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Think husband has issues with me masterbating

79 replies

Gem1258953 · 08/07/2026 09:18

I work from home occasionally and when I do mid afternoon I like to quickly just get myself off. I use a vibrator. I’ve got an old rabbit friend that’s rechargeable.

I’ve always thought it was just a bit old so needed charging when I used it. Bit frustrating. However three times now I’ve been in the drawer it’s kept in (after work after I’ve charged it that day for example) and the lights been on - meaning the battery drains down.

Ive questioned my hubby about this before because I have my suspicions it’s him. Which has ended up in arguing and denial - it’s me I must be leaving it switched on.

Our sex life is good, no issues there at all from me.
Just find this situation rather frustrating and a bit of a mind f%€k.

Anyone been in a similar position? Any advice?

OP posts:
Additup · 08/07/2026 10:16

Bumcake · 08/07/2026 09:47

Do you think she puts it on her timesheet?

😂😂😂

WildLeader · 08/07/2026 10:19

Are the schools off today?

chocoluv · 08/07/2026 10:20

Just get a new one with a better battery life.

You’re blaming your DH with no proof but admit that it’s old.

Or just pop it on charge in the morning.

You sound very difficult.

WildLeader · 08/07/2026 10:20

Additup · 08/07/2026 10:15

Whag are you on about? WFH is a fine time to masturbate 😁

Alternative word being used for the W part of WFH there.

here are 2 more letters for this thread…

B and S

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/07/2026 10:21

Do you have any other evidence that he doesn't like you masturbating, because this seems a bit flimsy to be honest.

Surely if he was turning it on drain the battery, you'd be able to hear it? Those things aren't exactly quiet, and one left in a bedside drawer turned on could be heard downstairs in our house.

Gem1258953 · 08/07/2026 10:22

Belladog1 · 08/07/2026 09:23

Oh my god 😂

😂🤣😂

OP posts:
Additup · 08/07/2026 10:23

WildLeader · 08/07/2026 10:20

Alternative word being used for the W part of WFH there.

here are 2 more letters for this thread…

B and S

You could well be right about this thread 😂

JaneEyresuglysister · 08/07/2026 10:23

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

Hopefully she doesn’t put it down on her timesheet 😳

Gem1258953 · 08/07/2026 10:26

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/07/2026 10:21

Do you have any other evidence that he doesn't like you masturbating, because this seems a bit flimsy to be honest.

Surely if he was turning it on drain the battery, you'd be able to hear it? Those things aren't exactly quiet, and one left in a bedside drawer turned on could be heard downstairs in our house.

Theres a power button then three other buttons. Just the power button being on alone it does not make any noise only a light comes on but will slowly drain the battery.
Appreciate your point, inclined to agree but I’m definitely checking it when I pop it back that it’s not on. May just try to find a different hiding spot but I’m loathed to do this almost because why shouldn’t I be able to have freedom.

OP posts:
stargirl27 · 08/07/2026 10:39

CuriousKangaroo · 08/07/2026 09:30

Good lord, is this real? Who masturbates while working? This feels like one of those posts people make to slag off working from home.

sex workers do

DeftPlumLurker · 08/07/2026 10:42

The headline and the first post don't really align

QuaintBeaker · 08/07/2026 10:46

applecake78 · 08/07/2026 09:24

For future reference:

It is spelt with u not with an e

The root is not “master” but turbare as in turbulence or per-turb

This is my favourite reply. I like a bit of random knowledge thrown in! Thank you

MrWaldonsLeg · 08/07/2026 10:59

applecake78 · 08/07/2026 09:24

For future reference:

It is spelt with u not with an e

The root is not “master” but turbare as in turbulence or per-turb

I am thankful for this reply. Not just the correction but the etymology.. My Mum attended a grammar school so dictionary reading was part of our childhood.

I agree that people are way to comfortable with being ignorant hence the shitty replies to you. Why don't people want to learn to spell correctly?

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:02

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 10:04

I'm not sure she would document and report back every time she put a load of washing on, went for a poo, answered the door to a delivery driver either.

I don't think this is an issue with integrity and commitment. I meant it's probably not necessary to tell your boss about your bodily functions. There are plenty of people having wank in the office toilets as we speak... it's not a working from home phenomenon.

The issue I have is nothing, and I mean nothing, ever goes smoothly these days. There is always a problem caused by inefficiency or poor service or mistakes.

I just wish people, in whatever working environment they are in, would actually concentrate on the job they are supposed to be doing, instead of masturbating,having a quicky in the office stockroom, doing their washing on employers time or whatever else distracts them from the job they are paid to do.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 08/07/2026 11:09

Gem1258953 · 08/07/2026 10:26

Theres a power button then three other buttons. Just the power button being on alone it does not make any noise only a light comes on but will slowly drain the battery.
Appreciate your point, inclined to agree but I’m definitely checking it when I pop it back that it’s not on. May just try to find a different hiding spot but I’m loathed to do this almost because why shouldn’t I be able to have freedom.

OK, I get that, we've got one similar.

If it's just powering an LED though at that point, it's really not going to drain the battery that quickly. You say you've charged it that day, it's really not going to drain quickly enough unless there's some actual motion involved.

I think it's more likely that you've just got a duff battery, it just seems like very circumstantial evidence when you don't have any real reason why he'd do it.

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 11:15

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:02

The issue I have is nothing, and I mean nothing, ever goes smoothly these days. There is always a problem caused by inefficiency or poor service or mistakes.

I just wish people, in whatever working environment they are in, would actually concentrate on the job they are supposed to be doing, instead of masturbating,having a quicky in the office stockroom, doing their washing on employers time or whatever else distracts them from the job they are paid to do.

Have you been binge watching Rivals?

3wouldbegood · 08/07/2026 11:18

It's really odd that you think your husband is behind this and have accused him before. Is there more to it? I think most people would assume the device was faulty.

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:23

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 11:15

Have you been binge watching Rivals?

Is Rivals is a TV series? Never heard of it I'm afraid.
I'm just somebody who is just very disillusioned with people's standards these days.
I don't have anything against masturbating. But doing it in the middle of the day when you are supposed to be working is pretty unprofessional and hardly shows any commitment to the job she is being paid to do. I hope she washes her hands afterwards.

SleepingStandingUp · 08/07/2026 11:27

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

I'm wondering what job it is that requires a quick mid afternoon orgasm. not even lunch time or home time but middle of the afternoon

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 11:35

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:23

Is Rivals is a TV series? Never heard of it I'm afraid.
I'm just somebody who is just very disillusioned with people's standards these days.
I don't have anything against masturbating. But doing it in the middle of the day when you are supposed to be working is pretty unprofessional and hardly shows any commitment to the job she is being paid to do. I hope she washes her hands afterwards.

She pops her rabbit back on charge in the drawer, I reckon she's definitely organised enough to wash her hands, and I'm not sure daytime masturbation while on the clock is a Modern Day phenomenon or the reason you can't get a doctors appointment.

LeaveMeBee · 08/07/2026 11:53

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:31

What does your employer think about this?

Well I don't think she's doing it whilst on a teams meeting, so I dare say the employer has no idea 😆

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:56

60degreecycle · 08/07/2026 11:35

She pops her rabbit back on charge in the drawer, I reckon she's definitely organised enough to wash her hands, and I'm not sure daytime masturbation while on the clock is a Modern Day phenomenon or the reason you can't get a doctors appointment.

Well I thought WFH was a modern phenomenon so I expect people taking their employers for mugs in the way a percentage of people do when they WFH is a relatively new thing.

I will admit though that office shenanigans isn't a new thing. Although when I worked in an office - quite a few years ago - lunch time drinking, after work hours drinking , and affairs were the go to methods of bad behaviour. Masturbation and actual sex in the office on work tIme didn't happen. It wouldn't have been feasible.

Chesspitofbacteria · 08/07/2026 13:02

LeaveMeBee · 08/07/2026 11:53

Well I don't think she's doing it whilst on a teams meeting, so I dare say the employer has no idea 😆

😂Excellent!

BauhausOfEliott · 08/07/2026 13:12

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:53

I agree.

It doesn't say much for the integrity and commitment of people who work from home does it?

Do you think someone who goes to make a cup of tea in the office and chats to a colleague about their weekend for five minutes while they're doing it lacks 'integrity and commitment' too?

Also, do you not understand that some people are able to work flexibly? I manage to put in my contracted hours - and more - while going for a 90-minute walk most afternoons, so I'm guessing I could certainly fit in a quick wank without the fabric of society collapsing.

Boreded · 08/07/2026 13:27

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 11:02

The issue I have is nothing, and I mean nothing, ever goes smoothly these days. There is always a problem caused by inefficiency or poor service or mistakes.

I just wish people, in whatever working environment they are in, would actually concentrate on the job they are supposed to be doing, instead of masturbating,having a quicky in the office stockroom, doing their washing on employers time or whatever else distracts them from the job they are paid to do.

You know people have breaks right?

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