My mum hates that I buy cheap clothes

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She used to like me in NEXT classy clothes but now my taste has changed; I now like vinted, charity shop clothes and Primark. She screams at me saying how classy I was back in the day, but I like what I like. I never look tarty, but I just have my own vintage style! She hates me wearing used/previously worn clothes, but that's me! I'm 54! Who's right?

You are 54 and allowing your mother to abuse you still? You know shes in the wrong. You know this.

Nobody who screams at you is going to have an opinion worth listening to.

You’re 54 and your mum still judges you? Of course she’s wrong - wear what the fuck you want

I love charity shops and my hubby and kids pretty much wear whatever I get. Branded names for bargains and very often in one near me they still have tags on. Only new stuff is underwear,socks other than that I love them

I'd describe Next as middle of the road, safe clothing rather than 'classy' so I'd disagree with your mum on that for a start.

But I'm 51 and I can't imagine anyone telling me how to dress or giving a second's thought to their opinion of it.

And that is the real issue here. Not your mum's taste in (dull) clothing but the fact you are asking if she is right to think she has any say in how you dress at 50fucking4!

It doesn't really make sense because not everything from Next will be classy & just because something is second hand doesn't mean it isn't classy.

Why on earth are you letting someone scream at you? Sounds like much bigger issues than clothes. You’re 54, wear whatever the heck you want!!!!!! Show her this thread. She’s abusive if she’s screaming at you.

What do you mean by " never look tarty"?

Odd that you give any thought to your mother criticising your clothes.

I suspect this is another one (of many!) of those AI generated posts.

NEXT classy clothes 😁

She thinks Next is classy, and screams at you. Hmmmm. Wear what you like, look as ‘tarty’ as you like, lol, and don’t listen to her. If she is real she is also batshit..

Make yourself far less available to your mother going forward.

You would not tolerate this from a friend, so why are you tolerating this at all from her?. Are you mired in a fear, obligation and guilt states when it comes to your mother?.

Either you are shockingly exaggerating (likely)

or

Your mother is unhinged (also likely)

probably both apply

Let me guess…. You’re her carer and you live with her?

I disagree with your mum about vintage, second hand or whatever you call clothes with a previous owner. Indeed quite the opposite, good on you for doing so.

However I am with her about Primark, not that I would express my view in quite the same way.

Nothing classy about Next. And nothing wrong with buying your clothes wherever the hell you like!

Oh, I knew it was this OP.

Living with the abusive mother who screams at her all the time

Tell her she’s entitled to her opinion, but next time she voices it you will suffocate her with an unwashed Vinted purchase.

“Mum I love you but the next time you comment on my clothes I’m going to walk out. If you can’t be civil keep your mouth closed please “

and mean it…

I get jumble sale vibes from NEXT. Their jumpers often look like bad charity shop ones that I would never buy from an actual charity shop( and I absolutely love a charity shop mooch).

For those who say Next isn't classy, what shops do you think are classy? Surely Next is more upmarket than the supermarkets, new look , shein etc?

Hobbs, White Company, LK Bennet, John Lewis, Anthropologie, Oliver Bonas, Boden, And Other Stories, Uniqlo.

Next is awful.

They were fairly classy and good quality 25 years ago.

She screams at you?

Feel quite chuffed with myself now, never knew I was obviously classy as fuck😂

You’re 54 and you think your mother might be in the right? Are you joking?