Where can I find my Friend with Benefits or Hookups

[LookinforSomething]

Hi All

Been a lurker for a while here on mumsnet.

I am about 5 years divorced with a 11 year old child. My ex looks after our daughter for a week and then me.

I know this may sound bad but i want to explore intimacy again, my time with my husnad in the marriage was boring as hell.... the best thing was our child but i feel i have really missed out.

I did a search on these forums and i keep seeing the webiste fab being mentioned for FWB search. However what website is this, a google search brings up fabdating.com, fabhookups.com. I think some people take about fabswingers, is that a different site to the other two?

Any other websites you lovely people can recommend?

Xxxxx

Probably better to ask in the Sex topic.

If you find out, let me know please. 👀

As a new user think i have to wait a while before being allowed to post in the Sex forum, can't even see it listed, i saw a previous post by someone on finding FWB in the relationship section so thought it was okay here too :)

Whilst I’ve never used these sites you’ll probably only find bots, scammers and weirdos on some of the sites out there unless you’re willing to pay for premium sites like adult friend finder.

Feeld maybe for that kind of thing?

People likely mean Fabswingers

If you do go into Fab put your message filters at the very highest settings and find profiles that you like the look of and message them.

If you don't you'll get flooded with messages

Www.fabswinger.com is a swingers website, where people set up profiles and advertise their availability for recreational sex.

For your safety: don't give out too much personal information or your phone number. Meet for a coffee in a public space. All of the usual on line safety safeguards apply. Be wary of people seeking affair partners. Be cautious of your safety.

I use Tinder, it's rubbish, full of bots and scammers. I rarely meet anyone from it. I occasionally chat.

Plenty of fish is another app.

Surely it’s easier and safer to find someone in real life?

If you start the right kind of conversation, you’ll soon find out if they are interested or not.

Hinge is another app, I Havnt use it, so can't comment.

What would be the right kind of conversation to have with a stranger.?

I’m on fab swingers….just on there to hook up with single guys. Not into swinging, not into clubs. I’ve met a handful of men in the 3 years I’ve been in and had a fwb for 8 months. You need a thick skin on it…98% of the men are vile and the things they say to you are beyond anything. There are some sound men on there, just have to have strong boundaries

I feel like pretty much any dating app would be fine for this?

Well she won’t be able to will she….god forbid a woman can have recreational sex without being shamed!

i find uk free dating good for casual stuff

Thankyou

do you mean https://www.freedating.co.uk/

My fwb is the same gender as me (variety is the spice of life after all) but I met her off here.
I'd never use a dating site I couldn't be bothered with all the notifications 😂

Do you work? Why do t you ask one of your colleagues for sex I'm sure they'd be happy to oblige

Feeld - put you're there for hookups only. Tinder put short term only.
Fab Swingers tends to being out the seedy married men.
Facebook dating. Had some fun with younger men if that's your sort of thing.

Tbf, any general dating site gets used for casual hookups too, so you don't need to go to specialist websites that may contain an even higher percentage of dodgy people. Just click on the option that's for you about what you're looking for. It might say 'dating only', or 'not looking for a relationship'. You can usually tell when meeting someone if they are players or 'not in the right place for a relationship', which are probably useful types for you.

Lol, I had a guy message me on pof to say that "he doesn't do relationships and looking for enjoyment". I thought " good for you, that's honest, not that I was asking". Probably just both swiped right. Glad he was up front about it though. I think pof might be good to try, plenty of guys willing to be casual on there.

Fabswingers is great for casual hookups, although I ended up meeting my husband on there,(we weren't looking for anything serious!) but you do have to sort through a lot of trash! my previous fwb was from Tinder.

I would try Feeld over Fab. Fab is generally full of married men saying that they aren't. You will get bombarded by messages on Fab. Feeld is more like Bumble/Tinder.

Hi what is pof?

Yep that’s the one, takes a bit of filtering but had some fun x