Met a man OLD

[confuseddater12]

He said ‘let’s keep things open for now’

What does this mean?

It means he wants to date other people, I would throw him back tbh.

He wants to have sex with other women while keeping you as a back up plan.

OLD dating full of this sort. Unless you just want casual hook ups I’d throw him back into the pond

So he’s just looking for sex?

I think he’s a very lovely guy and don’t fancy him lots but because he seems nice I thought I’d get to know him

I don’t mean to sound arrogant but I am extremely attractive compared to him…the thought of him keeping me as a back up is laughable

He’s either not looking for a committed relationship, or he doesn’t like you enough to commit to you. Very common with online dating. If you’re hoping for a relationship you’re wasting your time

He knows you're not 'it' for him.
But you're good enough to pass the time with and have sex with.
Block delete and move on

Welcome to OLD 😆

I think you have to decide if that works for you or not, if you’re not 100% how much you fancy him anyway then maybe it does work to carry on chatting/meeting up with others and see what happens?

I personally was happy to chat to and meet up with more than one person at once in the very early stages like 1 or 2 dates but decided I didn’t want to be doing anything physical anyone who was also doing it with someone else, and didn’t want to even be snogging more than one person at once.

I don’t mean to sound arrogant but I am extremely attractive compared to him…the thought of him keeping me as a back up is laughable.

He probably thinks he’s god’s gift and is doing you a favour 🙄

No actually he said he can’t believe someone like me even started talking to him

Men are so confusing to me

OLD is full of deluded men punching above their weight thinking they’re doing you a favour.

Most women I know who have tried OLD have experienced it when they’ve given a very average bloke a chance and he’s acted like he’s the sexier brother of Brad Pitt in his prime.

Deluded male entitlement is strong

On a positive note, I met my husband OLD. Lovely man, would t swap him, not even for Geirge Clooney.

He’s been on the dating apps for years

not a good sign he’s after something serious right?

This is horrible

If he wants to keep it open, he wants to just date, see other people, no commitments. If that's not what you're looking for, I'd just move on.

I don’t mean to sound arrogant but I am extremely attractive compared to him…the thought of him keeping me as a back up is laughable

That you Samantha?

Maybe he thinks you're too arrogant for girlfriend material but he'll consider a shag.

Oh in that case def ditch him , he's a serial shagger

I wanted to get to know him and date him
it’s only been two dates
I’m not asking for a committed relationship yet
but open just threw me

He's telling you quite clearly that he's not willing to offer a committed anything.

He said ‘for now’ tho 😳

i usually take people at their word and find this all so confusing

im also new to OLD

Yes I think I’ll throw this one back as you all suggest

why is it such a minefield

Oh gosh, you're not Carrie from Sex and the City are you?

Def throw him back. He's been on dating sites for years for a reason.

It’s a steep learning curve but I’d say be very wary taking anyone on OLD at face value.

Yes there are genuine men on there but there’s a whole swamp of liars, cheats, ghosts and bullshitters to wade through to find that one well hidden gem.

This is so so common on OLD
I'm very clear from the beginning I am looking for a relationship eventually..
infact, I put it on my profile.
I still get men who want to
'Go with the flow' 🤢

Plenty more fish in the sea!!!

Is it a bad sign if someone has been OLD for 2 years? Recently went on a date with someone who was open about this and said he'd had positive experiences. I didn't think much into it at the time...

keep things open and go with the flow are code for casual sex then??

because I’m looking for a relationship yet want to take things slow etc so going with flow and keeping things open to me is actually ok

but it seems these phrases mean just sex to men?

I’m very clear in my profile I’m not interested in hook ups, ONS or FWB and yet still get numerous ‘I know you said you’re not looking for casual but……’

Or with the literacy levels of many in OLD more like ‘I no ur not lookin 4’