

It is spelt with u not with an e

The root is not “master” but turbare as in turbulence or per-turb

This is probably worse than the opening post.

MinnieCoops · 08/07/2026 09:28

He’s probably using it himself

BauhausOfEliott · 08/07/2026 09:28

I think it’s much more likely that it’s just faulty.

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 09:28

I’ve always thought it was just a bit old

Treat yourself to a new one. I wouldn't naturally jump to the fact that your partner doesn't agree with your masturbation practices so he's trying to sabotage them by draining the battery on your rabbit. There's probably a much more simple explanation.

How about asking him how he feels about your afternoon action?

CuriousKangaroo · 08/07/2026 09:30

Good lord, is this real? Who masturbates while working? This feels like one of those posts people make to slag off working from home.

researchers3 · 08/07/2026 09:31

LadyTable · 08/07/2026 09:22

He's probably using it on his ring.

🤣🤣🤣

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

firstofallimadelight · 08/07/2026 09:32

I’d say buy a new vibrator. Don’t mention it and put it somewhere else. You are entitled to your privacy especially if you feel your dp is not being supportive/ respectful of you.

stargirl27 · 08/07/2026 09:33

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

Surely this is as much of an issue as someone going for a shit/smoke/cuppa - doubt they notice?

MeanwhileinGilead · 08/07/2026 09:33

You think he's intentionally going into the drawer and turning the light on so that it runs down and you'll potentially have to recharge it before use, but he's never said anything critical about your using it? I'd stop worrying about his possible but unexpressed opinions and maybe take the batteries out in between uses so you're sure that you've turned it off and it hasn't (been) turned back on. (Also replies a bit weird - most jobs have breaks?)

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:40

stargirl27 · 08/07/2026 09:33

Surely this is as much of an issue as someone going for a shit/smoke/cuppa - doubt they notice?

Is it? I don't know.

My local council employees all work from home and judging by their interest in, and ability to deal with, issues I wouldn't be surprised at all if their minds were on masturbation rather than the job they were supposed to be doing.

Bumcake · 08/07/2026 09:47

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

Do you think she puts it on her timesheet?

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:48

Bumcake · 08/07/2026 09:47

Do you think she puts it on her timesheet?

I have no idea. She obviously thinks it's a normal part of the working day so perhaps she does.

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 09:50

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

I'm not sure that's something to bring up with your boss in your quarterly appraisal to be fair.

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:53

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 09:50

I'm not sure that's something to bring up with your boss in your quarterly appraisal to be fair.

I agree.

It doesn't say much for the integrity and commitment of people who work from home does it?

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 10:04

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:53

I agree.

It doesn't say much for the integrity and commitment of people who work from home does it?

I'm not sure she would document and report back every time she put a load of washing on, went for a poo, answered the door to a delivery driver either.

I don't think this is an issue with integrity and commitment. I meant it's probably not necessary to tell your boss about your bodily functions. There are plenty of people having wank in the office toilets as we speak... it's not a working from home phenomenon.

Additup · 08/07/2026 10:15

CuriousKangaroo · 08/07/2026 09:30

Good lord, is this real? Who masturbates while working? This feels like one of those posts people make to slag off working from home.

Whag are you on about? WFH is a fine time to masturbate 😁