I guess this is a but of a relationship AIBU. Or maybe an AIB Old Fashioned!
I'm new to online dating after coming out of a 25 year marriage and I've had a couple of chats with guys online and on the phone. I am finding that there is a directness that I am really not used to and wondered if this is normal?
I figured that these preliminary chats would be about who we are, what we do, a little bit of life history, finding an emotional connection, seeing if we connect before we meet etc. Baby steps. But instead there seems to be an almost dogged focus on the physical side of things even at this early stage. These guys have been respectful and polite but talking about sexual compatibility, preferences etc before we've even met feels a bit presumptuous to me.
I get that in our 50s we all have a better idea of what we are after in a relationship and maybe there's a sense of urgency at this age or something, but what happened to good old fashioned flirting and finding stuff out bit by bit? Is it the norm to be setting out your stall so early?