Condoms in DH room.Im post menopausal

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Condoms in DHS room and I'm post menopausal.
I came home from work an hour after DH.
Tidying up I put something in his room and there were two condom packets open on the floor.
On further investigation I find a box of condoms with 4 missing and lube under his bedside unit.
I calmly ask why he has them and he said you won't have sex with me!!.
I asked him if he had a posh wNK to which he said he used the condoms as he had a circumcision a couple of months ago and he is still sore down below this is true as he has to go to the GP a couple of weeks ago.
He got cream to use which hasn't worked.
Surely a condom can't stay on once and erection has passed in my experience.
No we haven't had sex in ages I just don't believe the condom for comfort story either.

Agree, what weird responses. Can’t believe people think it’s fine for the DH to be sexually active without telling OP and wonder why they’d feel in the same shoes.

Ask him if he invited anyone into your home for sex, ask him if he is on any of the apps.

Why do you tidy his room?

My DP had a circumcision as an adult and using condoms and lube for masturbation (either alone or me doing it to him) was exactly what the surgeon told him to do if he had soreness or over-sensitivity in the months after the operation.

If a man has a circumcision as an adult, the head of his cock can be extremely over sensitive and uncomfortable for a while afterwards and it takes a while to acclimatise.

I don’t understand why you say “Surely a condom can’t stay on once an erection has passed”. What’s that got to do with anything? It doesn’t need to stay on after he’s finished wanking.

Are you suggesting people should tell their partner every time they masturbate in private?!

Nobody’s saying it’s ‘the be all and end all’. They’re just saying that it’s normal to have a sex drive.

He doesn’t need condoms and lube for any other reason than sex. It’s that simple. Men don’t go to that much effort to have a wank.

The OP says he recently had to have a circumcision. Condoms and lube for masturbation are often recommended for dealing with the hypersensitivity/discomfort that can happen after that procedure.

No! The responses to me suggested some people think it’s fine for the DH to cheat because OP doesn’t want sex. Although tbh the thread is difficult to follow. Perhaps I am losing track.

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So sorry. what an prick. kick him out. there is no explanation tothis

To be honest yesterday we needed bits for the house. We went to b and Q.
I needed a wee there was a customer loo.when I went behind the door there were 3.an odd man was wandering around I didn't feel safe so came back to the car to tell dh I was walking to M and s.
He got really huffy chucked to large picture we bought in the boot got up too quick and banged his head.😂
This is the behavior that gets me and makes me want to leave tbh.

You don’t like him.

You object to him having a wank.

You don’t want to share a bedroom.

You don’t want to have sex with him.

Why are you with him then?

love, there is nothing for you in that relationship, that is clear

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