Where do people meet a regular friends with benefits arrangement?

[StarryLo]

Im a single mum in my 30s and want to find a fwb but where do you meet them? When I was younger I would meet them online but the vast majority of the men just wanted to sleep with me and never contact me again, im looking for a regular fwb rather than ONS. I have read about Fab swingers and feeld but I’m really not into anything kinky in the slightest so dont like the idea of them. I was thinking tinder but I don’t want to put it on my profile incase people I know in real life see me on there (I wouldn’t want them to know) where have others found theirs?

I’ve tried signing up using various email addresses and user names but I juts can’t gain access. Any advice?

Odd. I wonder if they’ve put a hold on new members given the site has featured heavily in the news recently. They do have a ‘contact us’ page which you could try?

@Plates1 Try POF The Naughty Pond

That was the same. Nothing came of it except spending a fortune on subscriptions

I just don’t have the time right now. It’s a shame because I’d really like to connect with someone authentic

When I was on Adult Friend Finder there were quite a lot of men at least mentioning that they were interested in this. It was just before Covid though. It wasn’t what I wanted.

TBH I’d put the sex first and worry about the friendship afterwards but then I’ve had enough below average sex to last a lifetime.

Adult friend finder? Is that not another paid app like the other ones? Well, for now I’m looking at sex like pizza. Even bad pizza is still good! 🍕

You want a FWB but don’t have time to even send an email?

I knew how that would come across once I sent it. It’s my instant reaction resulting from so many bad experiences to date with apps and websites of this kind. You’re right.

Il send an email and who knows, maybe il finally get lucky!

Do you mean Dungeons and Dragons?

That's a very unkind thing to say about men who play it, you know.

I have a friend who has been known to virtually club delivery men ‘round the head and drag them into her house for a shag. 😂
I mean, if you’re looking for something regular, they usually come at about the same time each day - so to speak.

I think I’d very much like to be introduced to your friend 😎😏

It has me contemplating a career change!

WFH just doesn’t offer the same opportunities! 😂

Most apps have a question asking something casual, presumably that's the same thing...loads of blokes on Match wanted sex. Youd have to weed them out

Feeld is really good for this. It's kink positive, not obligatory and makes it easy to be upfront about what everyone is looking for.

I’d go via tinder without much info on your profile, just pics. The when you match, have a bit of minimal conversation then dive in and ask them what they’re looking for and be very honest about what you’d like. Usually if you say “so what are you looking for on here?” They’ll ask you the same back.

I think fwb is inherently unstable though, either they may like you too much or vice versa or they’ll meet someone new if they’re actually looking for a relationship. I’d probably see it more as flings and if you got 6 months out of them that’d be good going. Rather than feel disappointment each time the arrangement doesn’t continue long term.

'Is this some sort of sex thing?
'Far from it, Jen.'

That's just bizarre!

Agreed. I notice PP isn’t advising the bloke on this thread that everything that he wants would be easily achieved with a man, and he should simply find a male sexual partner instead.

Fab is good. It's called swingers from its original purpose but isn't just for that. I've been on there a few years and never done any swinging. Have met some lovely people (also blocked hundreds) and has great fun, a few became FWB on and off. Men hugely outweigh women. You'll get inundated with offers. Be very very picky. Write a decent profile and at the end put a word they have to say in their first message. If they don't say it, block them. Take it slow and meet for coffee only before committing to anything else. It's been really fun for me.

I’m looking for similar to you and have joined tinder. I haven’t put on my profile that I’m looking for something casual or fwb but it easily comes up in conversation once you start talking to people.