Where do people meet a regular friends with benefits arrangement?

[StarryLo]

Im a single mum in my 30s and want to find a fwb but where do you meet them? When I was younger I would meet them online but the vast majority of the men just wanted to sleep with me and never contact me again, im looking for a regular fwb rather than ONS. I have read about Fab swingers and feeld but I’m really not into anything kinky in the slightest so dont like the idea of them. I was thinking tinder but I don’t want to put it on my profile incase people I know in real life see me on there (I wouldn’t want them to know) where have others found theirs?

Have you tried googling that phrase and your area into google and seeing what sites that come up?

Well I just tried that out of interest and the only things that came up were news articles about fwb a couple of mumsnet threads asking the same question and a Reddit thread. But thanks.

anyway anyone else that’s actually had one? Where did you find them?

Maybe try feeld but it’s not something you’re likely to find instantly. I haven’t ever had one but I would imagine it may take some time to find the right set up.

Yes as per my post I’ve heard of feeld but I get the impression thats for more kinky people than me lol I just want a regular guy but not a relationship (maybe im wrong though!)

Fab and feeld are not kink focused at all. Fab especially is very vanilla in a lot of ways. You also have the advantage of being able to read reviews!

Have you tried having relationships with women instead? Everything that you are looking for would be ideally solved with a female partner, and you will probably end up falling in love and having a happy life together anyway. Just a thought!

My friend met her two FWBs on Hinge. I would just put you’re looking for a short term / casual relationship and explain what you want when you’re actually talking.

This isn’t something you can order online. You’d have to sleep with someone and hope they will contact you again. Not fun in my opinion

What?! That makes no sense.

Really? Swinging is not kink? lol

Only if I was sexually attracted to women but im not unfortunately!

Do you have any actual single male friends who might like some benefits? Join some local clubs and do it the old fashioned way?

Awwwww that's a shame. I have a friend who is a gold star lesbian and she told me that we are all somewhere on the Kinsey Scale and that one day she will make me hers. So far it hasn't happened but I have started to have a few dreams about the two of us together and it wasn't all bad. I think she might have a point to be honest!

No I don’t have anyone suitable and dont want to join clubs for it

I wish I knew the answer @StarryLo because that’s exactly what I’d ideally be searching for too (ideally). I hope someone knows the answer.

Don’t feel that I’m ready for a full on relationship yet but equally don’t like ONS.

And as a Male it’ll be more awkward to suggest a FWB relationship to someone I already know.

Lots of fun actually if you're lucky in who you find and that's what you want

My best friend found hers on Adult Friend Finder.

Haha no I wouldn't say so. Some kinks are met via swinging like cuckolding but swinging per se is usually fairly vanilla sex in multiple configurations. Kink is catered for on different sites.

Sorry I missed that.

But no there will be that aspect to it there, but also men looking for a regular fwb too.

I think looking for FWB is a hard one to “find” if you don’t already know someone & not prepared to take a chance. One of friends has a long term FWB who she did actually meet on Hinge but not by advertising that was what she was looking for initially. She connected with someone on there, went on a date & had a ONS and then afterwards proposed continuing on as FWB and he was happy to do that. Maybe worth a try?

What's that weird game that all the nerdy men play with all the little toy soldiers and the dice and the tables and stuff? You see the shops sometimes when you are walking through town, I bet you could find a man there who would take anything you offered them.

After my marriage had ended, I met my first two FWB in the pub. I knew them already, but now that I was single, I was able to take the opportunity. The third (and current) I met in a club. This one I was more wary off as I didn't know him already, but it has worked out pretty great. I have never done the online thing as its hard to know if you fancy someone before meeting in person. I am also quite shy (honestly) and don't want to put my details online. If you can, try and get out with friends, work colleagues, old friends from school etc. I never turn down an invitation to go out. Then you never know who you might bump into.

Honestly, fab isn’t actually too bad for kink. There’s a lot of dicks on there and you have to wade through a lot of shit sometimes but I’ve met my last 2 fwbs on there

Even though it’s called fab swingers there’s actually not a lot of swingers on there

I expect you’ll get some offers sliding into your PM’s on here…. Whether you want them or not!