OnlyFans- am I dumb!

[Atari5000]

I know the answer to this but just for some clarity when we have the conversation later….

I found messages this morning to other women on Only Fans on my partners phone. It was next to me on charge whilst I was feeding our daughter breakfast when a notification flashed up from a girl on OF. I opened it up and had a look through, he’s had the account since the beginning of the year so it seems but when I said about it he said it was for research purposes ‘I was seeing if the messages were automated or if people are actually sat there’
Whilst I am asleep 6 months pregnant in bed he has been ‘researching’. Baring in mind he has subscribed to some pages, some free and some paid. He will sit up until stupid o clock on his phone so now I think he has probably been deleting messages each day with different girls!
We have had a very tricky year or so, but I thought we were trying to work our way through problems etc.
Anyway what would your response be to it being ‘research’?

Anyway what would your response be to it being ‘research’?

Laugh.

I'd most likely end the relationship.

Tell him you’ve been researching divorce lawyers.

The disrespect is unreal. Cheating on only fans and then assuming you'll believe that absolute swill.

This.

Tell him to get to fuck. He's not trying to work through anything. He's a wanker.

I'd start researching hot men.

Exact same thing happened to me when I was 6 months pregnant but wasn't only fans as this nearly 20 years ago, but it was online hook ups. exact same response- researching. lol. I stayed. I won't tell you what I'm doing now due to resentment...it's not a good look.

Well, there’s an interesting article somewhere that says men are being badly ripped off by the girls they’re chatting to outsourcing the chat to random men, but… unless he was the journalist, it’s a bollocks excuse. Does he think you were born yesterday?

That’d be unforgivable for me.

Why would he need to ‘research’ this when he’s in a committed relationship?
Also although he thinks he’s talking to a woman, he’s probably talking to a 28 year old man- a lot of the chats are ran by ‘assistants’. If it makes you feel a bit better. But yeah get rid of him- what has he bought for you lately considering he’s spending money on this rubbish?

Research.... 🤦🏻‍♀️

Literally!

Research? Is he an investigative journalist or a top sociologist or anything on a par with those professions. Or maybe he's found Jesus and wants to save fallen women.

Do you even have to ask the question OP. He's making a right bloody fool out of you and you know what the answer is, he's a total wanker who doesn't give two fucks.

Research.......and how many boxes of tissues have you gone through?

Like another person said. Start researching divorce lawyers. Your H is a piece of shit.

To tell you it's just research is so incredibly insulting. Does he think you're completely stupid?

Research how to get rid of your cheating low life boyfriend.

“Research” my arse. What a feeble excuse.

Research? Now that's funny. He must think you are beyond gullible to say that.

Best post on the thread and the only way to go about this op. Research my arse, it would be funny if it wasn't someone's life he was screwing with. Maybe you should start researching tinder for men and seeing if it's bots or real guys?

Sorry I should have stated his research was for

‘Trying to find a way of monetising a podcast. I have also been wondering about the whole platform to see what the crack was, I guess you can broadcast but not have an automated chat’

I absolutely didn’t need to ask the question as I am not dumb enough to believe the answer I have been given, it’s more my own research to show how dumb his answer is x

That's a no from me.

Now I’m laughing even harder.

@Atari5000 I’ve done the podcast stuff for my own business. It’s so different from OF that it’s like comparing I don’t know a kitten and a volcano.

Im not sure how he managed to say that with a straight face and think you’d believe that.

I actually laughed when I read it in the OP. It's ridiculous.

Did you know that a lot of men use telegram and kik and chatiw as its all anonymous chat forms.

news to no one most men on there are married or with a partner.
And the sites are not just for friendly chats.

Brilliant!

Sorry OP, but that's the only way to go about this. Hope you're okay!