Where do people meet a regular friends with benefits arrangement?

[StarryLo]

Im a single mum in my 30s and want to find a fwb but where do you meet them? When I was younger I would meet them online but the vast majority of the men just wanted to sleep with me and never contact me again, im looking for a regular fwb rather than ONS. I have read about Fab swingers and feeld but I’m really not into anything kinky in the slightest so dont like the idea of them. I was thinking tinder but I don’t want to put it on my profile incase people I know in real life see me on there (I wouldn’t want them to know) where have others found theirs?

I think if you have that thought in your head then it's a very real possibility.
My dh and I have another married couple as friends ( we've moved now and don't see them now ) dh has known them from a teenager and the couple for together from that age .

One day she came around for a coffee ( just us ) and a chat and more or less propositioned me . I said it's not something I've never had the inclination to do .
If you've not ruled it out , maybe it's in you to do so .

Try POF. No photo, state what you want, age range etc. Weedle out the crap and only speak to those who seem intelligent. Swap messages lots before phone calls.

I think this is a really good idea I might do this at least then I don’t have to put up my pics straight away

I’d love a FWB. I don’t have the capacity for anything more at the moment.

A few years ago I was online dating and swapped a few messages with someone who was after a FWB but I wanted a relationship. I am kicking myself now as it’s exactly what I want now 😡.

On the sex board here there used to be a thread for chatting, I’d like that to come back if possible too 😆.

When I had fwbs they were actually my friends; then relationship stopped being sexual after a while and we just remained friends. Maybe start with your actual friend group? I know this could be awkward to outwardly ask. With my last one (a few years ago now), I just went round his for drinks and one thing led to another, and we stayed round with each other a few times but then it stopped as one of us would get a partner or whatever.

Always leave your FWB on good terms, one day you’ll need them again.
A good FWB is well worth keeping in contact with. 😉☺️☺️.

I don’t have any male friends so that’s not an opinion unfortunately

Thats the trouble though it’s finding someone that actually wants it. A lot of men old just want to sleep with someone once then disappear they don’t want a regular set up

How do you check they’re not married/in a serious relationship? Is it too much to ask for a FWB to be actually single. I’m just coming out of a marriage and don’t want a relationship but don’t want to be with cheaters either.

I heard Fab is full of married men so thats another reason why I plan to avoid it. It’s hard to know for sure I definitely had one in the past that had a gf because she contacted me!

A bit like a standing order :)

Maybe be a bit more creative OP. FWB's come in different guises and options.

There's sexting
On line fun
Phone fun
Dating fun
Weekends away fun
If you're looking for a one day a week fumble at 3.00 on a Friday then it can be a bit boring. IFSWIM

Youll be surprised how many vanilla singles are on there. Id set profile to only have verified and picture profiles though. Men far outweigh women on there.

Tinder you can block contacts in your phone. And as a single woman so what if you are seen?

So are all the apps from what I have seen, constantly seeing pics on the "are we dating the same guy" pages on FB that I recognise.

To be fair, I find that if a man is married or in a relationship on fab, they will tell you. They think it will make them more attractive…..sigh

Yes that’s what puts me off online stuff or even people you e.g. meet down the pub.

There must be some single guys that just want sex/a fun time and not anything serious though.

Really? The mind boggles…

Wow

I think they think that we will drop out knickers for them because it’s “naughty” and “thrilling” meh….i tell them what I think and block. Gross
There are lots of single guys on there, I like it for that but it depends what you want and what you’re comfortable with.

I think all you can do is get their full name and Google / look them up on social media.

Then look around for clues if / when you’re round theres.

Yeah I think the trouble is a lot of them will be in relationships looking for a bit on the side not really sure theres a way to make sure they aren’t lying

I met one on OK Cupid (not sure if that's still going) and have used Fab in the past. Current 'proper' (as in not just a FWB) relationship is with a man I started seeing as a FWB, and we fell in love. So that can happen, too ...

I've always been on the lookout for a similar arrangement but never been able to find one. The problem for us guys is that we all get branded the same as wanting nothing but sex when that's not always the case, but the majority spoil it for the minority!